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I have decided to start seeing a therapist to discuss my euniqueness. I supposed in some ways that I want to see what she thinks of a eunuch and also to share some of my thoughts, desires, changes, etc. with her. Yes, I'm seeing a female therapist. She asked me some initial questions about how I became a eunuch, what is my purpose for seeing her, what's troubling me, etc. I answered these questions and she wants to see me. She stated that she's never met a eunuch and never had one as a patient. I told her that I can't talk to anyone about it, except my wife, and she doesn't want to talk about my condition anymore. I told her that I don't feel comfortable discussing it openly though I sometimes want too.

My first visit is next Wednesday and it should be interesting. Her bio states that: "As a therapist my practice has been enhanced by having taught sexuality education in schools, reproductive health clinics and for the Human Sexuality Program at UMDNJ medical school. As a licensed clinical social worker and sexuality educator I also bring you sympathetic understanding and broad knowledge to help you become comfortable and deal with your most intimate and private concerns." I kind of like being her first eunuch. I'll let you know what happens.

I hope you're as glad as you sound (starting's the hard part, after all ). I hope it's worth it, at least!

I've been wanting to talk to someone vaguely professional about plenty of things for some time now... but being a visually-challenged college student who would rather keep things as private as possible makes that challenging (Counseling services on campus are free, and if I get up the courage and plan things I might be able to get into that without involving anyone else... eek, easier said than done...).

I have trouble with the questions you mentioned... Hmm.

In any case, this post did something for me, and it sounds like it's from something good for you, so thanks for sharing!

If you find the right one (Therapist) it will be a positive thing!

I don't like 'hijacking the thread'... but I did make an appointment with a counselor today, and I kinda think Hash's post helped a lot. Egh, however it turns out, thanks!

I'm just curious as to why you feel the need to broadcast your eunuchood to people. Whether it's getting a big eunuch tattoo, adding to your medical records, or seeing a therapist mainly to talk about being a eunuch...it seems you have to tell people about it.

It's not wrong. I'm just saying I don't understand it please explain ha-ha.

Now, I am the exact opposite, at first I thought it was kind of peculiar and I wanted to tell people just to get a reaction out them. I told two of my closest female friends but neither of them understood. Once they figured out I wasn't lying... they didn't know what to say about it. They are the only two people know. Now I just keep it to myself.

@Hash: If you feel the need to discuss it with someone, you have my full support to see this therapist.

@Randy: You told two women. Everyone knows now!

I want to see a therapist, but not for therapeutic reasons necessarily. I am comfortable with my euniqueness, however, after reading Dr. Wassersug's articles, they made me think a lot about myself. Dr. Wasserug emailed me the articles and if you have not read them, I suggest that you do, very enlightening. Jesus posted parts of both for all to read: http://www.eunuch.org/vbulletin/showthr ... asculation

They are entitled, "Mastering Emasculation" and "Passing Through the Wall: On Outings, Exodus, Angels, and the Ark," they are very informative. They were more or less the impetus that got me to make an appointment with a therapist/psychologist. I want to explore and find out more about myself and also share with her in the hope that she might help other eunuchs in the future. I suppose I also want to see if she senses the mental, emotional changes that have occurred in me. I want her to question me and challenge me. I sent her the articles so that she might preview them ahead of time, I suppose then that I also want to enlighten her about the common way castrated men are viewed by the medical society. All in all, I just want to share all that I've gone through before I became a eunuch and all that I've had to deal with since becoming a eunuch. Read the articles, Dr. Wassersug's website includes his email address under the title, "Richards CV" http://www.anatomy.dal.ca/Wassersug/

I've met with my therapist twice, I had a problem with my insurance. They wouldn't accept her since she wasn't in their "program." However, she got them to accept her on a special case basis though she has to describe why she's best suited to help me. Therefore she needed to tell the insurance company about my castration and being eunuch. She seems genuinely interested in my condition/situation. She's asked me lots of questions about being castrated, how it happened, why I allowed it, etc. She's trying to pull things out of me in order to figure out why I'm feeling the way I'm feeling. It's actually been a very good feeling to discuss castration and being a eunuch with a woman. She had no idea that there were men who actually wanted to be castrated, but she was not sickened by the thought. At least she didn't react negatively. The sessions have both gone by very fast, I was amazed. I'm trying to be as honest and factual as possible. I think she thinks that I have a Body Integrity Disorder and perhaps that's true. Any-

way, I think that it's done me a world of good just to discuss my eunuch history with her and get her opinions and watch her reactions. It might do you some good too. Hash

P.S. I'm surprised that she hasn't asked me to prove my eunuchness, though that's probably unprofessional.

