"Energizer (imported) wrote: Tue Oct 06, 2015 8:15 am I've noticed that since I was castrated, my desire for sex is much reduced, even though I am on TRT and my T level is in the normal range. I just don't think about sex very much these days and when I see an attractive woman, I don't have the immediate desire to have sex with her. Even if I momentarily think about it, I quickly dismiss the thought realizing I probably couldn't do anything anyway. My thought then quickly goes to something like "she's really attractive" and the thought of sex isn't that appealing. And like Micdavi24, I look forward to just being with my wife and cuddling. It seems like I have been "tamed," if you know what I mean. I feel great and overall think it is a big improvement for me. However, it's another YMMV situation. Everyone is a little different.
I guess everyone's mileage varies, but we have something similar: when I am off T, sex is just not thought about, and while the cuddle is very good indeed and much enjoyed by both, we have often thought about a Thailand visit for a well-done nullo*. Both find this interesting, and maybe another stage in life's rich variety. She seems to find the idea of cuddling her nullo as attractive as does her husband returning the favor -maybe as a nullo.
With T, we enjoy regular sex, but after many years we find that it is largely something from a stage of life mostly passed. The next stage beckons, but we need the right time.
*We have seen posts and pix and discussed the idea of getting nulled, so we now have a clearer idea of what would be ideal. The testicles have long gone. The penis, all of it, should also be gone, leaving a flat or tight featureless "under" with just a midline scar line and a pee a couple of inches in front of the anus. No erectile anything would be left, just smooth and ideal for a cuddle. Seems that Thailand clinics do this for a reasonable fee, though they advise leisurely recuperating before a flight back to US.
(Don't even think of doing this if either of you need or want anything more than a cuddle!)