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Re: My life

Posted: Sat Mar 05, 2011 9:56 am
by Danya (imported)
Before leaving the office shortly before noon, I spoke with my young woman friend/mentor whom I work closely with. She's temporarily filling in for my boss who has been out of town for over a week. Without giving her all the details, I wanted to explain my frequent absences this week. I have always liked her and she came through today. She told me not to worry about the office. She reiterated that she knows meetings I run without her are 'in good hands.' She wished me well, too.

The hospital/clinic complex is near downtown Chicago. As I drove there, I was running through some relaxation techniques. Not to the depth I go when I am home, though. These methods are often so effective that I fall asleep before I finish.

By the time I arrived, I was relaxed. After parking the car, I had to walk through several buildings to get to the cardiology center. I continued to think positively as I walked. I want to emphasize that thinking of the caring thoughts from people here really helped.

After filling out the doctor's paperwork, I had a 10-minute wait. This time, I went further with the relaxation routine and was nodding off when the doctor's assistant called my name.

She ran an EKG and, unlike Wednesday, I did not feel at all anxious. When we were done, I sat on the exam table. She laid the EKG traces on the desk as she entered my medications in the computer. I could see from the exam table that the new EKG showed the same 'abnormality' as the first. I was still able to remain calm and, while remaining very hopeful that all would work out, I accepted the possibility that I might need to cancel surgery. I did not dwell on that, though. She later left the room with the EKG results.

When the cardiologist arrived, I liked him immediately. He was gentle and understanding. He proceeded to do a thorough physical exam. When then discussed my family history and my existing medical conditions.

As he got up to leave the room, he asked if I wanted him to fax the results to my surgeon. This surprised me. I asked if this meant he felt it was fine for me to go ahead with surgery. He responded that he needed to take 10 -15 minutes to go over everything. When he returned we would discuss everything. I got the impression, though, that he would sent a positive report to Dr. Brassard.

I was surprised, and glad, that I maintained my cool while waiting for him.

When he got back, he said he did not think there was any cause for concern. He recommended that, in view of my family history, I take the stress echocardiogram test. He was very reassuring and emphasized that this was a precaution. During the physical, he heard no evidence of significant blockage in my carotid or femoral arteries. He added that the EKG abnormality was 'non-specific,' and very likely not a problem.

In 1994, after an alarming stress test EKG, a stress echocardiogram clearly showed I had nothing to be concerned about.

Monday, at 2 PM, I will have this final test. The cardiologist will call me with the results within 24 hours. I feel confident all will be well, with just a little impatience to know that ASAP. :)
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Re: My life

Posted: Sat Mar 05, 2011 10:14 am
by butterflyjack (imported)
It's so good to hear you're well...smooches dragonfly

Re: My life

Posted: Sun Mar 06, 2011 11:28 am
by Danya (imported)
Thanks, Dragonfly. :)

I continue to feel calm. I cannot thank folks here enough for all the support and encouragement I have received. Not just during my recent anxiety attack, but along every step of my journey, beginning sometime in late 2007.

I just checked my passport status and it is being processed. According to regulations for expedited passports, once it reaches the processing stage it should take no longer than 5 business days for completion and mailing. I should receive it well before the next possible government shutdown date of March 18.

I was thinking 'potential friend' when the organist met me this morning, as I arrived to practice. She immediately grabbed the stack of music I brought to look it over. I arrived with both piano and organ works. This was the best part of the morning for me, because as she looked over my music, we enthusiastically shared how we felt about many of the compostions. She pointed out sections she particularly enjoyed, as did I. I felt that I had found someone from 'home' who could read and understand the same musical language as me.

It has been many years, going back to at least 1983, since I have so immediately connected with another musician. Both then and now, it seems that we have shared insights and enjoyment of very similar things.

I practiced the pipe organ for only 45 minutes. There were other activities going on that curtailed my playing time. Still, it was a rewarding experience. This was the first time anyone was around to listen. I did not feel ready for this because I need more time to get back to the level of playing I'm used to. If the organist and I had not so quickly and effortlessly connected, I might have asked her if she wouldn't mind not sitting right next to the organ as I played. When I'm back to good playing form, this will not bother me at all.

Most trained organists wear leather dance shoes, meaning the soles are leather, too. Many organ works, and good hymn playing technique, require one to use both feet on the pedal "keyboard" of several octaves. This is what I'm used to, and the leather shoes provide enough support for confidence while enabling me to feel exactly where my feet are.

