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I've been considering being castrated for a number of years now. My main motives for going for this is to be able to control my libido and for the calm state that I believe I would experience. Does anyone know anywhere I can obtain evidence that this would be the likely affect for me to show my partner?

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eunuchwanttobe (imported) wrote: Mon Aug 22, 2005 2:05 am I've been considering being castrated for a number of years now. My main motives for going for this is to be able to control my libido and for the calm state that I believe I would experience. Does anyone know anywhere I can obtain evidence that this would be the likely affect for me to show my partner?

Next month, I shall have been a eunuch for two years. From my own personal experience I can tell you that since I was surgically castrated my experience has been exactly what you are seeking. I have lost sexual desire and libido and I am much calmer.

I can tell you that just over a year ago, Jesus Azevado (a regular contributor to the EA) came to visit my wife and me. He asked my wife what effect my castration had had on me. My wife replied that I was a much better person since I had been castrated.

Terry (a very contented eunuch)

First Terry thanks for your reply, it so re-assuring to know that the road that I am now travelling on is one that should achieve my ultimate goals. I am sure as I travel along this road there will be many questions I need to ask, not that I need conviencing but to re-assure my partner who believes that if I was to take this action it would be the end of our relationship. I am sure that it will be the making of our relationship and will ensure that my libido does not cause me to follow a road that could be the down fall of both me and my partner. If anyone has got advice it would be gratefully recieved.

EunuchWantToBe,

Your signature (and profile) have me a little concerned. Libido is what makes the role exciting, but castration lowers/removes libido. No, I can't provide evidence castration won't alter your current relationship.

Someone on this forum once made a remark to the effect, "When sex becomes as enjoyable as taxes, your partner is bound to notice." The role may sound exciting now, but after castration, your mind will be on other things.

I used to fantasize about female domination. But all I want to do with my wife now is cuddle, and it brings 100% contentment (i.e., the eunuch calm is at work). Castration was to get rid of unwelcome sexual thoughts. It worked, I have no regrets, and my wife is happy.

In any case, you will also want your castration to be performed in a safe environment. I recommend Dr. Kimmel.

bryan (imported) wrote: Tue Aug 23, 2005 12:32 am EunuchWantToBe,

Your signature (and profile) have me a little concerned. Libido is what makes the role exciting, but castration lowers/removes libido. No, I can't provide evidence castration won't alter your current relationship.

Someone on this forum once made a remark to the effect, "When sex becomes as enjoyable as taxes, your partner is bound to notice." The role may sound exciting now, but after castration, your mind will be on other things.

I used to fantasize about female domination. But all I want to do with my wife now is cuddle, and it brings 100% contentment (i.e., the eunuch calm is at work). Castration was to get rid of unwelcome sexual thoughts. It worked, I have no regrets, and my wife is happy.

In any case, you will also want your castration to be performed in a safe environment. I recommend Dr. Kimmel.

Bryan, That is so true. I have been a eunuch comming on 3 years and the way I feel today is totally different. You dont have a sex drive you dont even think about it. I just wished I had done this sooner.

River

Eunuchwanttobe, I have to say I agree with Bryan and River. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be submissive at the hands of a woman or man. It's exciting! and plenty of men do it. But this is only exciting as long as the fantasy lasts. Being castrated can be okay, if you know what you're in for and do so of your own free will.

But believing you'll be able to actually live this domination fantasy is the sort of belief system that can kill. You will probably find, if you were castrated, the fantasy would not interest you, because of your lowered sex drive.

Then you'd have nothing left. A non-functioning body, with a fantasy lost as a half-remembered dream.

Sorry to be so negative, but it's very important for your own health and wellbeing that you really think about this. The members here only say these things because we care about you!

Don't count on surgery to make you calm or kill your sex drive or anything. I can tell you, post-op you're likely to have horrible mood swing, suffer from severe fatigue, and then end up being just about the same. I had an orchiectomy as part of a gender-reassignment process 3 months ago, and I can tell you the first weeks are rough. I take HRT, though, so now I am about balanced out. I feel exactly the same as before, though, and don't feel more calm or magic or whatever the common fantasy is. I also still have a sex drive, though maybe less of one, so don't think you'll necessarily end up with no libido. You'd also be at a much higher risk of osteoporosis and various other problems.

My advice is always the same: don't get castration to play sex games or be dominated or something. There is too much risk, and you're likely to end up with no fantasy and a permanently changed body.

I am 60 y/o now and this is difficult for one of my generation to discuss, but I felt that I had to write to Eunuchwanttobe.

