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Having been married to a Eunuch for over 30 years, I guess I can speak from experience. My hubby has been a Eunuch for over 20 of those years, and has handled it very well. Weight nor depression have never been a problem, but he is very reclusive. Not a people person. He is however quite open about being a Eunuch not to say he adverises the fact, but not ashamed to discuss it openly with others. We both have found that no two Eunuchs are alike, but frankly, everyone is different in her or his way.

kizahakan (imported) wrote: Thu Jun 11, 2009 9:53 pm But what is goin on here? How many Yoli's are there? Has our lovely Dr Jeykll n Hyde story came true at last?

Oooo my Gush

Greetings to both from istanbul one the mighty constantinople

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P.S: Im a kid from Muppet Show era still in his early thirties

Well, one can be sweet-natured AND naughty at the same time or at different times.

To paraphrase a line from an old Lon Chaney Jr "Werewolf" movie (Dad has ALL the old B&W creepy flicks in his collection,)...

"Even a girl who is pure of heart and says her prayers by night,

May become quite naughty when the "Sale" ads bloom and the moon is full and bright."

Of course, when the peepees bloom...never mind.

Yoli

Naughty side currently dormant...But there's always another moon.

FianceeUvBigGuy (imported) wrote: Fri Jun 12, 2009 10:03 pm Well, one can be sweet-natured AND naughty at the same time or at different times.

To paraphrase a line from an old Lon Chaney Jr "Werewolf" movie (Dad has ALL the old B&W creepy flicks in his collection,)...

"Even a girl who is pure of heart and says her prayers by night,

May become quite naughty when the "Sale" ads bloom and the moon is full and bright."

Of course, when the peepees bloom...never mind.

Yoli

Naughty side currently dormant...But there's always another moon.

will start to count for the fullmoons, oohh GUSH again the old war between the werewolfs and the wampires

Since its spring and eveything is bloomin, fellas watch out urselves on the fullmoon

kizahakan (imported) wrote: Thu Jun 11, 2009 9:53 pm ----------------------------------------------------------------

Decided to be Dorian Gray this time and hell ya Im Dorian Gray at least by heart

Hi B.J.: I think that you are a wonderful lady and I admire your husband and his courage. Class acts, both of you. I hope that I can be half as courageous as your husband. Thanks for your message and example. Love, Donny

Donny welcome , and by all means you are under no obligation to explain how you ended up loosing your testicles, that is your business..Confronting such a life changing event is difficult, but you seem to have a good presence of mind about this.

We learn from our past, which is useless knowledge unless we use it for some purpose for a better future.

Regardless of why someone is a eunuch the important part is, now what?

If it is something you wanted, then now what?

If it is something you did not want, then now what?

It's not like you lose both legs, two arms, or went blind.

There is a lot anyone can do after becoming a eunuch, by choice, or not.

Well, if it was a physical castration you can't become a DNA dad, but if you want to get married you can still marry and adopt. LOADS of women out there who don't enjoy sex and either don't want kids, or are more than willing to adopt.

Life is full of a lot of problematic complexities when dealing with a full fledged raging libido. Being free from that really is a blessing. Society doesn't think so because society doesn't have the opportunity to experience such freedom.

This may seem hard to accept, but whether your condition was by choice, or not, .............oh, I shouldn't say it this way.........but I will......... you have to live life with a little sense or humor...........

Take the ball and run with it.

Meaning do not focus on what you have lost.

Focus on what you want out of life;

just exclude from your want list those things that are physically impossible.

Be realistic in your wants.

Be thankful you don't live in some impoverished place in Africa and got aids as a baby from your mother. It's never so bad it can't get worse.

Enjoy just how good it is now.

FianceeUvBigGuy (imported) wrote: Fri Jun 12, 2009 10:03 pm Well, one can be sweet-natured AND naughty at the same time or at different times.

To paraphrase a line from an old Lon Chaney Jr "Werewolf" movie (Dad has ALL the old B&W creepy flicks in his collection,)...

