Excellent set of questions Swim, I will do what I can to answer them from my experience, anyone else feel free to chime in as well...
Swim1650 wrote: Mon Oct 27, 2025 7:06 pm
Thank you for taking the time for such a detailed response. I actually live in the US but did spend a lot of time in Israel when I was younger.
I understand the need for me to demonstrate I understand the procedure, how it will affect me, the risks involved, and that I’m pursuing this for the right reasons. As I read the document (about a week ago), as I recall, WPATH said a Eunuch is assigned male at birth who desires to remove or inactivate their reproductive organs. I guess the question by that definition is identifying as a Eunuch body dysmorphia or actual gender dysphoria? I still feel and desire to be otherwise masculine. Is body dysphoria enough to warrant intervention? In other contexts, I’ve seen people discuss being a Eunuch or Nullo as non-binary, which in some ways resonates less with me. On the other hand, my sincere desire to get rid of my penis is not typical of most men.
The impression I got from my docs (including the shrinks) is they really didn't care all that much about the psych definitions and labels, but that I was well informed and definite in my desires and goals. They did a fair bit of "have you considered <option>?" and expected you to be coming back with something on the order of "I have considered <option> and don't want that because <reason>"
On my first visit the doc asked my permission to put a 'gender disphoria' diagnosis on my record, with the explanation that it really didn't mean much but would make life easier in terms of convincing my insurance to pay for further care... Ditto the whole binary / non-binary question, and being "transsexual" - those are labels and descriptions, they aren't "YOU", and mostly it is up to you whether you want to apply them to yourself in anything other than a technical sense. (other people may use them, but that's their problem, not yours....)
Swim1650 wrote: Mon Oct 27, 2025 7:06 pm
The next question I have is regarding the typical requirement to socially transition for a year and trial hormones. I’m not sure how I really socially transition to being a Eunuch. My intention if castrated would be to take testosterone to maintain my masculine physique elsewhere. WPATH mentions androgen suppression prior to castration as an option to reduce sexual function… maybe that’s worth trying but I feel like reducing T comes with a lot of undesirable issues for me like muscle loss, weight gain, depressed mood, etc. The only reason I might consider that was if maintaining lower T-levels (before and after castration) would atrophy my penis enough so that I didn’t feel the need to have a penectomy. I’m not sure that’s realistic especially without affecting my body in other un wanted ways.
The question of "transitioning" and what constitutes "presenting as a eunuch" has been a frequent topic of amusement among us, as we have yet to figure out what it is we are supposed to be transitioning INTO... It seems this is mostly a carryover from the binary M<->F guidelines and doesn't mean much. I know that I asked the question in my psych evals, and the therapist didn't have an answer so said he assumed I was...
I did do a year+ of chemical castration before surgery, but it wasn't a big issue for me as I wasn't planning to do T, and was actually on E for most of the time. I'm not sure what the answer is if you are not wanting to get rid of the effects of T. It is possibly relevant that the SOCv8 does say that it's a recommendation, not a requirement.
Swim1650 wrote: Mon Oct 27, 2025 7:06 pm
I am confident to let my scrotum and testicles go. I also know I’d prefer not to have a penis, but that’s admittedly a much bigger decision to make. Is it typical that they would do the castration first and then the penectomy at a later date, or would I have to get it all done at once? (Two surgeries also means a lot more recovery.
I’m know I’m overthinking this but I’d just hate to invest a lot of time and emotional energy discussing a deep part of me only for this not to work out.
I know I just need to take that first step.
I've heard of people going several different ways on the surgery. Some just get an orchie, and do the scrotectomy later, others (including myself) did both at the same time to avoid extra surgery and recovery. I've seen discussion of people that did testicles and penis as separate surgeries and others that had everything done at once... There are arguments in favor of both separate and one at a time approaches.
Whatever you do, the first step is reaching out to your local TG clinic for an initial consult, and that doesn't commit you to any set course of action until much later, but that will at least get things moving and get you more definite answers about things like your options for hormones and chemical castration...
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