Because of an ankle injury, this organist plays in her socks. Knowing we didn't have much time, she said "just play in your socks." In my past life, I would not have agreed to this. This time, I agreed although I knew I would make more mistakes. After I played for 10 minutes or so, she left the room. She went to speak with the choir director who said "You're not in the church so who's playing the organ?" He knows me and she told him it was me. He had never heard my playing, either.

When she returned, she told me his comments and added how impressed he was with my playing. I felt honored. The music director is a very fine musician. I look forward to more practice time, though, so that I can regain all of my skill. I was struggling through parts of a long, difficult Bach Prelude and Fugue that I used to be able to play well.

I told the organist that I'm preparing for a piano recital. She told me I could use the church and its very fine piano, inviting congregation members and others, too.

While I'm in the planning, and practicing, stage for a recital I know I will not be ready for several months, at least. I want to leave time in my schedule for socializing, too. If I meet a nice man (or perhaps even a nice woman), I can see myself ditching my recital plans in favor of working on a friendship, whether or not it might lead to more.

I didn't go out to a movie to celebrate last night. Instead, I played the piano. I may go to a late show tonight.

After church tomorrow, I will drive to the Chicago Botanic Garden and take a long walk. I'm more reluctant to make the one-way trip of 20 miles now, as gas prices have gone up a lot. I can almost justify it if I avoid taking the long way home. That winds down the shores of Lake Michigan to downtown Chicago. The views of the lake are terrific and I always enjoy watching what's happening on the lake. Whether it is calm or filled with crashing waves. Spending time at the garden, where some early spring bulbs are sprouting, feeds my spirit. Just as the drive down Lake Michigan does.

There are times when I go out on drives when I leave my camera behind. I usually regret missed photo opportunities, so I will take it along tomorrow.

Re: My life

Posted: Sun Mar 06, 2011 10:25 pm
by Caith721 (imported)
Danya, I'm glad to hear your EKG went well and I'm certain the stress test will only confirm it. Rather than consulting a surgeon, see if you can review both your EKG and stress test results with an anesthesiologist. Specifically, the "mets" (metabolic equivalent) capacity is what my anesthesiologist said completely overruled my inverted segment that was originally so concerning. What the anesthesiologists care about is your body's (metabolism's) ability to process and clear the anesthesia from your tissues in a normal time frame without causing any undue strain/stress on your heart and lungs.

I'm certain with all the legwork involved in playing the pipe organ, you don't have anything to worry about. You're very likely a lot more fit and capable than the majority of patients, it's just your slightly abnormal EKG that raises everyone's concerns unnecessarily.

Re: My life

Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2011 7:11 am
by Danya (imported)
Caith721 (imported) wrote: Sun Mar 06, 2011 10:25 pm Danya, I'm glad to hear your EKG went well and I'm certain the stress test will only confirm it. Rather than consulting a surgeon, see if you can review both your EKG and stress test results with an anesthesiologist. Specifically, the "mets" (metabolic equivalent) capacity is what my anesthesiologist said completely overruled my inverted segment that was originally so concerning. What the anesthesiologists care about is your body's (metabolism's) ability to process and clear the anesthesia from your tissues in a normal time frame without causing any undue strain/stress on your heart and lungs.

Hi Caith721,

Thanks for this informaton. I don't know that I will be able to schedule a consultation with an anesthesiologist before I need to get my results to Montreal. I also need to be very careful with money, but I'll keep this option in mind if the stress echo test results are not unambiguous. I doubt this will be the case. I had a rough idea of an anethesiologist's concerns. It's good to get a clearer picture from you. I am confident the folks in Montreal will be satisfied as long as they get a good report based on the stress echo results.

Just last night, I came across the metabolic equivalent terminology. I think I will easily 'ace' the METs and other parts of the stress Echo test. I looked at the protocol standards for someone my age. The information I found shows my cardiologist is doing exactly what he should, in preparing a pre-surgery EKG report, for someone with a family history of heart problems and an 'abnormal' EKG. My father had his first heart attack in his mid-40s. This is a risk factor for me. I keep in mind, though, that until his first heart attack he had been smoking 4 - 5 packs of cigarettes a day. He started smoking when he was 18. He was also overweight.

I jokingly told that cardiologist that I quit smoking four times. I quickly explained that I have smoked a total of only 4 cigarettes in my life. At roughly 155 pounds, with a height of 5' 9 1/2", my weight is not a problem.

