New here - anyone here of Selective Dorsal Neurectomy

[freeloader]

Hi All,

I would love to go smooth, but I know my relationship of 18 years would be over.
So, I am trying to find a doctor that will cut open the penis and burn out all the nerve endings.
This is a dorsal neurectomy.

The goal is to make the penis worthless, no sensation to touch, and no demand for erections.

While this does not solve the testicle removal, I think it solves one of my immediate needs to kill the penis.

Anyone know a doctor that does this state-side? Any advice?
Like I said, if I cut it off like I want to, my relationship would be over.

[WheelyFixed]

Welcome to the forums, I'm glad you are here...

While the dorsal neurectomy (also sometimes referred to as neurotomy) procedure is occasionally mentioned in the fiction area, I've seen VERY few instances of it being mentioned among members as something they've had done. In part I think it is because you are probably going to find extremely few doctors that would be willing to even discuss the procedure, let alone perform it, absent a definite medical reason. It is tough enough to get just castration and penectomies even given the support of the WPATH SOCv8. Dorsal neurectomy isn't even mentioned in the SOC....

I wonder more about why you think it would end your relationship? If you've been with someone for 18 years, presumably you see something in each other that makes you want to stay together... Have you talked with your partner about this at all? It would seem to me that if what you do together involves doing things with your bits e might not want to see them gone, but if e doesn't, then does it really matter? If e does play with them, don't you think e'd be unhappy if you had an operation that made them non responsive? Others may feel differently but I feel like things in this area need to be shared with partners, not kept secret...

I know that when I first started on this journey, the first person I told was my late GF, and much of it was asking her if she would be OK with it if I did. She was very much not expecting this, and was far from thrilled by the idea. She couldn't understand why I'd want to do such a thing, and I don't think she ever did, but her response was that it was my body and her only demand was that I do it in a safe way under proper medical care....

It took a lot of nerve to work up the courage for the conversation, but I knew I couldn't (and shouldn't) keep it secret and if I couldn't share this with the love of my life, how was I ever going to get the courage to talk to anyone else about it?

WheelyFixed

[T van Keel]

Hi,

As has already been said, I would talk to your partner about it. Either your partner comes to understand your wishes, or—if your relationship relies primarily on your penis—they aren't the right partner for you.

Speaking from personal experience, I wouldn't put my own needs aside to the extent you are considering doing for your partner's sake. If becoming a nullo is a deeply felt desire of yours, I wouldn't deny that wish. Relationships can change over time, but you have to be happy with your body every single day. That is why I wouldn't necessarily prioritize preserving a relationship over a desire like that.

For me, nullification was such a wonderful, profound, and—in a positive sense—life-changing experience; it was worth every bit of the effort. I can't imagine having been able to forgo it, no matter the reason.

TvK

[Neutrum260725]

I completely agree with T van Keel. You have to live with your decision for the rest of your life, and no one can predict how your life will turn out. So, make the decision for *yourself*, not for others. If your partner can't come to terms with your decision, then he doesn't seem to be the right one for you.
I’m a "Nullo" myself and made that decision for *myself*. Since I’m single, it was relatively easy, but I wouldn't have given it up for the sake of someone else. That said, I had my own reasons for it. You should decide based solely on what *you* want and what is best for *you*.