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Hi, it is time for me to join many of you and become and Eunch. I have a clear plan to achieve this and am already on my way. I am married with children and would would realy like to continue this, just not with testosterone as I am done with that. From your experiences how is married life after becomming and Eunch?

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What is your reason for wanting to become a eunuch?

For too long I have been distracted by my sex drive, i do not like what it makes me think and how it makes me feel. I also have a degree of TG desire in me that is not a sexual desire. Overall I just want to be at piece with myself and be able to be myself if that makes sense?

An sorry about the typo in the title I can't see how to correct this.

Hunter666 (imported) wrote: Sat Aug 08, 2015 3:57 pm For too long I have been distracted by my sex drive, i do not like what it makes me think and how it makes me feel. I also have a degree of TG desire in me that is not a sexual desire. Overall I just want to be at piece with myself and be able to be myself if that makes sense?

Yes of course it makes sense

A long time ago, like decades ago I had reasoned that a man rather than a woman would normally make a better partner for a eunuch, even though more attracted to women.

Devi, I understand your point, can't easily turn back time on that one though. I suppose my question is around whether a female who is used to a non castrated husband could the relationship continue without turning the whole world for me upside down?

Hunter666 (imported) wrote: Sat Aug 08, 2015 3:44 pm From your experiences how is married life after becomming and Eunch?

This would depend upon how sexual your wife currently is, I suppose.

Well a sort of one a month person since the children came along so I suppose that helps frame this in a way. That said am 3 months in on hormones and this has not been noticed and thinking back it was at least 2 months back since we had sex. I know there's lots I can still do even if I can't get it up as they say but hope that the thought of this does not create an issue for us - thanks for your comments.

Well a sort of one a month...

Hunter666 (imported) wrote: Sun Aug 09, 2015 4:47 am and thinking back it was at least 2 months back since we had sex ...

Sounds as though your wife is no longer interested in sex. You might want to have a discussion with her and tell her that you can take a pill to reduce your own sex drive to be compatible sexually. She might agree and your path to reaching your goal will be easier for you.

Yes, step by step I suppose would be better and am not rushing into this at speed so will start the conversation off ��. Thanks for you comments.

My wife & I are both in our early 50's. I've been on T suppression which is supervised by our PCP (we both see the same one) for quite some time now. My wife & I have been having many discussions about moving from Chemical Castration to Surgical. I've really been questioning my wife & getting her thoughts. My wife has been with me to every appointment with my PCP, Psychiatrist, Psychologist, & every other Professional that would have input.

Last week I put it to the point with my wife. I asked "Do you believe that I should have the Testicular Removal Surgery?" My wife flat out said that I should & explained why I should in that since I've started the Chemical Castration my wild Bipolar Mood Swings have stopped & I'm a really great guy now! She also told me that maybe for once my chronic testicular pain that I've fought for about 10 years will be gone!

Hope that helps!

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bigdude1 (imported) wrote: Sat Sep 19, 2015 10:40 am My wife & I have been having many discussions about moving from Chemical Castration to Surgical. I've really been questioning my wife & getting her thoughts. ... I asked "Do you believe that I should have the Testicular Removal Surgery?" My wife flat out said that I should & ...[s]he also told me that maybe for once my chronic testicular pain ...

will be gone!

This is why you want to have your SO involved in the process. It so much easier in many ways if she or he is supportive. Its an evolution that can result in assent. When it came to making my own decision, my spouse ultimately said it was up to me and she wouldn't say no. Her acceptance made it so much simpler for me to go through with it.

unencumbered got it right. If you are in a good marriage spousal support for all endeavors is important. We never would have been able to build our moderately successful small business without both of us giving it our all. Same goes for all health issues including my recent castration. We are both aware, involved and supportive in all of each other's health issues. Beside with so many procedures now being out-patient under general anesthetic someone has to drive the groggy one back home.

Seriously, I don't foresee any changes in our lives simply because I'm now a eunuch.

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Hunter666 (imported) wrote: Sun Aug 09, 2015 2:11 am I suppose my question is around whether a female who is used to a non castrated husband could the relationship continue without turning the whole world for me upside down?

This concern becomes reality for typically older men who are castrated either surgically or by prescribed drugs as Androgen Deprivation Therapy ("ADT") to control otherwise uncured prostate cancer and who, until then, have been actively sexual with female partners. These reluctantly castrated men vastly outnumber those who were voluntarily castrated for other purposes. For most of them, ADT ruins nearly all of their interest in sex and their genital organs' ability to participate in procreative-type sex acts.