Today I took at very brisk walk, outside, at the Chicago Botanic Garden, for nearly an hour. I even jogged for a short while. The air temperature was about 33 F. During this time, I climbed several stone stairways multiple times. Each time, I checked my heart rate at the top. This showed three important and postive things:

1. I was able to surpass the 'target heart rate' for people my age. Not being able to reach the target rate is considered a bad sign. I knew I could do this, I just haven't checked my values lately. By the way, I don't make it a practice to regularly exceed my target heart rate.

2. After 45 minutes of brisk walking and climbing up and down 35 steps more than once, I sat on a garden bench and immediately checked my pulse. I rechecked it after another minute. It had dropped by 24 bpm. From what I read, at least, if everything is fine it should drop at least 12 bpm. So I easily surpassed the threshhold for a very good result.

3. Throughout the entire walk, stairway/step climbing at the garden, I had absolutely no chest or other discomfort or pain. I was not short of breath. At no point did I feel a need to slow down or rest.

Another benefit was feeling very relaxed when I got back to my car.

My brisk, long walk today is not the same as having a stress echo test. Still, I continue to feel confident all will go well tomorrow afternoon.
Caith721 (imported) wrote: Sun Mar 06, 2011 10:25 pm I'm certain with all the legwork involved in playing the pipe organ, you don't have anything to worry about. You're very likely a lot more fit and capable than the majority of patients, it's just your slightly abnormal EKG that raises everyone's concerns unnecessarily.

I agree with you and think I am more fit that most people my age. I also feel that the stress echo test will be A-OK. :) As soon as I get the report, which may not be until Tuesday, I will share the results here.

Thanks for providing more information and additional encouraging words. This really helps and I very much appreciate it.

Hugs,

Danya

Re: My life

Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2011 1:24 pm
by Danya (imported)
Since I made the test appointment Friday, I have kept in mind exactly what not to eat 24 hours before the test, scheduled for 2 PM tomorrow (Monday). I've been avoiding these things since I late Friday. Tonight, I finally went to a movie. I was really calm. I also forgot to avoid chocolate, which contains caffeine. I love chocolate, although I rarely have it. Tonight, I ate quite a few chocolate covered Reeses Pieces as I watched the movie. Although I seldom go to movies, when I do I always have something with chocolate. Apparently, it's almost a reflex action for me.

I'll call the hospital in the morning to let them know the situation. They'll likely be able to reschedule for Tuesday. I want to get beyond this, so I'm surprised I'm only mildly upset by the likely delay.

Saturday night, I was speaking with an account rep on the phone. He said "You sound so calm." I told him "I am calm." Unfortunately, today I may have been a little too calm for my own good.

Since Wednesday, I've gone from panic and major distress to feeling everything will be fine. It will be if I follow directions so I can have the test, possibly waiting until Wednesday to hear the results.
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I just checked this hospital's web site for info on the stress echocardiogram. This says that even tea (which is certainly caffeinated) is fine as long a you don't have any closer than 3 hours before the test. I'll still check with the cardiologist's office first thing in the morning.

Re: My life

Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2011 9:01 pm
by Caith721 (imported)
Danya (imported) wrote: Mon Mar 07, 2011 7:11 am Just last night, I came across the metabolic equivalent terminology. I think I will easily 'ace' the METs and other parts of the stress Echo test. I looked at the protocol standards for someone my age. The information I found shows my cardiologist is doing exactly what he should, in preparing a pre-surgery EKG report, for someone with a family history of heart problems and an 'abnormal' EKG.

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Thanks for providing more information and additional encouraging words. This really helps and I very much appreciate it.

You're very welcome, dear lady. :) I have a similar "irregular heartbeat" condition and it's always an issue, although I know from years of experience and repeated tests there's absolutely nothing to worry about. The more information we share and learn, the better off we'll all be.

Re: My life

Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 10:01 am
by Danya (imported)
Caith721 (imported) wrote: Mon Mar 07, 2011 9:01 pm You're very welcome, dear lady. :) I have a similar "irregular heartbeat" condition and it's always an issue, although I know from years of experience and repeated tests there's absolutely nothing to worry about. The more information we share and learn, the better off we'll all be.

You and so many others here are incredibly caring. That has never been more important to me than now.

