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I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks. Every time we meet kissing and dry humping come quick. There is a strong attraction between the two of us.

He has told me that for spiritual reasons he restrains from ejaculating. Claiming to have not really came in 2 years. In detail he has told me that he finds it hard to focus afterward for a week.....

On the other hand, the more i get to know him, the closer we get to having sex. We both want it really bad. However i cant bring myself to let it happen because i cant understand why we would have sex with no release!

I know this is a bit strange, i am new to the dating scene as a eunuch. Is it normal for a guy to not want to orgasm?!

Further more, Just having sex for the sake of sex is not something i want to be know for. He is really supportive of me for being me, yet is unsure of any direction to take a relationship....

Confused.

z

My first thought was does he avoid an orgasm because he feels guilty afterwards. If he feels very guilty that may keep him from being able to focus. I was with someone very briefly that after his orgasm he became upset and threatened to harm me. Prior to release he was very excited but after orgasm his personality changed. He blamed me for causing that to happen. I would be punished. Before hand lots of dirty talk and physical teasing but afterwards I was called evil and was warned that I would burn in the fires of hell.

Your friend is probably not that extreme but I am concerned that until he can accept his feelings and desires as normal for him I would not get too involved.

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homptydumpty (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2008 8:50 am for spiritual reasons he restrains from ejaculating.

At yahoo news today, we learn this:

Mon Apr 21, 7:32 PM ET

SUMMARY: Researchers find that men who masturbate frequently are at a reduced risk of cancer.

Frequent masturbation may help men cut their risk of contracting prostate cancer, Australian researchers have found. It is believed that carcinogens may build up in the prostate if men do not ejaculate regularly, BBC News reported on Wednesday. The researchers surveyed more than 1,000 men who had developed prostate cancer, and 1,250 men who had not. They found that men who had ejaculated the most between the ages of 20 and 50 were the least likely to get cancer. Men who ejaculated more than five times each week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer.

So, it's not self-abuse that I do, it's medically sanctioned cancer prevention.

tugon (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2008 10:17 am My first thought was does he avoid an orgasm because he feels guilty afterwards. If he feels very guilty that may keep him from being able to focus. I was with someone very briefly that after his orgasm he became upset and threatened to harm me. Prior to release he was very excited but after orgasm his personality changed. He blamed me for causing that to happen. I would be punished. Before hand lots of dirty talk and physical teasing but afterwards I was called evil and was warned that I would burn in the fires of hell.

Your friend is probably not that extreme but I am concerned that until he can accept his feelings and desires as normal for him I would not get too involved.

I will tell you like I told DAUGHTER...

Do de words "ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP" hold any meanin' for ya?

What in the hell kind of HORSE'S ASS were you involved with?

:-\

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fredericlei (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2008 10:48 am Frequent masturbation may help men cut their risk of contracting prostate cancer, Australian researchers have found. It is believed that carcinogens may build up in the prostate if men do not ejaculate regularly, BBC News reported on Wednesday. The researchers surveyed more than 1,000 men who had developed prostate cancer, and 1,250 men who had not. They found that men who had ejaculated the most between the ages of 20 and 50 were the least likely to get cancer. Men who ejaculated more than five times each week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer.

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Um not really..............Us Aussies are just a pack of wankers.

Ask him what church he goes to, and there is your most likely answer!!! Also, if your serious about him then you need to tell him your little secret and then if he is still interested find the root of his problem!

Many churches make males feel guilty for ejaculating out of wed lock especially my old one. One time the leader of the church spoke in a church wide private sermon to just the males, and told us that it was a sin to speed up our little factories.... yeah that put a big guilt trip on a lot of young men.

Sounds to me like this guy's got some serious unresolved issues. I would definitely be weary of the situation, 'cuz you don't know what could happen after.. Who knows, maybe he can't concentrate because he can't stop thinking about where to hide your body...????

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homptydumpty (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2008 8:50 am He has told me that for spiritual reasons he restrains from ejaculating.

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O.O -- I would have a hard time not laughing if someone told me that.

What happens if he does happen to orgasm during a sexual episode? Is he going to beat himself up afterwards (sounds likely)? Maybe get pissed off and wreck shit? I'd be weary...

IbPervert (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2008 5:12 pm Also, if your serious about him then you need to tell him your little secret and then if he is still interested find the root of his problem!

