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For the past few months I've been going out with a wonderful girl who I've told about my interest in castration. To put things into context, we've been friends for about 4 years and are both active in our local fetish scene, which made all the "usual" awkwardness surrounding talking about each other's fantasies pretty much a non-issue as we'd discussed topics like that numerous times in the past. We both share several kinks we enjoy and its through these that we sparked up our initial friendship as well as share a few common ones we both would like to explore. I'd always held back on directly saying I am interested in castration as for some it can be seem too extreme, but each to their own I always say when the topic ever arises.

With my girlfriend however I felt I could be open enough to tell her my interest in it, and I'm so glad I did, she didn't seem to mind in the least. Must be the benefits of having an open-minded and kinky girlfriend I guess. She herself is into body modification and has quite a detailed long term plan for what she wants to have done down the line, most notably breast augmentation and nipple removal.

She has made it clear that castration is to be nothing more than fantasy for now, and we have started adding a little castration play into our sex life which she seems to like. It's not a critical element to our fun, but it's becoming something we both enjoy more and more as we explore. Little things like when we're in bed and she squeezes my scrotum and whispers in my ear that it feels "empty" or when I sometimes push my balls up into my abdomen when we have sex.

I realize we're a far cry from actually seeking castration (yet), but so far everything seems to be moving along ok. We're exploring what we like and having fun along the way. So I guess my questions are;

Do any other couples do similar, or have you taken it further?

What games do you uncut couples like us like to try? We're up for trying almost anything (safe & sane) you suggest.

thanks

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Kynetic01 (imported) wrote: Tue Aug 30, 2016 3:19 am Do any other couples do similar, or have you taken it further?

What games do you uncut couples like us like to try? We're up for trying almost anything (safe & sane) you suggest.

thanks

When my hubby and I got married, over two decades ago, he took a stack of recipe cards and wrote on each card something he'd find exciting for me to do to him: bondage, sexual teasing, abusing his genitals, mock castration, leading him around the house by a rope attached to his testicles, pretending I was going to hang him by his testicles, etc. Then he gave me the cards and invited me to pick one that I found amusing, or pick one at random, and do to him what was on the card. The cards have long since been abandoned since I got to know what he liked and how much he was okay with my improvising, but it got the ball(s) rolling. Have fun, but play safe.

Sandi

What an awesome idea Sandi, thanks so much for sharing it. I love how it can be both random and pre-chosen. We could do a set for each other also and see where it goes from there.

Sandi's right. At first things seem pretty far out but as time goes on and you indulge in fantasy play it takes more to excite you. And the more you hang around EA, the more you'll discover. I think I joined around 2011 or 12. It went from simple curiosity to being castrated last year. So, enjoy yourself but don't be surprised where you might land.

I imagine that's how most people develop Nvrgag44, I mean it usually starts with a initial idea and starts rolling from there. She's made it clear it's all a fantasy for now as she (and I) are quite happy with our sex life as it is at the moment. I can't tell what the future will bring, but so far we're having fun exploring things.

Your profile says you're 33. I'm 72. That's a big difference and I had other health issues too. So, while I'm glad they're gone now I would have undoubtedly felt different about it at age 33.

We're both quite happy with the way things are at the moment Nvrgag44. I don't have any plans to undergo any surgery anytime soon, we're both level headed enough to know this is within the realm of sexual play and fantasy for the foreseeable future.

You're very lucky. Not only do you have someone to explore the fetish with, you've both understood that for now it's a fantasy. In the nearly twenty years since I started being open and discussing it, it's brought me nothing but shame and pain.

That's pretty much the boat I'm in, except my wife is very not kinky, but she still tells me she wants to take my balls and will put needles in them when I ask.

We went through all the fetish steps, to banding, and injections. I finally had a bilateral orchiectomy performed by a urologist, after i proved to him that I had chronic bilateral testicular pain from a vasectomy after 20 years. After jumping through some hoops, he finally performed it for me. It was the best thing I have ever done. I am on TRT to keep my wife happy, but low enough that i have no sex drive. My wife is much happier. I am much calmer. I stay home and do not roam.

CuriousSteve (imported) wrote: Wed Sep 07, 2016 8:13 pm That's pretty much the boat I'm in, except my wife is very not kinky, but she still tells me she wants to take my balls and will put needles in them when I ask.

Actually that is fairly kinky. Needle play is usually a sign of willingness to go pretty far with S&M. It means that she's okay with causing pain, okay with causing damage, and not squeamish about blood.

It's kinda sad that a lot of guys experience shaming and pain for expressing a real concern in their lives. Society does seem quite one sided on issues such as castration. For example if a woman expressed that she has serious self-esteem issues that she felt breast surgery would help with then the majority of people would feel supportive, however when a man wishes to no longer have testicles then he's is viewed in a totally different light.

Of course that's not to say women have it easy or anything like that, they are haunted by a whole different set of social stigmas, including castration. I remember reading an article written by a young woman (I think she said she was in her 20's) who was seeking have an operation to have her sterilized. She had a family history of high risk pregnancy and also didn't want to have children. She thought those reasons would be enough to convince a doctor that her decision was the right one, but came up against a huge wall of resistance. The underlying one being that she would "regret" her decision and prehaps even sue the surgeon in the future. It does seem that society's stigma to castration is not limited to men.

There was only one girl I was ever with who I told about the castration fantasy. She took it well and ran with it, but it did have an unusual and not so good effect on our love making. We were fucking and things were going along fine, I wasn't close to cumming. She reached down held my balls and said "If you cum before I do these are coming off." That triggered me into orgasm immediately! Thank goodness it was just play!

Hahaha lucky indeed Chastebob.

Kynetic01 (imported) wrote: Tue Sep 27, 2016 9:53 pm Hahaha lucky indeed Chastebob.

True! But it was the first time I realized that the castration fantasy had quite a powerful grip on my libido. Up to then it was just one of many things that could get me turned on in a story.

Anything that helps get you there in the spur of the moment is a good thing, right