I'm also trying to keep in mind what others have written.
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I called the hospital this morning and they said we could proceed with the stress echocardiogram today after all. As long as I stayed away from chocolate this morning. This was not difficult. Now I wonder if we should have postponed the test until tomorrow.

I was in high spirits as the test started, even joking with the staff.

The Stress Test treadmill part went well. I watched the EKG monitor as I exercised and did not notice any significant increase in my ST Segment Depression - my entirely non-professional take on this. I stopped the test at just over 10 minutes, after two increases in speed. I was winded but had no chest pain or discomfort. The attending cardiologist said my result was excellent and surgery should be fine. She added that the results showed my risk of a cardiac event was less than 1% over the next year.

That was before they noticed that my post test, resting heart rate was not dropping very much. The cardiologist told me what I already knew. They consider this in their evaluation, too.

Eventually, they gave me a drug to lower my heart rate so they could get the final resting Echocardiogram. Breathing the way they had told me earlier, but with the addition of holding my breath, helped the process along.

Some quick research shows that my very slow heart rate recovery might be due to a number of reasons unrelated to heart problems. One of these is anxiety (i.e., adrenaline). I was anxious during this phase of the test. I listed other non-cardiac contributors but went back and deleted them. I really do need to lighten up, just as many have told me.

The attending cardiologist asked me several times if I exercised regularly at home. She asked if I exercised on a treadmill, too. No, I don't. I basically live in a room with a bathroom. I didn't go into those latter details.

Since the stress test EKG was excellent, everything may hinge on what the Echocardiogram shows. As for my slow to drop heart rate, the attending cardiologist for the test said my cardiologist might simply recommend weight control - I can't see that I would need to lose more than 5 pounds and get more exercise.I found several articles where, if the EKG is fine, the patient's physcians's said "don't worry about it, but start exercising regularly."

I hope that the Echocardiogram will be fine and that this, combined with my excellent stress test EKG, will be more than enough to "pass" for surgery.

I'm having a tough time tonight.

Re: My life

Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 11:29 am
by OneBallBoi (imported)
You will make it girl.. I know you will. You have a lot of determination.

Re: My life

Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 12:34 pm
by kristoff
With as much running around and visits to Botanical Gardens and such, not only do you put me to shame, but you are getting a lot of walking in, at least. I walk up the dang stairs and I can get winded. So don't worry about the exercise, I suspect.

BTW, got your email. Sounds like things are finally working right ! Good timing too !

Been busy as can be - haven't been responding to many emails lately, except clients (17 since Friday). Tired but flush.

You keep on doing what you are doing, you'll be just fine. You go girl!

K

Re: My life

Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 12:55 pm
by Danya (imported)
OneBallBoi (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 08, 2011 11:29 am You will make it girl.. I know you will. You have a lot of determination.

Hi OneBallBoi,

You are always kind and gentle. Thanks for the encouraging words.

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Re: My life

Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 1:03 pm
by mrt (imported)
Whew I'm feeling like you and I are in a mirror (over) researching stuff on the web!

I'm sorry your feeling so much stress. If I can suggest one thing work on THAT first and the rest should be a breeze! :D

I'm saying a prayer this all resolves itself quickly.

Re: My life

Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 8:49 pm
by nullorchis (imported)
Knowledge is empowering.

Incomplete knowledge can cause anxiety and stress.

Transindential Meditation can help re-establish mind over body control.

There exist medically proven mental exercises that can help control such physical things as blood pressure.

Not that mental exercises can regulate all body processes.

But the mind can have a negative impact upon the body.

Meditation can help minimize the mind's negative impact on the body.

Such activity just takes time, practice, and is chemical free.

Re: My life

Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 10:19 pm
by Danya (imported)
kristoff wrote: Tue Mar 08, 2011 12:34 pm With as much running around and visits to Botanical Gardens and such, not only do you put me to shame, but you are getting a lot of walking in, at least. I walk up the dang stairs and I can get winded. So don't worry about the exercise, I suspect.

BTW, got your email. Sounds like things are finally working right ! Good timing too !

Been busy as can be - haven't been responding to many emails lately, except clients (17 since Friday). Tired but flush.

You keep on doing what you are doing, you'll be just fine. You go girl!

K

Hi Kristoff,
Danya (imported) wrote: Sun Sep 26, 2010 1:20 pm It's always good to hear from you.
I know how busy you are and I was not expecting a reply to the email.