One of the reasons I am involved with him is because he knows everything about me & still cares for me. We have spent time with each other naked cuddling and exploring each other bodies. He wants to penetrate me, not forcefully by any means. Yet he likes the idea of it & plays around like he is going to. We both have set limits on it, him due to his desire not to ejaculate & me because i want more from a new relationship that sex. If we hold off for awhile it builds up more suspense!

All of what you said seems to ring consistencies. If he is doing this for religious reasons, the guilt could be to much for him to handle if he where to come. If he ejaculates while we are together is he going to flip out & turn on me with violence? Or would he give up the relationship at that point?

This is allot for me to handle. The reason i am so interested with him is partly because of this. I being a eunuch am not able to fully ejaculate. Maybe thats why i like him.....

I think I will print off that article & give it to him, so he will have proof that squirting is good for you!

Another question, are or where any of you ever preventing yourself from ejaculating for any reason? It seems like something i remember doing myself pre castration.

homptydumpty (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 24, 2008 2:53 am One of the reasons I am involved with him is because he knows everything about me & still cares for me. We have spent time with each other naked cuddling and exploring each other bodies. He wants to penetrate me, not forcefully by any means. Yet he likes the idea of it & plays around like he is going to. We both have set limits on it, him due to his desire not to ejaculate & me because i want more from a new relationship that sex. If we hold off for awhile it builds up more suspense!

All of what you said seems to ring consistencies. If he is doing this for religious reasons, the guilt could be to much for him to handle if he where to come. If he ejaculates while we are together is he going to flip out & turn on me with violence? Or would he give up the relationship at that point?

This is allot for me to handle. The reason i am so interested with him is partly because of this. I being a eunuch am not able to fully ejaculate. Maybe thats why i like him.....

I think I will print off that article & give it to him, so he will have proof that squirting is good for you!

Another question, are or where any of you ever preventing yourself from ejaculating for any reason? It seems like something i remember doing myself pre castration.

I am afraid that giving him this article would do nothing but make him worse.

Usually, in such people that act in this manner there is a belief in what they think God means that is uNreasonable to the extreme.

What I am trying to say is that to change his mind you would have to have God speak to him. And, brother, iF that starts happening you have REALLY got troubles.

PULL THE PIN ON THIS ASSHOLE BEFORE HE KILLS YOU! .......

homptydumpty (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 24, 2008 2:53 am One of the reasons I am involved with him is because he knows everything about me & still cares for me. We have spent time with each other naked cuddling and exploring each other bodies. He wants to penetrate me, not forcefully by any means. Yet he likes the idea of it & plays around like he is going to. We both have set limits on it, him due to his desire not to ejaculate & me because i want more from a new relationship that sex. If we hold off for awhile it builds up more suspense!

All of what you said seems to ring consistencies. If he is doing this for religious reasons, the guilt could be to much for him to handle if he where to come. If he ejaculates while we are together is he going to flip out & turn on me with violence? Or would he give up the relationship at that point?

This is allot for me to handle. The reason i am so interested with him is partly because of this. I being a eunuch am not able to fully ejaculate. Maybe thats why i like him.....

I think I will print off that article & give it to him, so he will have proof that squirting is good for you!

Another question, are or where any of you ever preventing yourself from ejaculating for any reason? It seems like something i remember doing myself pre castration.

Pay attention to the warning signs. Both of you need to find out why he is feeling that way, before going to much farther into the relationship. My feeling from what has been said so far that you need more information about him. If he can't be open with his feelings, his religion, family, and history you should cool it off, as both of you have to trust each other and be open with each other.

I know that love my blind you to the faults and warning signs. I just hope you come out of this well.

If your new man is into tantra, it's possible he's holding on to his 'chi' as tantric practitioners are taught. For awhile back in the 90s, I was into tantra to a large degree, and it is one of the main practices.

Also, just because he chooses not to have release doesn't mean you can't, does it?

homptydumpty (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2008 8:50 am I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks. Every time we meet kissing and dry humping come quick. There is a strong attraction between the two of us.

He has told me that for spiritual reasons he restrains from ejaculating. Claiming to have not really came in 2 years. In detail he has told me that he finds it hard to focus afterward for a week.....

