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I had some good news a few weeks ago. I was told I'd be taking on more work, more responsibility. Of course, I'll be promoted and given a raise but....thats all I know. I don't know when this promotion comes, or what percentage I'll be receiving, nothing. I need some good news. I'm trying to start my life again at 40.

Congratulations ! Good for you ! More power to you !

After you get used to your new job, you will wonder why you ever worried about taking on more power and responsibility now. Enjoy your promotion.

Congratulations, indeed! This will be exciting for you, and it will be 'the new normal' before you know it .

Do enforce your own best interests, though. Don't let them give you the real increase in workload and responsibility while being vague about a 'future financial benefit'. Make sure they dedicate to something agreeable to you. I've been burned by vague promises before in this situation.

Of course, yours is likely all above-board, and I wish you the best!

When a door opens, you have to decide. In the end - often with hesitations - I have decided to go thru the door. The most interesting lives are not linear affairs.

Life is a lot more fun, interesting, and successful if you take carefully calculated risks and don t always play it safe.

cutnbulls2ox (imported) wrote: Fri Feb 01, 2019 3:18 am Life is a lot more fun, interesting, and successful if you take carefully calculated risks and don t always play it safe.

toast to that one cutnbulls2ox.

Life is itself one of those calculated risks once we shed our inhibitions. Loving mine and never want to go back to how it was before.

Freedom is how we see ourselves through our eyes rather than those of others.

Thanks Begoneboy !

We seem to think a lot alike ! Thanks for your kind and very appreciated comments !

Its too bad everyone on here is spread so far apart around the world. Think of the wild fun we could all have if we all lived closer together lol ! Wild gelding and nullo orgies with us still dicked and balled men and appreciative women mobbing all you cut guys !

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cutnbulls2ox (imported) wrote: Wed Feb 06, 2019 3:24 am Its too bad everyone on here is spread so far apart around the world. Think of the wild fun we could all have if we all lived closer together lol ! Wild gelding and nullo orgies with us still dicked and balled men and appreciative women mobbing all you cut guys !

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That would indeed be some get-together!

Probably a good thing for many that we are all spread over the globe. While I may be in Mexico at the moment, come May I'll be running all over the States getting into as much havoc as this motorbike can carry me to. Mechanical problems may have kept me from the MoM event last year that won't be the case this next time around. Hopefully I will one day (sooner than later I hope) get to meet some of the folks in here. After all, living the good life needs to be shared with others.

Yesterday I was told that my promotion has to wait until April. Feeling demoralized.

Poor_pup_no_balls (imported) wrote: Wed Feb 06, 2019 1:07 pm Yesterday I was told that my promotion has to wait until April. Feeling demoralized.

You shouldn't allow some other entity's (company) financial problems to effect how you feel about yourself. For one thing April is just around the corner. For another, pick yourself up and make your own feeling about yourself. Quit allowing your feeling about yourself being dependent upon what somebody else does. And NEVER put a price tag on how you feel about yourself. My personal self worth has nothing to do with how much another pays me or how much work is thrust upon me by another.

after losing my spouse I felt as though my world had ended. And in some ways it had. In order for me to go on I needed to pick myself up off the floor and stop feeling (woe is me). It was a hard thing to do. And I still may not be in the best place a year and a half later but I'm moving forward even though he won't be returning in April. Or ever. He is simply no longer. His ashes are on my living room mantle. That as a reminder to just keep moving forward. So start moving forward. At 40 you got the best yet ahead.

In my experience it often is not you who is inadequate but that the other person throwing shit at you, because of their own problems and hang ups.

Lesley (imported) wrote: Sat Feb 09, 2019 11:54 am In my experience it often is not you who is inadequate but that the other person throwing shit at you, because of their own problems and hang ups.

Hey there my friends, Just a little 'all about me' from the southern hemisphere, for what its worth? I have owned and run a small auto repair shop since I was 21, 1983? My bosses have been me, my clients, my work ethic, my functionality, my personality, my hard won knowledge and my ability to apply it. Some think that it must be a sweet number to be self employed for 35 yrs. No one to be answerable to, not! I get no sick pay, no holidays, no breaks with insurance, rates bills, unpaid bills, grumpy clients shit cars, changes in technology, compliance, building and equipment maintenance, losing good staff, employing crap staff, being the 'go to guy' in the village. Even if you are unwell, and I have been, absolutely no empathy. But I have carved my way, pushed the shit out of my self. Sick as a dog, gone to work. Others look at me as a super human. The good thing has been that I have helped generations of people to grow up. My 'boys', known them since they were toddlers. Local kids, are back with their families, raising them here. My kids, happy ,healthy, working. The grumpy old man, to be fair, I'l always give you a break tho dont suffer fools. Mates my age went off shore, earnt big coin, asset rich. Didnt see their kids grow up. I'm life rich, asset poor. My only wish is that I could pass this amazing site on to someone that could experience what I have. But now its a different era, Sorry about the rant, Brycee

Brycee. I recently read a good article about two kinds of people: people from somewhere and people from anywhere. You are the first type and I am the second, but I had a glimpse of the first when I lived in Winnemucca, NV and really got involved in the town for a couple of years until economic reality led me elsewhere which turned into all over the place. I really enjoyed that town where going to the grocery store was a social event. On the interstate and having gambling, it had its share of transient and untrustworthy people, but also had rock solid people whom I appreciated just for that. I don't view one path as better than the other, it is just that we all have different life journeys. I feel I ended up with a life that is exactly right for me and I suspect you feel the same about yours. Good for us! And sorry about the rant.

Still no update. I don't think I'm valued at work. Which is fine I guess. I have no value anywhere else either.

Update: boss is finally working on my promotion. It will come with a very, very, very small raise, no discussion on the amount.