I'm calm this morning and ready, I think, to hear anything. :)

Yes, a number of things are finall
mrt (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 08, 2011 1:03 pm y working right. What a relief!

Thanks for being there and the encouraging words.

Hugs,

Danya

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I'm sorry your feeling so much stress. If I can suggest one thing work on THAT
first and the rest should be a breeze! :D

I'm saying a prayer this all resolves itself quickly.

Hi MrT,

I thought you might relate to
nullorchis (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 08, 2011 8:49 pm all this research stuff on the web. :) I agree, I need to work on bringing do
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I appreciate the prayer.

Hugs,

Danya

Knowledge is empowering.

Incomplete knowledge can cause anxiety and stress.

Hi nullorchis,

I totally agree knowledge is empowering, but only as long as we know what to do with it, how to interpret it and so on. In certain subjects, I'm reasonably capable of doing this. In others, like medicine, I may get the general drift of things but by reading I cannot hope
nullorchis (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 08, 2011 8:49 pm to match the experience and knowledge of a good physician. Still, it's good to know some things and I never blindly accept whatever a doctor tells me.

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There exist medically proven mental exercises that can help control such physical things as blood pressure.

I currently use mental exercises and relaxation techniques that do lower my pulse rate, get rid of migraines and so on. I learned these in a lab years ago, where a technician monitored things l
nullorchis (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 08, 2011 8:49 pm ike blood pressure, skin temperatures, pulse rate while I went through the exercises. The instruments showed that these mental exercises were working.

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upon the body.

Meditation can help minimize the mind's negative impact on the body.

Such activity just takes time, practice, and is chemical free.

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Re: My life

Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 10:55 pm
by butterflyjack (imported)
I'd love to see you in that dress....and I'm so glad you're feeling better....

smooches dragonfly

Re: My life

Posted: Wed Mar 09, 2011 12:20 am
by Caith721 (imported)
Danya, the dress seems like a VERY good idea to me. I know it would certainly make me feel a lot better, too. :D

You'll be fine, as soon as you stop focusing on that huge invisible pink elephant ;) in the room with you. She never makes a sound, nobody else ever sees her, and the only person worried about her is you.

We all 👥 love you, we care 👯 deeply, and we know you'll be 👌 fine.

Re: My life

Posted: Wed Mar 09, 2011 1:09 pm
by Danya (imported)
First, a quick note to Caith721: It was only when I multi-quoted two responses that I noticed your title, "You can stop stressing, now." I love it!
butterflyjack (imported) wrote: Tue Mar 08, 2011 10:55 pm I'd love to see you in that dress....and I'm so glad you're feeling better....
Danya (impor [/quote] ted) wrote:Tue Feb 01, 2011 2:32 pm smooches dragonfly

Hi Dragonfly,

This dress is still one of m
Caith721 (imported) wrote: Wed Mar 09, 2011 12:20 am y favorites and I got two compliments at the office today, both from women. Thanks for writing. :)

Hugs,

Danya

Danya, the dress seems like a VERY good idea to me. I know it would certainly make me feel a lot better, too. :D

The dress did help. It brought back very good memories of my first day at work as me. That was on May 1
Caith721 (imported) wrote: Wed Mar 09, 2011 12:20 am 9, 2008. Among a number of very good things on that day were the roses left on my desk by all the men in my group.

You'll be fine, as soon as you stop focusing on that huge invisible pink elephant ;) in the
room with you. She never makes a sound, nobody else ever sees her, and the only person worried about her is you.

You've written some very wise words here. You're also entirely correct. :) While I was able to stay calm all d
Caith721 (imported) wrote: Wed Mar 09, 2011 12:20 am ay, I had a little trouble concentrating on my work. I was waiting fo
r the cardiologist's call. More on that below.

We all 👥 love you, we care 👯 deeply, and we know you'll be 👌 fine.

What a lovely message! You affirm who I am with such kind words.

You and the many others here who have offered words of support and encouragement have given me far more than you may realize. A sense of belonging and knowing there are peop
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Re: My life

Posted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 9:11 am
by Danya (imported)
This morning, my cardiologist's office called to let me know that my stress echocardiogram results are entirely normal. I was elated. :D

My passport will arrive in the mail tomorrow, so that's all set, too.

Tomorrow, I'll send the final GRS payment to Montreal.

Work continues to go well. I may
Danya (imported) wrote: Sat Nov 27, 2010 3:25 pm not know if my contract will be extended
until the very last moment. If it is not, things will still work as I budgeted for this possibility.