On the other hand, the more i get to know him, the closer we get to having sex. We both want it really bad. However i cant bring myself to let it happen because i cant understand why we would have sex with no release!

I know this is a bit strange, i am new to the dating scene as a eunuch. Is it normal for a guy to not want to orgasm?!

Further more, Just having sex for the sake of sex is not something i want to be know for. He is really supportive of me for being me, yet is unsure of any direction to take a relationship....

Confused.

z

Please be careful. I'd hate it if something bad happened to you.

I suspect much is being made of nothing. Young folks often go through some times of self-exploration that those a bit older have already done. The guy may be a strange duck, but then maybe he is just experimenting with an aspect of his life being. Be cautious, but give life a chance!

Surprised how many people in this thread are frightened of life, Kristoff hit the nail directly on the head.

estragen (imported) wrote: Sun Apr 27, 2008 8:34 am Surprised how many people in this thread are frightened of life, Kristoff hit the nail directly on the head.

I certainly am not frightened of life but I would like to see young people not have some of the negative experiences I have had. If a situation sounds all too familiar I will send a message of caution. Z certainly knows the other person better than any of us. The choice will always be his.

I am so not afraid of life. Thank though for bringing up that point.

A relationship is developing with my friend. more n' more as we talk about things the less of an issue they are.

"The choice will always be his."

Should it not be The choice will always be hers!

homptydumpty (imported) wrote: Tue Apr 29, 2008 10:54 am I am so not afraid of life. Thank though for bringing up that point.

A relationship is developing with my friend. more n' more as we talk about things the less of an issue they are.

Yes that is the base of a good relationship, but remember it takes two working on the relationship to keep it going.

I wish you the best of luck.

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I have to agree with Kristoff. Just be careful.

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homptydumpty (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2008 8:50 am He has told me that fo

twaddler (imported) wrote: Thu Apr 24, 2008 1:13 am r spiritual reasons he restrains from ejaculating.

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O.O -- I would have a hard time not laughing if someone told me that.

What happens if he does happen to orgasm during a sexual episode? Is he going to beat himself up afterwards (sounds l

ikely)? Maybe get pissed off and wreck shit? I'd be weary...I did laugh, not meanly but with compassion. Sad state of affairs.

kristoff wrote: Sat Apr 26, 2008 11:25 pm I suspect much is being made of nothing. Young folks often go through some times of self-exploration that those a bit older have already done. The guy may be a strange duck, but then maybe he is just experimenting with an aspect of his life being. Be cautious, but give life a chance!

Well said. Wise advice.

hompty-

I'd say leave the guy, he has major issues. You need a guy that has contol of his unit and not a bunch of crap. I'm assuming your the "passive" participant, find a guy that wants it and is respectful. Don't open yourself up for a head case or worse just a bunch of abuse. I maybe wrong, but from my expirience a person needs to explore their problems outside a relationship and come to the table ready to enjoy all life has to offer. Problems come later.

But...hold on...how old is this guy and what is his history...did you lure married man...how close is he to his family and what are they like?

Hompty you kind of left us hanging on this one!

chilli-

I would suggest caution with this guy, but would not just write him off as crazy just yet. I would suggest you dig a little deeper as to why this guy does not want to ejaculate. Perhaps there are some larger issues there than what he has let on.

IbPervert (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2008 5:12 pm Ask him what church he goes to, and there is your most likely answer!!! Also, if your serious about him then you need to tell him your little secret and then if he is still interested find the root of his problem!

Many churches make males feel guilty for ejaculating out of wed lock especially my old one. One time the leader of the church spoke in a church wide private sermon to just the males, and told us that it was a sin to speed up our little factories.... yeah that put a big guilt trip on a lot of young men.

In the early stages of my life

I learned of the Tooth Fairy.

I learned that was just make belive.

Then I learned of the Easter Bunny.

Fake fur.

Then along came Santa Claus.

Take a hike fly boy.

Finally it came time for me to be introduced to religion.

After 3 strikes, I was older and wiser. I didn't bite.

Fortunately I discovered Secular Humanism.

For me it is Life Without Guilt, and about personal growth and personal responsibility.

It is life Without being preached to, at, or being controlled by others.

Dealing with people is a lot like playing a poker card game.

You have got to know when to hold 'em, and know when to fold 'em.

It's hard to throw out a loosing hand,

But it's dumb to keep on playing.