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Hello there,

I am completely new to this site. I was looking through the internet to find help on my situation. I am a 25 year old, healthy guy with a great girlfriend in a relationship for 4 years. We have a great sexlife, life is going good in general, we are planning on getting married quiet soon.

For about 5 years I started having fantasies about my own castration. I thought it was very strange, but of course that did not stop me from having those thoughts. Over the years, these fantasies have manifested into a very strong desire. I really want to get rid of my balls once and for all. I know this is not just something sexual, this desire doesn't stop after masturbation. It is always somewhere there. In everyday's life, always thoughts about this.

My girlfriend is the more dominant and leading in the relationship and in sex. I have always been kinda sub throughout all my life. My first girlfriend was more dom, my brother was always the dominant in the family, my current girl is dominant. So I think that kinda plays into it.

My girl at one point wants to have children, so that is problematic ...I have not talked to my gf about this yet, but I know she has a thing for strange stuff like this.

So, I wanna know ... is this normal? Do people here experience this aswell? Any advice? Open for every thought on this. Open to answer questions. Open to share with you guys. Also willing to post pictures if requested.

You're also bisexual?

I have never had any sexual encounters whatsoever with men, some flirting, yes, but I have to admit I do experience sexual desires to men. So yeah, I would consider myself bi, but definately more attracted to women.

very honest, you do have a journey in front of you, I recommend you save some sperm before you do anything permanent. Not having children could prove a big hurdle in the future for your soon to be wife. Every thing else you mention can be dealt with. All the best to both of you.

Thank you very much. Yeah, the sperm saving was an idea of mine. Would it be off turning or be a reason for a woman to leave her partner, if he wanted to be castrated? Or could one be reasonable about it?

I'm a afraid a young woman would not accept having a husband who rarely if ever has sex with her.

CuriousGuy (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 12, 2016 6:16 am Thank you very much. Yeah, the sperm saving was an idea of mine. Would it be off turning or be a reason for a woman to leave her partner, if he wanted to be castrated? Or could one be reasonable about it?

Jorge2008 (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 12, 2016 6:18 am I'm a afraid a young woman would not accept having a husband who rarely if ever has sex with her.

what about satisfying her in other ways? oral or whatever is possible

One issue is whether she'd like it (your guess is obviously better than mine here) and be satisfied with it, but the other issue is that a castrated male simply wouldn't like to engage in sexual things. When I masturbate and cum, then thereafter I simply lose any interest in sexual matters and the wish to engage in it for a while after the orgasm, I guess a castrated male has such a disinterest in sexual matters on a permanent basis.

CuriousGuy (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 12, 2016 6:30 am what about satisfying her in other ways? oral or whatever is possible

I'm a few years younger and have similar questions. Send any pics to [email protected]. Complicating matters for me, I'm particularly well endowed which makes my cock a big part of my identity. There's days I'd welcome it being stuffed in someone's dresser to bring her pleasure, or suspended in a jar on someone's desk.

Please, please, don't spring this desire for castration on her after you're married. She needs to know what she's getting into before she ties the knot. She may well decide she can't handle having a husband with no sexual desire and no possibility of having children. Even if you bank some sperm, the whole idea may be such a turn-off that she will bail out on you. If that's the case, better that it should happen before you add the complexity of a divorce or a marriage with resentment from the start.

Sandi

Thus far, this is the most practical suggestion made to this young man. You need to put the best interests of the woman and potential children ahead of your interest in castration. Marriage is much more than meeting the sexual needs and desires of either person within the marriage, especially when children are a part of the marriage, with all of the long-term emotional, psychological, and other ramifications associated with any given decision.

As is so often suggested on this forum, you may want to give chemical castration a trial run, with or without knowledge of your girlfriend. The chemical castration trial will certainly given a realistic indication of the effects on the relationship and individual affects for both of you.

No matter what you do, give your situation much thought and time before acting, and if content on marrying, please discuss your desire with your girlfriend prior to marriage should discern castration is the right path for you.

C&TL2745 (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 12, 2016 1:08 pm Please, please, don't spring this desire for castration on her after you're married. She needs to know what she's getting into before she ties the knot. She may well decide she can't handle having a husband with no sexual desire and no possibility of having children. Even if you bank some sperm, the whole idea may be such a turn-off that she will bail out on you. If that's the case, better that it should happen before you add the complexity of a divorce or a marriage with resentment from the start.

Sandi

Wow, yeah ... this is the most helpful entry so far. Yeah, I really wanna talk to her about it, but of course I need the right amount of courage first ... how do you break the ice to your partner on a topic like that? Are there other possibilities to keep the sexual desire alive / to keep her sexually happy?

C&TL2745 (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 12, 2016 1:08 pm Please, please, don't spring this desire for castration on her after you're married. She needs to know what she's getting into before she ties the knot. She may well decide she can't handle having a husband with no sexual desire and no possibility of having children. Even if you bank some sperm, the whole idea may be such a turn-off that she will bail out on you. If that's the case, better that it should happen before you add the complexity of a divorce or a marriage with resentment from the start.