After fathering four children and going through a divorce in which I got custody of my children, I began to fantasize about being castrated in my late 30's. Since my children came first, I put my feelings aside until they were grown and left home.

After buying a computer and getting on the Internet, I found this site and found it to be a very caring site for all types of people. I told my physician (a psychiatrist) that I wished to be castrated and he gave some brochures for me to read. While I read what my doctor gave to me, I also read the good advice from the people you see writing to you and the one thing (that stood out in my mind) that they mentioned was caution and be certain castration was not just a fantasy (which one can do over and over again) but a real desire to lose one's testicles.

I realized that my desire to be castrated was a sexual fantasy and that I liked my testicles (where they were). I am thankful for the advice one finds on this web site. There are those who are members of this site who have the same ideas as I do and there are those who for their own personal reasons have undergone castration---by a legitimate physician. I respect all of these people and I hope they respect me for expressing my views.

Eunuchwanttobe, please read what all of these people have to say to you.

Consider WHY you wish to be castrated! Take your time and discuss it with your partner! Remember, there are people at EA who want to help you through this situation.

Sailorboy

Everyone has shared excellent advice. It's good to take the time to think long and hard about castration before you do it, and the fact you have spent several years considering it is good.

Some eunuchs will develop a calm, and most will lose at least some libido if not all. As of 2 months post castration I have not lost my libido entirely, but it is under control. Most of it seems to be mental. I'll admit I'm disappointed I have not lost it entirely, but I knew that at my age complete eliminaton was unlikely. My sexual function is gone without direct stimulation, and even then it is not easy.

I cannot say I have become as calm as I'd like, though I have flirted with tranquility. I think much of it has to do with the fact that I'm battling depression. Without that, I believe I could be a lot calmer. Depression could be something you experience, whether or not you regret the castration.

Since you've been considering this for so long you could be ready to make some progress, but don't do anything until you're sure. It's ok to take time to think things through. There really doesn't have to be any rush

I have always said in here its best to try this befor you do it and what i mean is chemical castration first thats the only way you will know if you might be happy and your partner.Remember after the surgery you cant go back to the way you were but with some time on chemical castration you can go back if you are not happy.And yes for me and my wife we are happier then we have ever been in our 38 years of marrage.

Can I say a BIG thankyou to everyone who have spared the time to reply to my original request. I will consider what is being said and any further comments. I am a very complext person, but aren't we all. I havd thought about castration since around purberty, sorry it is over thirty years ago so I can not remember if it was prior to post puberty. In those days I only thought this was not "normal" as I believed no one else had these desires. You are correct that my desire to be castratd has been caught up with a sexual fantasy, but the desire came before the fantasy. Over the last couple of years I've come to the realization that I NEED to be castrated to control my libido. I fully accept that castration will not solve all my problems, but it is my hope that it would help me to better control my libido?

Thanks again for the comments, I am accepting them in spirit that they are given, friendly helpful advice. Any further comments will be considered before I take any final action.

Why don't you try chemical castration, something like Androcur; test drive the life style so to say! You can stop if its not working out for you and not lost anything!!

I am new here and what I am saying will be one hundred percent serious so please don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to be rude.

I'll make it clear that I like my body how it is, not going to change it. Anyhow the eunuch topic interests me as an outsider, and that'll stay that way.

First, can you explain to me what does it mean to "not be able to control your libido" ?

That can be down to MANY MANY things apart from your weener, so carefully look through your current lifestyle. Lessen stress, take it a bit easier. Yes, stress increases sexual frustration. Also being in a hurry all day doesn't help, or eating a lot / not eating at all. When you're out of balance it doesn't only affect your appetite/awareness/tiredom. Sexual desire is a part of all this.

If your life isn't lead properly castration won't solve your problems, it might just deepen your problem.

Also I have no idea how are you leading your life so I can't really say anything specific to help you apart from those mainstream ideas which generally apply to "randy" ;p people.

Removing a very important part of your body should be the final solution if all else fails, because you can not go back. Also reading other peoples descriptions it isn't an "instant solution" versus your sex drive. Think of your pair as well.

Just my 2 cents

I can say that I have lost all interest in sex, all I want to do is cuddle. I do preform some sex but that is to please my partner. I used to enjoy preforming oral sex and never could get enough before, but now it is just a chore to me.

I've also have lost interest in pain, but I'm don't think that's from the castration, I think that's from the chronic pain I deal with any more.

I definitely recommend chemical castration first to try it out. Then go for the real thing.