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Hi there! After a slightly misguided search for information on Fetlife, I was directed here to acquaint myself with useful resources. I am a trans guy (by some definitions) in a D/s relationship with a eunuch (trans MTE) who has finally scheduled castration for himself soon. (Hooray!) I'm a little nervous right now though about the prospect of personality or temperament changes, and about what else his upcoming castration might mean for me as his servant/boy/property. He'll be taking testosterone afterward, so in theory it seems like maybe not much will change. But I know that theory and practice are rarely the same.

I've read lots about eunuch-identified folks on the lowercase side of the D/s slash as submissives and servants. It makes sense to me that this is the case, but it isn't at all like the dynamic I have with my Sir. Are there any Dominant eunuch tops who feel like chatting about how (or if) castration has impacted your D/s dynamics or your Dominance in general? I would be tickled giddy to hear from you!

I appreciate any information y'all are able and willing to offer, and I am quite excited to have found this resource. Thank you everyone, and happy holidays!

I think you will find that with T replacement his libido will be as good if not better than before depending on his current T levels. T replacement generally is dosed to bring it up to normal which means that of a youngish male! So he maybe be more agile in the bedroom.

It would be advisable for him to supplement vitamin D & Calcium too.

There are many eunuchs here with great libido on T replacement.

The best advise here is usually to try chemical castration first as it is reversible and castration is not.

Thank you for that information!

Does bringing T levels up to "that of a youngish male" also mean the kind of mood swings and temperament changes that come with being a youngish male? I know I've been a royal pain in the ass for everyone around me (despite my best efforts to be a good boy) since I started testosterone myself, but I realize transitioning on the FtM spectrum is not at all the same as what he'll go through.

He's quite looking forward to the irreversibility of physical castration, and I am quite looking forward to him having it at last. He's been wanting it for far too long to settle for anything less. If I could wave a magic wand to speed up the process and have it done for him already, I would in a heartbeat. So would he.

Polygenitalious (imported) wrote: Thu Dec 25, 2014 10:20 am Thank you for that information!

Does bringing T levels up to "that of a youngish male" also mean the kind of mood swings and temperament changes that come with being a youngish male? I know I've been a royal pain in the ass for everyone around me (despite my best efforts to be a good boy) since I started testosterone myself, but I realize transitioning on the FtM spectrum is not at all the same as what he'll go through.

He's quite looking forward to the irreversibility of physical castration, and I am quite looking forward to him having it at last. He's been wanting it for far too long to settle for anything less. If I could wave a magic wand to speed up the process and have it done for him already, I would in a heartbeat. So would he.

It is a great pity that science has not invented a body part exchange technology, it would make a fortune!

This site has loads of info: http://www.nebido.com/en/hcp/therapy/benefits/index.php Nebido is not available in all countries but the T data is valid. Yes, he will get teenage moods and spots too!

I know, right?! I had so many people plead with me not to cut off my tits because they wished they could have them instead. They seriously missed the logic train on how my being unhappy with my body wasn't actually going to make them feel better about theirs. But I do wish I could've done something useful with them. It was a perfectly nice rack while it lasted. I figure there are probably just as many folks who'd love to get a set of hand-me-down testicles, too. I ain't one of 'em though. *shrug*

Thank you for the link! The notion of teenage moods in someone to whom I offer pretty much unrestricted authority and control over my body is... unsettling. But good to know about. This is, after all, what I'm trying to identify before it comes about as a reality, for better or for worse.

Hello Polygenitalious,

Welcome to the zoo. We have all sorts here, as you've probably discovered by now. Has your partner registered yet? If he is planning to become a eunuch, he should be reading the information here and asking relevant questions about his transition. While there is a great variation in results, he needs to be aware of the range and be prepared.

I would agree with Jesus on this, Castration is final, with that in mind there are ways to experience what its like before surgery. Also after surgery what should he expect? this is the place to ask those questions. That is our whole purpose in life.

Welcome to the zoo, and bring your master here as well,

River

JesusA wrote: Sun Dec 28, 2014 5:41 am Has your partner registered yet? If he is planning to become a eunuch, he should be reading the information here and asking relevant questions about his transition. While there is a great variation in results, he needs to be aware of the range and be prepared.

He's been the forum for nearly half a decade now and has met a number of you as well, I'm told. He has not, however, given me explicit permission to identify my relationship to him openly in the forum, so I'll reserve that for him to do if and as he sees fitting. He's exceptionally well-prepared for his castration and what it will mean for him. I'm just catching up all at once!

Thank you all so much for the warm welcome! It's a lot of information to take in, but I am so grateful this resource exists to help me make sense of it all! Y'all are awesome. <3

It is a welcoming zoo, but also a great resource.

Particularly for anyone who is perhaps choosing to get nutted, this is the place to read and ask.

There may be great contentment coming to you both, but I am troubled when someone may be considering being a eunuch to please another. The bodies belong to their original owners, not anyone else. It seems great care is needed.

