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kristoff wrote: Sun Mar 25, 2007 10:04 am It is amazing how one's tastes and interests broaden with age! More and more people are attractive at a wider range of ages, races, weights, etc. You will eventually mellow your "pickiness" - I certainly did. I actually started to like real people and not expect Adonis and perfection of character and personality....

But isn't it (at your age) more an effect of castration rather than age? I have noted that other eunuchs feel that they are more able to get attracted to people without them being particularly "sexy" or even handsome. Once the sex drive and the emotional impact of testosterone subside, personality traits and fellow interests seem to become much more important than looks.

IbPervert (imported) wrote: Sat Mar 24, 2007 10:00 am I believe that the root of most sex problems is religion, and its thoughts on how to control people! Life will be easier when you fully realize that God loves you period no matter if your good or bad. Also the feelings of Guilt is the difference between a good person and a bad person. Feeling guilty about masturbating and splashing semen all over the place is your parents talking! Its your priest, pastor, or rabbi talking. Its the world telling you "THIS IS HOW YOU SHOULD FEEL!" True feelings of guilt are things like stealing from the store. God sent you hear to learn and experience then report back.

One last thing, If you want to get rid of the nuts wrap them in hamburger then call in a pit bull!









ibpervert

U not B pervert.

U B WISE......but chopped steak works better than hamburger... large wild cats like tigers & such work better than pit bulls...

TheWannabe (imported) wrote: Sun Mar 25, 2007 9:40 am The Old Man: You have no idea how badly I would like to have or have had a girl friend (as in just a buddy). It's always been a dream of mine. Never happened.

And the thing about 50/50 sub/dom is absolutely not some sort of requirement. I would GLADLY accept a 100% submissive or 100% dominant girlfriend. But it's not happening.

I draw the line where I don't feel attracted to a girl. Maybe I'm being picky, but what the hell? I can't be together with a girl who I am not attracted to, can I? Many girls actually turn me off just by their terrible looks.

It should be noted that I have tried hitting on those as well. No luck.

Get rid of your libido as I suggested, so you won't be confused by lust. Then try talking to women, not as sex objects, but as people. You think men have it hard. Think about the women your age. They have poorer judgement about picking a man than thirteen year old girls do, as you can easily see if you look at who they date.

I suspect that part of your problem is that you haven't had enough female friends in your life. I have been blessed with two long-term (25-50 years) female friends who are much closer than any of my male friends. Don't forget that you need to be a good listener, not just ask questions, and listening isn't always easy. Hearing a friend describe being raped isn't easy. Neither is hearing about what has caused a divorce.

Note that close friends of the opposite sex are usually harder to find than girl friends or wives. I might have been able to turn either relationship into a sexual one, but I considered both far more valuable as friends than they would have been as lovers.

Another warning. Others are right to say that things will get easier for you, but you can't wait forever. Men rarely make new friends after age 35, and finding a new wife during in your fourties doesn't usually work out as well as hoped.

Eunuchist (imported) wrote: Sun Mar 25, 2007 7:37 pm But isn't it (at your age) more an effect of castration rather than age? I have noted that other eunuchs feel that they are more able to get attracted to people without them being particularly "sexy" or even handsome. Once the sex drive and the emotional impact of testosterone subside, personality traits and fellow interests seem to become much more important than looks.

I restored your post E, because I thought that it was a valid question that merited an answer.

I think that in my case I notice many things that are sexy and sexual despite a Very low Testosterone level. I know a few others in the same boat for other reasons... who seem to have the same experience (I am an eunuch, they are not except for 'practical' experience). I would think that, at least for me, age was the more exacting consideration: growing up, challenge from without, as well as within, the realization that people matter and that 99.9% of them are not Adonis (or Venus, or whatever). Looks ARE important (at least to me, Initially) - anyone can paint a great picture, but it takes an "attractive" one (whatever that may involve) to draw my attention, and a "great" one to keep it. At least to me, Testosterone actually plays a minimal role; its biggest role (or lack) is simply a flacid penis.

First go back and read Paolo's post again, he is right on the money.

At 21 yrs of age, it may seem like you have been alone for ever, trust me you will have different feelings when you hit 25. You are a young man, take your time on this, its not fantasy, its very real and so are the side effects. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't do something you will regret in a couple years.

River

OH, and there is someone for everybody, you just need to look.

Thanks, K.

I was afraid that I was missing your point right after I hit "enter". I am glad that you have found my post relevant, after all. Thanks for sharing!

kristoff wrote: Mon Mar 26, 2007 11:50 am I restored your post E, because I thought that it was a valid question that merited an answer.

I think that in my case I notice many things that are sexy and sexual despite a Very low Testosterone level. I know a few others in the same boat for other reasons... who seem to have the same experience (I am an eunuch, they are not except for 'practical' experience). I would think that, at least for me, age was the more exacting consideration: growing up, challenge from without, as well as within, the realization that people matter and that 99.9% of them are not Adonis (or Venus, or whatever). Looks ARE important (at least to me, Initially) - anyone can paint a great picture, but it takes an "attractive" one (whatever that may involve) to draw my attention, and a "great" one to keep it. At least to me, Testosterone actually plays a minimal role; its biggest role (or lack) is simply a flacid penis.

Listen to these very wise people, most have gone throw castration themselves.

If you feel bad now, you will only feel worse after castration with the depression and believe me its not nice.. I have been on Androcur for about 2 months now. Don't get me wrong, I was not a depressive person at all before starting Androcur, but i have had 2 really bad days of depression sints my T has been lowed by the drug. If you remove the T completely it is most likely going to course you some problems.

So just to echo some over peoples recommendations, start slow and give a drug like Androcur a try first, before surgery.

Good luck with what ever you decide to do.

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