"Even a girl who is pure of heart and says her prayers by night,

May become quite naughty when the "Sale" ads bloom and the moon is full and bright."

Of course, when the peepees bloom...never mind.

Yoli

Naughty side currently dormant...But there's always another moon.

I met Curt Siodmak whose lines are paraphrased above. In his last years he lived between Visalia and Sequoia National Park up the South Fork outside down town Three Rivers . One of the talented German Jews but there were also German Germans like Marlena D. and Curt J. who fled the Nazis for work in Hollywood. In his last years he was invited by the German Government Arts blah blah to come and be honored. He framed that letter in a double frame next to the letter from the Nazi government inviting him to leave Deutschland. His home had such Hollywood memorabilia as to be a museum with a live in historian. That whole generation is gone.

These people worked on deep insightful scripts. Not just popular pandering to violence, sex and drugs as it was not permitted then.

The Wolfman was not a simple two dimensional skit. There are layers to it and the observer can go as deep as he may. Today it would be a simple two dimensional skit with CGI special effects to turn a buck. Don't want to make the audience, think. <the horror> <the horror>

OMG was I off topic or what ! ?

Neither, Curt Siodmak nor The Wolfman were Eunuchs.

Okay, On topic, maybe, sort of, <forgiven?>

Anytime you want to get off, do it; never miss an opportunity to take advantage of getting off.

donny collins (imported) wrote: Fri Jun 12, 2009 8:40 am Hi Guys: Thanks so much for answering my messages and for your kindness. It IS like family here and I am real greatful. I don't know a thing about my condition (except a little I read in a single book) and I didn't understand that so hot. I get a little upset with people laughing at my situation like I wanted this to happen and it is all fun. Some folks do a lot of fantasizing about being castrated and I can't understand that. I don't criticize these folks but i just don't understand it. There is one thing and I got to tell you right off ... I am greatful I found this family. I already feel at home. It is VERY hard for me to talk about what happened to me so I hope that you will be patient with me? It seems like I am still adjusting to the whole thing and it is real hard. Thanks for understanding and I will be participating on this site regular. Thanks again. Donny Collins

My apologizes for sounding the least bit negative. But we have seen so many trolls and just plain liars on this board, we tend to be suspicious when over some claims.

Hey, ive been chemically castrated 4 months ago, does that make me a eunuch ? Have to say i do feel good.

Hey: Thanks for writing back. No problem fella. Hope I dont look like no "troll." Im not so sure I know what that is but I hope I dont like like one. Being here with you guys and feeling that I am with family is very good and comforting. Trust me guys, this is no fantasy (at first it wa like a night mare but it is getting better). Thanks again. Donny

Donny

Glad to meet you and feel welcome

There are a lot of helpful info that will be of great help to you on your new path

We are here to help you good luck

nullorchis (imported) wrote: Sat Jun 13, 2009 9:34 pm Anytime you want to get off, do it; never miss an opportunity to take advantage of getting off.

Now that is really good advice.

gotta go get off now

:p

You can still live a normal life, changes do take place and you should not let people get to you.

It can be difficult when others give you a hard time about something you did.

Here I would freely talk about your feelings and what happend even though it is difficult.

You could also get Pregnenolone tablets or cream online, I would also use 25-50 mg of DHEA as our bodys do need some type of hormone replacement.

This happens to other younger guys due to various medical conditions and or injury. You are not alone.

Keep your head up bro.....

donny collins (imported) wrote: Fri Jun 12, 2009 6:26 am Hi: I'm real new to this site and I'm trying to find out about life as a eunuch. I'm 19 years old and was castrated last december. I guess I am still in shock but it is all hard to understand. As I wrote in my profile, I'm confused and scared. I don't fit many of the discriptions noted in the thread. I am average size, not many physical reactions to what was done to me except for some hot flashes. I am confused about my sexuality now (what the hell am I?) and I'm embarassed (my brothers ridicule me for losing my balls) but I am determined to fit in. This site is great because it provides people like me a chance to fit in somewherre and get to know folks like me. Thanks for giving this a read. Your new friend, Donny Collins

(at first it was

donny collins (imported) wrote: Sun Jun 14, 2009 7:50 pm like a night mare but it is getting better).