I'm pleased for Hash if he gets some benefit from this, but I wouldn't want to see a therapist. I remember I was unhappy when I was entire and seeking castration. Now I'm happy. I can't explain or comprehend the mentality of why I was unhappy before and why I'm so contented now, but I've achieved what I wanted and I really don't want to "rock the boat" with therapy to find an explanation.

I came up to an urologist just a few days ago. He was a warm-hearted men, coming directly to the point of my problems and willing to help. (Shit, still waiting for the reply from my doctor in NL, as we need the referal he wrote me)

But sure man, that feels good if some-one is asking and listening and especially understanding what you are talking about.

In my country we say, "you can watch people in front of their head, not inside".

A therapist has studied to find childish tricks to walk around this problem.

But he / she is stil handicapped

I've tried a therapist long years ago. We had a lot of sessions and after a little while, as always, I could run his program inside my head.

Before he could open his mouth, I had him the answer and his question, and I think I had bad luck as he was not the kind of human who could deal with that

randy (imported) wrote: Thu Feb 26, 2009 2:14 pm I'm just curious as to why you feel the need to broadcast your eunuchood to people. Whether it's getting a big eunuch tattoo, adding to your medical records, or seeing a therapist mainly to talk about being a eunuch...it seems you have to tell people about it.

It's not wrong. I'm just saying I don't understand it please explain ha-ha.

Now, I am the exact opposite, at first I thought it was kind of peculiar and I wanted to tell people just to get a reaction out them. I told two of my closest female friends but neither of them understood. Once they figured out I wasn't lying... they didn't know what to say about it. They are the only two people know. Now I just keep it to myself.

I like what you are asking,but why is it only a 50% question.

I think it will be good to consider that you can hurt people and especially relations by forcing them to know it.

But why do you need to hide it. If I had that feeling I can asure you that I was not looking that hard to find a doctor to do the cut for me.

What is the problem, are you scared???

I have to deal with what people are thinking about me, especially after they had me nationwide on the frontpage of all newspapers. I can handle something, and being scared is something from the past.

So what about you, are you scared and if yes why??

Jean Op den Kamp (imported) wrote: Fri Apr 03, 2009 6:20 am I like what you are asking,but why is it only a 50% question.

I think it will be good to consider that you can hurt people and especially relations by forcing them to know it.

But why do you need to hide it. If I had that feeling I can asure you that I was not looking that hard to find a doctor to do the cut for me.

What is the problem, are you scared???

I have to deal with what people are thinking about me, especially after they had me nationwide on the frontpage of all newspapers. I can handle something, and being scared is something from the past.

So what about you, are you scared and if yes why??

sorry nmhb

i dont understand the last question.

what do you think i am scared of ?

randy (imported) wrote: Sat Apr 04, 2009 2:43 am sorry nmhb

i dont understand the last question.

what do you think i am scared of ?

First let me tell you that in no way I wanted or want to offend you

You asked people about telling (you called it even broadcast) that they are eunuchs

and part two: your words:

randy (imported) wrote: Thu Feb 26, 2009 2:14 pm It's not wrong. I'm just saying I don't understand it please explain ha-ha.

So I told you it is only a 50% question

Why should I tell them / why keep it secret

It's not wrong but you don't understand /

I don't say that you are scared, I ask you to explain that to me, why do you like to keep it secret

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So what if, tomorrow they have you, with your face and name and address on CNN news, explain everything about you. I would never ask for that, BUT UP TO THEM, I don't care and I'm sure I can deal with that.

What about you????? Is that a problem for you, does it scares you of??????

Please, I just turned over the question, please explain me.

You asked a question on the board and you get a 100% turn of it yourself.

Please tell me, is there something that scares you???

And please, never forget, (as I said I don't want to offend you) I love you and all board members a lot.

If in any way I hurt your feelings, tell me (on the board) and I will make my excuses to all of them

loveU

Jean

Randy, you showed me that you are not that scared, love you for that. I see no reason why we should forget about that as it is okay with me.

So no need to answer the question, only tell me please : Do you understand the question?

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randy (imported) wrote: Thu Feb 26, 2009 2:14 pm I'm just curious as to why you feel the need to broadcast your eunuchood to people.

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After my castration I felt very much like I wanted to shout it from the rooftops, to tell everyone. I was so happy and I just wanted to share it with someone (everyone).

