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I got the idea for this thread when I looked to see if there were any recent posts by female members, and didn't find any. (They might be there, but I didn't see any.)

Anyway, my thought was, that maybe girls and women who access this site, or who might access it, don't become members because they have an inaccurate or unformed notion of what eunuchs and wannabes are like. My only contact with people that I know to be eunuchs, is through this website. But, acknowledging that limitation, I thought I might start a thread to try to define a kind of description of what typical eunuchs are like. I realize, as Krister and Jesus would probably immediately point out, that the members of this website are a very diverse group. But, if you've had any experience with statistical sampling and analysis, you probably realize that most samples tend to generate some type of bell curve, albeit it may be a rather flat one.

In general, it looks to me that eunuchs are quite low-profile types. Is those who are transgender are excluded, the general run of eunuchs appear not to draw attention to themselves, and, if they do, it's done to show that they really aren't all that unusual. I get the impression that most eunuchs, most individuals who are taking testosterone-reducing drugs, and also most wannabes, really just try to fit in like the general run of people do.

As to appearance, I haven't seen all that many photographs of eunuchs, but I get the impression that, even though all or nearly all who are members of the archive, were castrated in adulthood; eunuchs tend to be relatively even-featured and aren't rough looking. (This contrasts with the way the hijra community is; some of the hijras look like pretty tough customers.) This, of course, may be partially a result of grooming rather than of innate characteristics.

Just from reading some incidental comments in posts, my impression is that eunuchs are more often overweight than underweight. Whether this is noticeable or not, I couldn't say.

It also seems to me that eunuchs, chemical castrates, and wannabes, are all somewhat more introspective than most other people. Whether this is because of some effect of hormone reduction, whether it's because eunuchs might have fewer contacts with other people, particularly with the opposite sex, or whether it simply has to do with the type of personality someone has if he considers orchiectomy or has the operation performed, I couldn't say. It's an old observation of sociologists, that most men are trying to prove various things. Eunuchs, presumably, have given that up, and consequently have a viewpoint which is more oriented to their own interests, rather than to what other people might want them to have.

The question of whether eunuchs typically suffer from depression, or have more positive attitudes, seems to me to depend in some measure on how long it has been since their orchiectomies. From what I've read, it seems that there is often a period of depression within a year or two of the surgery, but that those who have been eunuchs for several years, have adjusted to any negative psychological effects of the change in hormone levels.

As to contact with the opposite sex, my impression is that this isn't reduced as much as some would expect. Those eunuchs who had their surgery after they were married, seem in general to have marriages that aren't all that different than uncastrated men have. And, really, a lot of sex isn't all that much involved with urgent sexual excitement; so eunuchs wouldn't necessarily feel they couldn't have sexual contact with women. Of course, those taking testosterone at some level, shouldn't be a whole lot different, in terms of sexual interest, than other males.

And regarding social and political views, it looks to me as though eunuchs are among the more tolerant groups in society. Many of them are ready to claim and defend their rights, but that's just what, in my judgement, they ought to do.

On reflection, a eunuch would seem to be just the sort of person the average female would want to meet, either in cyberspace or elsewhere. Maybe if females knew more about eunuchs (assuming they are as I have described), they would be more interested in seeking out and joining this archive.

Thank you!...now If I could just find the right woman!

streetglide (imported) wrote: Sun May 31, 2009 10:18 am Thank you!...now If I could just find the right woman!

Or the right man....

Regarding eunuchs being overweight. Most Americans are overweight. So being an overweight American eunuch may have no relevance at all.

Real men have balls. Real eunuch's don't. Other than that everyone is an individual and I would not expect much generalization could be established.

I personally don't know any real eunuch's, but I wish I did because e-mail and bulletin board communications can not possibly substitute for real person to person communications.

And then there is the matter of truth. Whether in type or in the spoken word, even when anonymous (maybe especially when anonymous) you just can't know if a person is telling the truth, or fabricating a want-to-be facade identity.

And to me, bottom line, what a person wants for themselves (as long as it does not harm others) is all that matters. Society's need to study everything and come to generalized conclusions and society's need to control what people can have, just gets in the way of living one's life the way one wants to. Living life, not studying the living of it, results in, well, living one's life to the max.

Most women simply get put off by the sight a bunch of "dicks" whether or not there are any balls included. Most of them that are on the "make" won't bother with what they may percieve as a gay site. And it's also not in their feminine mentallity to be associating with a bunch of "losers" either. Oh well.

nullorchis (imported) wrote: Sun May 31, 2009 7:46 pm Regarding eunuchs being overweight. Most Americans are overweight. So being an overweight American eunuch may have no relevance at all.

Real men have balls. Real eunuch's don't. Other than that everyone is an individual and I would not expect much generalization could be established.

I personally don't know any real eunuch's, but I wish I did because e-mail and bulletin board communications can not possibly substitute for real person to person communications.