Sandi

Yeah, that actually sounds like good advice. Thank you for this. I really should look into this. But yeah, an open talk with her would be the first step, but I am yet not sure how to start this.

nutless1 (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 12, 2016 8:07 pm Thus far, this is the most practical suggestion made to this young man. You need to put the best interests of the woman and potential children ahead of your interest in castration. Marriage is much more than meeting the sexual needs and desires of either person within the marriage, especially when children are a part of the marriage, with all of the long-term emotional, psychological, and other ramifications associated with any given decision.

As is so often suggested on this forum, you may want to give chemical castration a trial run, with or without knowledge of your girlfriend. The chemical castration trial will certainly given a realistic indication of the effects on the relationship and individual affects for both of you.

No matter what you do, give your situation much thought and time before acting, and if content on marrying, please discuss your desire with your girlfriend prior to marriage should discern castration is the right path for you.

So, you desire a penectomy?

rogerwpbfl (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 12, 2016 10:34 am I'm a few years younger and have similar questions. Send any pics to [email protected]. Complicating matters for me, I'm particularly well endowed which makes my cock a big part of my identity. There's days I'd welcome it being stuffed in someone's dresser to bring her pleasure, or suspended in a jar on someone's desk.

But is it not rather normal to lose a good portion of sexual interest after masturbation?

Jorge2008 (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 12, 2016 6:39 am One issue is whether she'd like it (your guess is obviously better than mine here) and be satisfied with it, but the other issue is that a castrated male simply wouldn't like to engage in sexual things. When I masturbate and cum, then thereafter I simply lose any interest in sexual matters and the wish to engage in it for a while after the orgasm, I guess a castrated male has such a disinterest in sexual matters on a permanent basis.

It is normal to lose some of your sexual desire after ejaculation but it returns shortly. I went for two and a half years no T and sexual drive was pretty much non existent and did not fully return with TRT.

rogerwpbfl (imported) wrote: Mon Dec 12, 2016 10:34 am I'm a few years younger and have similar questions. Send any pics to [email protected]. Complicating matters for me, I'm particularly well endowed which makes my cock a big part of my identity. There's days I'd welcome it being stuffed in someone's dresser to bring her pleasure, or suspended in a jar on someone's desk.

Really? I think all that YOU need is to find is a girl who enjoys being fisted. They are out there.

Yes, this is normal. But the interest returns after some time. But in case of a eunuch, it is probably a permanent status.

CuriousGuy (imported) wrote: Tue Dec 13, 2016 3:01 am But is it not rather normal to lose a good portion of sexual interest after masturbation?

Oh yes of course. You can go on replacement testosterone therapy an your sexual desires and abilities will return. I'm over 50 now, and I'm the horniest person I know even including a great many young bucks out there. To those who don't have norman "response" to TRT, that issue isn't physiological in nature.

CuriousGuy (imported) wrote: Tue Dec 13, 2016 2:55 am Wow, yeah ... this is the most helpful entry so far. Yeah, I really wanna talk to her about it, but of course I need the right amount of courage first ... how do you break the ice to your partner on a topic like that? Are there other possibilities to keep the sexual desire alive / to keep her sexually happy?

Jorge2008 (imported) wrote: Tue Dec 13, 2016 8:58 pm Yes, this is normal. But the interest returns after some time. But in case of a eunuch, it is probably a permanent status.

I'd best describe mine as changed rather than gone. I may not be horny in the classical sense anymore by not having this primal lust for a girl though I do have this calculated intellectual kink interest that lingers around. The feeling of closeness matters more than the orgasm and the desire to some of my more extreme kinks such as extreme bondage is higher than before whereas other kinks almost went away. Each one of us is different and I can only speak in generalities or in what I personally experience. I have a mostly non sexual ABDL side of me which came out after my T dropped so that has biased my experiences a bit.

The one thing I will definitely recommend is take anti androgens for a trial run and not to permanently kill your testicles. Interesting issues pop up that you thought weren't issues such as children and self-image which must be taken care of early or you'll suffer for it. Thankfully I didn't really want biological children anyway though a part of me will regret what I've done. On the plus side it opened up the door for adoption.

I take some issue with the statement about loss of abilities or sex drive not being physiological as I saw no T for over 2.5 years and the doctor said over time the receptors can be affected.

I agree. Absolutely you must deal and resolve this in your life one way or the other before any wedding plans are made. If you truly love your girlfriend you will bring this up and discuss all the aspects discussed in this discussion. Selfless love demands this of you. Your girlfriend needs to evaluate and decide for herself if she can live the lifestyle castration produces, as it is not marriage and sex as usual. Best wishes in your discernment and decision.

For me, at least, I've come to understand that the desire is a fantasy. Naturally submissive, the thought of losing my desire for sex yet still having to pleasure the other person is an incredible turnon. If I ever do meet another guy who was into it, the most I'd likely do is chastity or chemical methods. The best advice I can offer to you is to do serious soul searching before you go through with anything permanent. Dreams I have had have helped guide my way - where I lost things permanently and felt immeasurable grief. Definitely open up to her before you get married, though I cannot advise you how to broach the subject with her. Married couples need to be open and honest with one another to have a successful and happy marriage.