by WheelyFixed » Tue Sep 30, 2025 7:06 am
Godson wrote: Tue Sep 30, 2025 5:55 am
Of course. Blaming the victim. Awesome accountability.
Ever think that there are eunuchs here searching for community and conversations, who *don’t* align with extremely deviant sex roles, fetish, extreme bme, sadism/masochism, forced violence, psychological coercion, mental health issues, and borderline pedophelia barely disguised as “art,” or any other manner of themes that seem to be normalized and accepted here?
It’s like being on a trans forum and every conversation that’s about sex work is ok but expectations of conversations that are serious or within the context of “normalcy” are rebuked, sidelined, and “don’t fit.”
Maybe it’s time for a forum that’s for “2.0 eunuchs” - ones who lives are free from dysfunction and drama and intend to stay that way…
I am not in any way blaming you, and definitely want to make sure that those that don't respect boundaries ARE held accountable! (Personally I'm probably closer to you in my feelings about what I personally feel comfortable with than many of the kinkier sorts....)
However it is a regrettable fact that there are differences in what people set as boundaries. So I feel that before complaining about someone not respecting a boundary, it is the responsibility of the complainer to make sure the boundary is known....
I also have been told by many that the chat forum in particular is a place where many like to express their fantasies, which they may very well not ever want to actually experience in real life.... This isn't to my taste, so I generally don't spend any time in the Chatroom other than to check on reported technical issues.
As moderator, I will not allow discussion involving acts where all involved are not consenting adult participants (and can't really do much more than deleting a post or banning a user) but otherwise my policy is "Judge not, lest ye be judged" I also feel that I have an obligation as moderator to respond in an effort at 'harm reduction' - which means in essence that I can't condemn a problematic post out of hand, but more on the order of "Enjoy yourself, but do it safely"
If a given conversation offends, simply ignore it or don't participate...
Serious topics and discussion are definitely welcome, and I encourage them, but I also urge tolerance of those with other views...
WheelyFixed
[quote=Godson post_id=3489 time=1759175746 user_id=901]
Of course. Blaming the victim. Awesome accountability.
Ever think that there are eunuchs here searching for community and conversations, who *don’t* align with extremely deviant sex roles, fetish, extreme bme, sadism/masochism, forced violence, psychological coercion, mental health issues, and borderline pedophelia barely disguised as “art,” or any other manner of themes that seem to be normalized and accepted here?
It’s like being on a trans forum and every conversation that’s about sex work is ok but expectations of conversations that are serious or within the context of “normalcy” are rebuked, sidelined, and “don’t fit.”
Maybe it’s time for a forum that’s for “2.0 eunuchs” - ones who lives are free from dysfunction and drama and intend to stay that way…
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I am not in any way blaming you, and definitely want to make sure that those that don't respect boundaries ARE held accountable! (Personally I'm probably closer to you in my feelings about what I personally feel comfortable with than many of the kinkier sorts....)
However it is a regrettable fact that there are differences in what people set as boundaries. So I feel that before complaining about someone not respecting a boundary, it is the responsibility of the complainer to make sure the boundary is known....
I also have been told by many that the chat forum in particular is a place where many like to express their fantasies, which they may very well not ever want to actually experience in real life.... This isn't to my taste, so I generally don't spend any time in the Chatroom other than to check on reported technical issues.
As moderator, I will not allow discussion involving acts where all involved are not consenting adult participants (and can't really do much more than deleting a post or banning a user) but otherwise my policy is "Judge not, lest ye be judged" I also feel that I have an obligation as moderator to respond in an effort at 'harm reduction' - which means in essence that I can't condemn a problematic post out of hand, but more on the order of "Enjoy yourself, but do it safely"
If a given conversation offends, simply ignore it or don't participate...
Serious topics and discussion are definitely welcome, and I encourage them, but I also urge tolerance of those with other views...
WheelyFixed