And then there is the matter of truth. Whether in type or in the spoken word, even when anonymous (maybe especially when anonymous) you just can't know if a person is telling the truth, or fabricating a want-to-be facade identity.

And to me, bottom line, what a person wants for themselves (as long as it does not harm others) is all that matters. Society's need to study everything and come to generalized conclusions and society's need to control what people can have, just gets in the way of living one's life the way one wants to. Living life, not studying the living of it, results in, well, living one's life to the max.

You may want to attend this years MOM event, I will say now if you do you will meet a lot of eunuchs, me included.

River

Riverwind (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 01, 2009 12:56 pm You may want to attend this years MOM event, I will say now if you do you will meet a lot of eunuchs, me included.

River

Even a eunuch nun -- imagine!

streetglide (imported) wrote: Sun May 31, 2009 10:18 am Thank you!...now If I could just find the right woman!

Go to Eastern Europe. The women there are much more forgiving of imperfections. They have to be. Especially if you go for women over 40. They're a dime a dozen over there in that age range who can't find men. Big gender ratio difference, unlike in the USA, where males outnumber women by 1 million from just 20-34 years. Over there, it's the opposite.

That's what I'm doing. Done it before too, it's easy there for men.

Wow! That is amazing how the us is.

Testman (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 01, 2009 1:39 pm Go to Eastern Europe. The women there are much more forgiving of imperfections. They have to be. Especially if you go for women over 40. They're a dime a dozen over there in that age range who can't find men. Big gender ratio difference, unlike in the USA, where males outnumber women by 1 million from just 20-34 years. Over there, it's the opposite.

That's what I'm doing. Done it before too, it's easy there for men.

devi (imported) wrote: Mon Jun 01, 2009 10:15 am Most women simply get put off by the sight a bunch of "dicks" whether or not there are any balls included. Most of them that are on the "make" won't bother with what they may percieve as a gay site. And it's also not in their feminine mentallity to be associating with a bunch of "losers" either. Oh well.

Seriously?

...I'm glad you know so much about the "feminine mentality."

Well, to his credit, it's hard to know what women like/dislike because they lie so much.

Would it be too optimistic to assume that's a joke?

I suppose I spent too much time at a certain hot springs a few years ago. At that time women would seem to constantly be put off by all the swinging dicks and constantly be whining, pissing and moaning about it all the time and complain that they couldn't go there because they would have to be seeing everyone's dick. I really don't know why but it was so. Eventually a stupid law got passed from these women and do-gooders. So maybe I'm wrong. I don't know. Perhaps each generation has its hang-ups. For a while at the beginning of this decade everybody seemed to be prudes and it was mostly the young adults believe it or not. When I was a kid everybody was expected to NOT wear their clothes into any hot springs with the possible exception of a few of the women.

I do know one thing is that when I am busy reading these threads at the library or at the coffee shop (since I have no home computer) I have three choices about some of these avatars. And that is to either reduce the size of the window and hide the "offending" avatar, shut off all the avatars or else just not read them. I don't read them because the last thing that I need is for somebody to be glancing over my shoulder and kicking me out again for looking at "gay pornography". Going back to the hot springs many women (and men too) would proclaim the place to be taken over by a bunch of "promiscuous gays" but I for one never had sex up there except for me and a special lady at night time when nobody would be around when the place would get snowed in.

This eunuch likes fresh strawberries.

Testman (imported) wrote: Thu Jun 11, 2009 8:34 am Well, to his credit, it's hard to know what women like/dislike because they lie so much.

HEY!

I'll have your balls for bookends!(small paperbacks only, of course.)

Yoli

Mad as Hell and I'm not gonna take it anymore.

Now that the above has been addressed...

Yoli The Sweet-natured Girl here.

What are eunuchs like? Wellllll...I know four eunuchs on a personal basis, two of them on a physically intimate basis. I can honestly state that they are four distinctly different people in both their physical characteristics and personalities.

Barry T, Eunuch...A youthful type. He's slight of build, blond, a bit "Soft" and feminine in appearance; Totally sweet and amazingly funny. A genuinely kind and loving person and lots of fun in sexual play. Small peepee that can manage an insertable stiffie on a good day. His is the only male appendage allowed in any of my ports-of-entry (other than BG's and HE is NOT a eunuch,) with the exception of my new addiction to performing oral sex on "Treasure" (See below.) He also provides occasional anal penetration for "Treasure". Barry is bi-sexual, BTW, but extremely careful and selective.

Houston Eunuch #1...A nice man in his early forties; A courtly gentleman in every way. Not a sex partner (of mine, anyway) but always a pleasant house guest when he visits. Has a BIG peepee which I occasionally am privileged to see (and touch a little, just for the experience of having that thick and rubbery appliance rest in the palm of my hand for a few seconds.)