Many thanks to everyone for your caring and encouraging responses. You are terrific! :)

I'm going out to spend a relatively inexpensive night on the town, to celebrate.

Re: My life

Posted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 9:59 am
by Caith721 (imported)
Danya (imported) wrote: Thu Mar 10, 2011 9:11 am This morning, my cardiologist's office called to let me know that my stress echocardiogram results are entirely normal. I was elated. :D

<sarcasm>

Gee, what a COMPLETE surprise, huh? 🙄

</sarcasm>

Re: My life

Posted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 12:07 pm
by Mac (imported)
Danya (imported) wrote: Thu Mar 10, 2011 9:11 am This morning, my cardiologist's office called to let me know that my stress echocardiogram results are entirely normal. I was elated. :D

My passport will arrive in the mail tomorrow, so that's all set, too. ..................



thanks to everyone for your caring and encouraging responses. You are terrific! :)

I'm going out to spend a relatively inexpensive night on the town, to celebrate.

Celebrate

🎶🌈🎶🌈

You deserve it.

Re: My life

Posted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 1:25 pm
by Danya (imported)
Caith721 (imported) wrote: Thu Mar 10, 2011 9:59 am Gee, what a COMPLETE surprise, huh? 🙄
Mac (imported) wrote: Thu Mar 10, 2011 12:07 pm

You really got me la
ughing with that line!

Celebrate

🎶🌈🎶🌈

You deserve it.

Thanks, Mac :)
Danya (imported) wrote: Wed Mar 09, 2011 1:09 pm
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Re: My life

Posted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 9:50 pm
by Caith721 (imported)
You really got me laughing with that line!

I'm glad it worked as intended. :)
Danya (imported) wrote: Thu Mar 10, 2011 1:25 pm I am going to take a break from posting.

We'll miss you, but we understand. You need this time to focus, for your own benefit.
Danya (imported) wrote: Thu Mar 10, 2011 1:25 pm The first few years of transitioning are often a time of intense focus on goals and on oneself, as you adapt to being the new you while dealing with emotions that are often similar to those of a teenager. At times, I still behave like an immature teenager, although less frequently as time goes by. I have been going through a second puberty, the right one this time. Now I want to move beyond that and grow more fully into the woman I am. Part of that means my outlook is shifting away from that of a somewhat self-centered teen girl to that of a more balanced adult woman who quite naturally leaves certain things behind. This is just the way things should be.

Some people call this time post-transition, but it's really the final stage of transition, where you accomplish your life-long goal, and no longer think in terms of "what do I have to do next?". Once transition is no longer your primary focus, and you rarely consider it and everything involved, you're complete. I think achieving a life-long goal after many years of time, effort, and expense is something everyone desires, but many never achieve. It's definitely worthy of celebration, as are you.

Good luck, godspeed, and I wish you a rapid recovery filled with much good fortune.

Re: My life

Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2011 11:55 am
by Danya (imported)
Caith721 (imported) wrote: Thu Mar 10, 2011 9:50 pm I'm glad it worked as intended. :)

We'll miss you, but we understand. You need this time to focus, for your own benefit.

Yes, your humor worked perfectly :) Note that I did not say I would never post here again. I plan to post occasional updates, like this. I still expect the frequency of my posts to go down.
Caith721 (imported) wrote: Thu Mar 10, 2011 9:50 pm Some people call this time post-transition, but it's really the final stage of transition, where you accomplish your life-long goal, and no longer think in terms of "what do I have to do next?". Once transition is no longer your primary focus, and you rarely consider it and everything involved, you're complete. I think achieving a life-long goal after many years of time, effort, and expense is something everyone desires, but many never achieve. It's definitely worthy of celebration, as are you.

Good luck, godspeed, and I wish you a rapid recovery filled with much good fortune.

Thanks for all of your kind words and understanding, and your support.
Danya (imported) wrote: Thu Mar 10, 2011 1:25 pm
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Re: My life

Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2011 8:49 pm
by Caith721 (imported)
So sorry to hear about your infection. I hope the antibiotics work well, and you recover soon. When infection becomes systemic like that, it really runs you down and keeps you tired. :( Obviously, this is NOT something you need to endure at this point in your life.

Re: My life

Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2011 9:14 pm
by butterflyjack (imported)
Take care of yourself, sweety...smooches dragonfly