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respect isnt a given - its earned - and a two way street....

*that statement is poised for the individuals and not the overall site...

rclinftl (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 23, 2009 4:47 am respect isnt a given - its earned - and a two way street....

*that statement is poised for the individuals and not the overall site...

Well things work a little differently here....

Here it is respect that is given, and reputation which is earned. You came here to learn something about this community. When you chose to disrespect one of the members, you earned something. We don't tolerate that. Had I seen some of your earlier posts, I would not have bothered to respond to your thread.

thats right I did - but I didnt come for my motives to be judged by individuals whom know nothing about me - nor have they obviously cared about the sincere post that I made over and over again to clarify my intentions - I can live with a tarnished reputation - no problem with my growing chain of red stars - but its very apparent I am not alone in the need to learn and grow... like I said previously if you all didnt want outsiders here inquiring about the lifestyle then maybe it should be a closed community - and if you didnt want outsiders here that are interested in sexual matters as well as the others such as health ect - then maybe you need to eliminate those options from the categories and eliminate those options from the profiles - otherwise maybe the approach of hostility and contempt isnt necesarily the most idealistic approach...

I have been attacked here in this thread countless times - I have refuted those attacks with sincere and sensible answers that can not be discredited so each time they come up with a new angle in which to attack - has anyone noticed that not one of my answers has been discredited so its some new angle for attack each time?

I'm not here to win a popularity contest - and MAYBE just MAYBE after seeing all my post it will dawn on you all that I am not here to try to solicite sexual playdates - if so then why would I risk that venture A SECOND TIME by engaging in this unpopular conversation? umm yeah - it is CRYSTAL CLEAR that my purpose here isnt to land a quickie....

*grabs some popcorn and awaits for the next angle of reproach-

ummm - jemagirl you edited your last post - but obviously didnt read my responses clearly - I made no indication to charlenebrown - my post was directed at both chilli and riverwind whom both got quite judgemental - and riverwind even resorted to name calling... a real class act

*note - I have eliminated my avatar by request - because it was requested respectfully - certainly not because of the chilli or riverwind post

ummm -

rclinftl (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 23, 2009 5:27 am you edited your last post - but obviously didnt read my responses clearly - I made no indication to chaerlenebrown - my post was directed at both chilli and riverwind whom both got quite judgemental - and riverwind even resorted to name calling... a real class act

It doesn't really matter who you were responding to. The content of your post was beyond the pale. That whole respect must be earned BS doesn't belong here either. The nature of the archive is such that anyone can and should expect a modicum of respect. Of course if you are perceived as being disrespectful or insensitive, then you may not get a very warm reception.

By the way, River is a highly respected long time member of this of this community. If you have earned a swat on the ass from him then that should be an indication your behavior is probably offense to a great many people in this community.

rclinftl,

Here's the issue. If you are out there as a Daddy you will attract someone looking for a Daddy. If your are out there as a Top, you will attract a bottom. A master attracts a slave, and so on. That is how it works, and most of the time it really isn't a problem. It's just play, and if it goes too far each person goes their own way a little wiser for the experience.

The problem is the equation does not work the same way in the eunuch community. If you are Master looking for someone who is willing to be your eunuch, then you are going to attract the most vulnerable members of this community, and considering the body mod in question... it could all work out rather badly for everyone involved.

You might be tempted to say "But, we are both mutually consenting adults engaging in a private act" however the problem with that is, how do you know the person opposite of you is playing with a full deck? The answer is you don't. This is a really tricky issue even for qualified therapist, plus you are adding sex to the equation, which could easily compromise your own judgement.

Maybe this is not what was going on with your play date, but many here can attest this problem has happened in the past. So when you encounter a lot of push back, there is a good chance that it is motivated by a desire to protect our most vulnerable community members.

I'm new here, and when I see so many long standing, highly respected members of this caring community find something objectionable (and by the way I agree), then there is something objectionable!

I hope this thread is locked soon, and even deleted, if that is possible!

Freddy

Freddy12 (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 23, 2009 7:02 am I'm new here, and when I see so many long standing, highly respected members of this caring community find something objectionable (and by the way I agree), then there is something objectionable!

I hope this thread is locked soon, and even deleted, if that is possible!

Freddy

No, I disagree, this thread should not be locked, and should never be deleted. Even if you find some of the words here a bit harsh, this and other threads are in fact part of the EA, part of our history and understanding. This thead and a few others like it need to be preserved and remembered, if for nothing else than an example for all us to see what not to do.

rclinftl (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 23, 2009 4:47 am respect isnt a given - its earned - and a two way street....

*that statement is poised for the individuals and not the overall site...

Well, you have earned my disrespect.

There's a saying about enough rope....

Bye bye.

I will admit that criticizing a self proclaimed top for insensitivity is like criticizing a skunk for having B.O. It kind of misses the point. It goes with the territory.

Transward

transward (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 23, 2009 8:33 am I will admit that criticizing a self proclaimed top for insensitivity is like criticizing a skunk for having B.O. It kind of misses the point. It goes with the territory.

Transward

LOL

But at some level there has to be reconciliation to all parties envolved in a relationship i.e.; A happy medium, sensitivity, sincere apology, respectful bondries, morality etc. vs pushing it to far, threatening, self centeredness, mean spirited. I guess it depends on how much shit a person will take off another.

Jema your the bomb!

chilli-

Both times I screwed up,

I did not see the wrong path I was traveling.

My banishment and recent 2 point infraction really, honestly

caught be totally off guard.

I now understand what I did to earn banishment and hope

not to earn it again.

I now understand what I did to earn two infraction points

and hope to earn no more.

I can be trained and thank my trainers.

Hope all are given such opportunity to be trained on offenses.

C'est Moi !