Houston Eunuch #2...Wellllll, HE has issues and I suspect that's due to the circumstances involved in his castration. Not that he's a bad guy but he is rather reticent and rarely smiles or laughs. He only visits in company with H.E.#1 and will do a "Show" but never a "Tell". Small peepee, BTW, which I've touched ONCE.

"Treasure"...Ahhhhhh...The Asian "ladyboy", introduced by H.E.#1. Early 20's, castrated in "her" teens (age 15, so rumor has it, and that is disturbing to me); Tiny but absolutely lovely peepee which can become a teensy bit larger when engaged in fun 'n games but never gets really hard. Can have orgasms after prolonged fellatio and having another peepee (See: Barry) in "her" tiny hiney helps too. Only a dribble of clearish fluid when "she" gets there. Natural breasts and very feminine in all physical aspects...Features, body shape, hands, feet, and voice. Very light-skinned all over. Fun to shop and engage in "girl talk" with. She lives in Houston, is NOT an "entertainer", and is a whiz at whipping up many different Asian dishes. She now visits independently from H.E.#1.

What are eunuchs like? Well, like intact men, they are a mix of personalities, appearances, and behavior. I feel fortunate to know MY eunuchs.

Yoli

That naughty shopaholic in San Antonio.

FianceeUvBigGuy (imported) wrote: Thu Jun 11, 2009 8:28 pm Now that the above has been addressed...

Yoli The Sweet-natured Girl here.

Yoli

That naughty shopaholic in San Antonio.

But what is goin on here? How many Yoli's are there? Has our lovely Dr Jeykll n Hyde story came true at last?

Oooo my Gush

Greetings to both from istanbul one the mighty constantinople

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P.S: Im a kid from Muppet Show era still in his early thirties

Hi: I'm real new to this site and I'm trying to find out about life as a eunuch. I'm 19 years old and was castrated last december. I guess I am still in shock but it is all hard to understand. As I wrote in my profile, I'm confused and scared. I don't fit many of the discriptions noted in the thread. I am average size, not many physical reactions to what was done to me except for some hot flashes. I am confused about my sexuality now (what the hell am I?) and I'm embarassed (my brothers ridicule me for losing my balls) but I am determined to fit in. This site is great because it provides people like me a chance to fit in somewherre and get to know folks like me. Thanks for giving this a read. Your new friend, Donny Collins

You're among friends here, there are members here who have been castrated as well as members who have been completely nullified. Plenty of people here can relate to what your going through. Don't be afraid to post your questions, we are here to help.

Best Wishes,

KantFeelStuff

FianceeUvBigGuy (imported) wrote: Thu Jun 11, 2009 7:53 pm I'll have your balls for bookends!(small paperbacks only, of course.)

I bet you could suspend them in glass or plastic or something for sturdier bookends!

Thanks for the descriptions of your friends, that was interesting.

And Donny, it's nice to meet you. I'm right around your age, actually.

Don't let your brothers get to you. People tend to react poorly to anything remotely different. That just makes them ignorant; their ridicule doesn't say anything about you, the kind of person you are, or the kind of life you can lead.

donny collins (imported) wrote: Fri Jun 12, 2009 6:26 am Hi: I'm real new to this site and I'm trying to find out about life as a eunuch. I'm 19 years old and was castrated last december. I guess I am still in shock but it is all hard to understand. As I wrote in my profile, I'm confused and scared. I don't fit many of the discriptions noted in the thread. I am average size, not many physical reactions to what was done to me except for some hot flashes. I am confused about my sexuality now (what the hell am I?) and I'm embarassed (my brothers ridicule me for losing my balls) but I am determined to fit in. This site is great because it provides people like me a chance to fit in somewherre and get to know folks like me. Thanks for giving this a read. Your new friend, Donny Collins

Why did you lose your testicles? Injury? Cancer? Choice? I should think anyone who is cruel as a result of the effects of such things as cancer or injury is highly reproachable and ought be fiercely challenged. Do share with us, and welcome.

Hi Guys: Thanks so much for answering my messages and for your kindness. It IS like family here and I am real greatful. I don't know a thing about my condition (except a little I read in a single book) and I didn't understand that so hot. I get a little upset with people laughing at my situation like I wanted this to happen and it is all fun. Some folks do a lot of fantasizing about being castrated and I can't understand that. I don't criticize these folks but i just don't understand it. There is one thing and I got to tell you right off ... I am greatful I found this family. I already feel at home. It is VERY hard for me to talk about what happened to me so I hope that you will be patient with me? It seems like I am still adjusting to the whole thing and it is real hard. Thanks for understanding and I will be participating on this site regular. Thanks again. Donny Collins

Please do not feel pressured to answer anyone. Respond in your own time. We all have many personal reasons and some reasons out of our control for where we are today. Many of us are here to support and listen. You are as welcome as anyone else here. Glad you found us.

Hey Guys: Thanks. Donny

Hi Tugon: Thanks. Donny