Now that all the people in my life know, it's really no big deal and they certainly don't treat me much different, other than some good-natured ribbing here and there.

Hash,

You are using the word several times.....

Hash (imported) wrote: Thu Feb 26, 2009 7:47 pm I am comfortable with my euniqueness.

Is it eunique or unique and what is so eunique / unique

Please don't answer my question, no need. Just see it as a gift.

loveU

J***

Hurray for Hash! Hash is pimp and that's cool. He likes to display his castrated body or otherwise present to various woman and this has become quite appearant here on the EA. Perhaps a big part of why he got clipped was to get women enamored or intrigued by his condition. I say more power to him, or less power or no power or eunuch power. Hash is an exhibitionist, who apparently has many adimirers. You guys need to get over it and let Hash do his thing.

Hash, you go boy. Maybe will see ya on the big screen one day. It was cool when you had your naked emasculated avatar. I envy your gumtion.

chilli-

Hash,

Jean Op den Kamp (imported) wrote: Sat Apr 04, 2009 8:50 am You are using the word several times.....

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I am comfortable with my euniqueness.

Is it eunique or unique and what is so eunique / unique

Please don't answer my qu
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estion, no need. Just see it as a gift.

loveU

J***

nomorehotbutt,

Hash I don't want to hijack your thread, or make you a point of discussion either, but be careful what you ask for....

While Hash has stated he is going to a therapist to discuss his euniqueness, he has not stated he is going for depression or altered body image, or severe maladaption. He has put himself in many akward situations, with what appear to be good outcomes. He is actively confronting mainstream society, and probably a great individual to do so.

From reading his post and IM's, Hash seems like a very well adjusted eunuch. Being an extreme extrovert can sometimes seem odd to those who stay closer to home.

Rap on Hash;)

chilli-

chilliwilli (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 08, 2009 1:56 am nomorehotbutt,

Hash I don't want to hijack your thread, or make you a point of discussion either, but be careful what you ask for....

While Hash has stated he is going to a therapist to discuss his euniqueness, he has not stated he is going for depression or altered body image, or severe maladaption. He has put himself in many akward situations, with what appear to be good outcomes. He is actively confronting mainstream society, and probably a great individual to do so.

From reading his post and IM's, Hash seems like a very well adjusted eunuch. Being an extreme extrovert can sometimes seem odd to those who stay closer to home.

Rap on Hash;)

chilli-

Thanks,

First let me tell you that there may be a language problem and this time the problem would be on my side. I searched for the word "euniqueness" and what I found didn't make me to sure. After I send this posting (I wanted to offer him a thought) I got more questions about the word. And I found no answers.

Please believe me, I never wanted to hurt him, and if I did, buy a gun and shoot me.

If he really is an extreme extrovert, that doesn't seem odd to me,I would like to follow him and if possible understand him.

I never want to hurt people, and if I make mistakes, please teach me, that is okay. I will love you for it.

I loveU all

Jean

"unique" + "eunuch" = "eunique";

"euniqness" - being in a state of being a unique eunuch.

Hmmm...in the dictionary under "redundant," does it say "see also - redundant"?

I think...

Could we call this new language "Eunuchese"?

Paolo wrote: Wed Apr 08, 2009 8:35 am "unique" + "eunuch" = "eunique";

"euniqness" - being in a state of being a unique eunuch.

Hmmm...in the dictionary under "redundant," does it say "see also - redundant"?

I think...

Could we call this new language "Eunuchese"?

You is crazy, Paolo. You make me smile.

Paolo wrote: Wed Apr 08, 2009 8:35 am "unique" + "eunuch" = "eunique";

"euniqness" - being in a state of being a unique eunuch.

Hmmm...in the dictionary under "redundant," does it say "see also - redundant"?

I think...

Could we call this new language "Eunuchese"?

Yeah okay, and maybe you have me a ISBN number for the dictionary, so maybe I can study some more eunuchcheese

loveU

Jean

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Jean Op den Kamp (imported) wrote: Wed Apr 08, 2009 11:58 am Yeah okay, and maybe you have me a ISBN number for the dictionary, so maybe I can study some more eunuchcheese

loveU

Jean

Jean you'll be at the head of the class sooner than you know.

...screw studyn' I gettin some crackers!

chilli-:D

Eunuchcheese sounds tasty.

That was a joke - not a real language.

Paolo wrote: Thu Apr 09, 2009 11:40 am That was a joke - not a real language.

Gee... I know a guy we call "Cheese." Should I invest?