That reads like a golden ray of optimism. I reckon you're a tough cookie and you won't be beaten by adverse circumstances. Good luck to you Donny.

donny collins (imported) wrote: Fri Jun 12, 2009 6:26 am I am confused about my sexuality now (what the hell am I?) and I'm embarassed (my brothers ridicule me for losing my balls) but I am determined to fit in.

The most important sex organ on the human body is the one between the ears. Your brain tells you whether you are male, female, or other. Your brain tells you whether you are gay, straight, or other. Usually the body coincides with what your brain is telling you, but it often doesn't. I hope that you have a good counselor who is helping you with your questions. It won't be easy, but you will become comfortable with yourself again.

Hi Nullorchis: I read and re-read your message many times and it's pretty profound. You're right that when something like this happens a person should finally get to thinking: "Now what?" Whats happened ... happened." It is time to move on and continue living the best you ccan. In my case I am seeing my doctor and looking into hormone treatments ... when I begin to understand what seems like gibberish to me I will ask our family for help and advice. I have found many, many friends here and believe it or not guys, I feel a hell of a lot braver than I did when I found this site. Thanks again brothers. Luv ya all, Donny

It's great to see that you are starting to heal some what but a positive attitude is the first step

Keep up the good work

donny collins (imported) wrote: Tue Jun 16, 2009 6:19 pm Hi Nullorchis: I read and re-read your message many times and it's pretty profound. You're right that when something like this happens a person should finally get to thinking: "Now what?" Whats happened ... happened." It is time to move on and continue living the best you ccan. In my case I am seeing my doctor and looking into hormone treatments ... when I begin to understand what seems like gibberish to me I will ask our family for help and advice. I have found many, many friends here and believe it or not guys, I feel a hell of a lot braver than I did when I found this site. Thanks again brothers. Luv ya all, Donny

Welcome to the group. You will find a lot of understanding here and you won't be alone. It sounds like what happened to you was both unexpected and unwelcome and you have all my sympathy if that was the case. No one will laugh at you here.

However your life must go on and there is a lot of information aroung this site on how to deal with the loss of your testicles. You need professional advice and support from a specialist who deals with this area and can put together some form of testosterone treatment to replace your natural production. From what little bit I know about it, it takes a while to get it right and professional help is a must.

You are not alone in your loss. Orchiectomy (technical term for removal of the testicles) is a surgical proceedure done for a number of reasons including cancer, injury, torsion (twisting that cut off the blood supply), infection etc.

I hope your doctor is sympathetic and taking this professionally. Don't be shy about switching if you feel that your guy isn't right for you. You may have to see a Urologist to get started but you really will need an Endocrinologist who specialises in the HRT (hormone replacement therapy) area to set up and monitor a proper regime that suits you. With this you should be able to have a reasonable sex life (to me this is very important) if that is what you want.

Also you may be able to get silicone implants and scrotum reconstruction to maintain appearances if this is important to you.

I an not a eunuch but for a long time I was a wannabe and can't help you much more in terms of detailed advice. You are in the right place for this discussion and are contacting the right people. If you want to do it in private look at using the Messaging system (see top right corner on the page) to talk directly to any of the people here. By now you will have feel for the serious people here and I don't know of any you can't trust to keep private anything you tell them in confidence.

One last word. You are not alone and it is a great place to come for help and sympathetic advice particularly if you start feeling too depressed about it all, it really helps to talk things out and you can do that here. Rest assured, no one in this community will laugh at you or ridicule you in any way. It is a very broadminded and supportive group when someone asks for help

My best wishes to you.