There are many support groups and information sources for couples in this situation. An online search beginning with "prostate cancer" will turn up many of them. An affordable book by Richard J. Wassersug, PhD, et al, titled, "Androgen Deprivation Therapy - An Essential Guide for Prostate Cancer Patients and Their Loved Ones" has two of its eight chapters devoted to the effects of ADT on intimate relationships. I read it when I was expecting a recurrence of my treated prostate cancer to be confirmed and a new relationship beckoned. I concluded that it would be better if she didn't need coitus and would settle for oral and manual.

Your situation lacks only the prostate cancer motivation for considering castration, yet it doesn't preclude taking enough replacement testosterone after castration to satisfy your lady and yourself.

My wife and I both really enjoy sex when we have it, but don't have it very often these days. We both would want to stay together even if we never had sex again. My problem is that I also test positive for sex addiction; I just don't follow through with it. A short experience with chemical castration abolished my sex addiction and I enjoyed having the burden of sexuality removed. Don't know if I'd ever miss it if I were castrated. I suspect that if there were a simple, problem-free, way to switch off my sex drive I'd probably never want to switch it back on. I suspect my wife would feel the same.

notsomanly (imported) wrote: Sat Sep 26, 2015 11:19 pm Don't know if I'd ever miss it if I were castrated. I suspect that if there were a simple, problem-free, way to switch off my sex drive I'd probably never want to switch it back on. I suspect my wife would feel the same.

If you lose your ability to produce testosterone, as castration does, you lose your desire for sex. You don't miss it. Its no longer something one thinks about anymore, even if he consciously tries to, from my experience. You need to have enough testosterone in your body to want it and to be able to perform sexually.

I was divorced years before I got castrated, so I may not be able to help in that area however as a eunuch I can tell you I don't think about sex, ever. So as long as your wife is on board with this and is with you every step of the way then okay but remember once they are gone, there gone.

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Riverwind (imported) wrote: Sun Sep 27, 2015 6:13 am remember once they are gone, there gone.

Of course, if one uses supplemental testosterone, the desire and ability returns.

Just so. keep the missus / laopo with you all the way.

These are deep issues and need the deepest of sharing, IMHO.

I have found that after castration and low level TRT that sex is better than ever before, as my imperative to penetrate and orgasm has radically diminished and I now enjoy the kissing, cuddling etc much more and that I am now a much better lover to the lady in my life.

My wife already has orgasms much more frequently without penetration than with it, so I've know how to please her without it. I can easily imagine that not being concerned about my own sexual pleasure at all could make me a better lover for her.

I've noticed that since I was castrated, my desire for sex is much reduced, even though I am on TRT and my T level is in the normal range. I just don't think about sex very much these days and when I see an attractive woman, I don't have the immediate desire to have sex with her. Even if I momentarily think about it, I quickly dismiss the thought realizing I probably couldn't do anything anyway. My thought then quickly goes to something like "she's really attractive" and the thought of sex isn't that appealing. And like Micdavi24, I look forward to just being with my wife and cuddling. It seems like I have been "tamed," if you know what I mean. I feel great and overall think it is a big improvement for me. However, it's another YMMV situation. Everyone is a little different.

I'm the the same I use T when I clan be bothered to put it on and now my sex life is very low but when I do have sex it's so much better it takes much longer I I get a couple of dry orgasams then one amazing toe turning one. My main Bromley now is because my is low my penus is shrinking and I can't get a full election which is a problem I will have to see my doctor may be it's time for viagra.

Energizer (imported) wrote: Tue Oct 06, 2015 8:15 am I've noticed that since I was castrated, my desire for sex is much reduced, even though I am on TRT and my T level is in the normal range. I just don't think about sex very much these days and when I see an attractive woman, I don't have the immediate desire to have sex with her. Even if I momentarily think about it, I quickly dismiss the thought realizing I probably couldn't do anything anyway. My thought then quickly goes to something like "she's really attractive" and the thought of sex isn't that appealing. And like Micdavi24, I look forward to just being with my wife and cuddling. It seems like I have been "tamed," if you know what I mean. I feel great and overall think it is a big improvement for me. However, it's another YMMV situation. Everyone is a little different.

This way of being is very appealing to me.