That is also the reason that I believe one should be free to do with one's own carcass as one pleases: get a tat, get nutted, be a nullo, or M2F -all with due consideration. We have some stages in life obliged on us: baby, kid, youth, invincible, codger... and some we can choose: our partner, career(s), eunuch, nullo, AARP, whatever life stage is right for you next.

Choose with care, and be free to choose it.

Polygenitalious (imported) wrote: Sun Dec 28, 2014 1:45 pm He's been the forum for nearly half a decade now and has met a number of you as well, I'm told. He has not, however, given me explicit permission to identify my relationship to him openly in the forum, so I'll reserve that for him to do if and as he sees fitting. He's exceptionally well-prepared for his castration and what it will mean for him. I'm just catching up all at once!

Thank you all so much for the warm welcome! It's a lot of information to take in, but I am so grateful this resource exists to help me make sense of it all! Y'all are awesome. <3

I also know who the person you're referring to is, and I'll keep that to myself and let them out themselves if they so desire.

I will repeat here what I said on FetLife - you're over thinking this. I'm not saying that to be harsh or mean.

I know your desire is to be helpful and as fully understand what is going to happen to your boyfriend when his testicles are removed as you can, but as a person who has had that surgery myself it's mostly a non-event for those around them. If he's taking testosterone after he does it, he'll pretty much function as he does now, only he'll be sterile. The reason it is so much different for you is you went from having miniscule amounts of testosterone in your system to having tons of it. So for you the change is a lot more noticeable.

What you should watch out for is a lowered libido - essentially if he doesn't take testosterone after it's done, his sex drive is likely to crash. Hard. What you'll notice is that he'll just suddenly cease caring about sex and will be perfectly fine with your taking care of your own sexual needs through masturbation. He might be interested if you initiate activity, but don't count on a lot of sexual initiative from him. Basically, if he doesn't take testosterone, he'll have the OPPOSITE effect you experienced.

Again, you're over thinking this. I'm guessing not much will change for the two of you other than after he won't have balls anymore.

--LT

Losethem (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 29, 2014 2:37 pm I also know who the person you're referring to is, and I'll keep that to myself and let them out themselves if they so desire.

I will repeat here what I said on FetLife - you're over thinking this. I'm not saying that to be harsh or mean.

I know your desire is to be helpful and as fully understand what is going to happen to your boyfriend when his testicles are removed as you can, but as a person who has had that surgery myself it's mostly a non-event for those around them. If he's taking testosterone after he does it, he'll pretty much function as he does now, only he'll be sterile. The reason it is so much different for you is you went from having miniscule amounts of testosterone in your system to having tons of it. So for you the change is a lot more noticeable.

What you should watch out for is a lowered libido - essentially if he doesn't take testosterone after it's done, his sex drive is likely to crash. Hard. What you'll notice is that he'll just suddenly cease caring about sex and will be perfectly fine with your taking care of your own sexual needs through masturbation. He might be interested if you initiate activity, but don't count on a lot of sexual initiative from him. Basically, if he doesn't take testosterone, he'll have the OPPOSITE effect you experienced.

--LT

Thank you. He told me that you're right: I am overthinking this. At the same time, that's pretty much my MO when it comes to Big Questions. I could blame autism, but he just calls it "one of my features".

There actually isn't any before/after change for me to be aware of in terms of sexual function. We don't currently have a sexual relationship. I don't know if we ever will (that's entirely up to him). So his sex drive isn't nearly as much a concern of mine as just his overall mood, energy, and behavioral consistency. I've read things about the phenomenon known as "eunuch calm", which sounds like a lovely place to be but entails a substantial shift in overall disposition -- one that sounds not especially compatible with Dominance, perhaps?

I am not nearly so anxious about this as I was the first couple days (when I posted on Fetlife), to be fair. At the time, I had a lot of other things going on in my head, too, combined with a general lack of understanding about what all this might mean. I had a moment of intense panic at first, like Oh god, my Sir might be going away and never coming back! I might have some abandonment issues going on there. :p I don't really feel that way so much now though, as I've done more reading and sorted through more of my feelings about all this.

daifu-orchid (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 29, 2014 1:08 pm The bodies belong to their original owners, not anyone else. It seems great care is needed.

Choose with care, and be free to choose it.

YES. I actually stumbled upon some erotica the other day here; it was the first story I came to. I had the most ridiculous sort of panic about it because the guy in the story was getting his bits cut off for an M/s relationship with a partner he'd only known maybe 6 months, and my brain just went splat. I was trying to envision Sir doing precisely this, being in a position where if the right person came along, he'd just give up something so important to him on a whim -- and I know that doesn't make any sense, because that's not how he is at all. But it definitely disturbed me to consider that possibility for a while. I'm glad to have since encountered other accounts of being a eunuch that involve personal agency, choice, consent, and what I would consider healthy decision-making. I think he is absolutely doing this for all the right reasons.