Coming out as a eunuch
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EunuchAusTX (imported)
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Re: Coming out as a eunuch
Not too long ago, being gay was thought of as too "intimate" and "sexual" a topic to discuss freely, which is why coming out became so important. Now being gay is a non-issue in most circumstances. I'm not "in your face" about my sexual orientation at all, and yet everyone knows I'm gay because I treat it as casually as I would any other part of my lifestyle. I talk about my partner the way straight people talk about their spouses. If a coworker asks me what I did last night and I was at the local gay bar, I say so. I don't go into grisly details about my sex life, but I'm able to freely discuss the non-sexual aspects of my life that my orientation touches upon. I would like to reach the point where I'm comfortable enough with myself to be just as casual about being a eunuch, to treat it as a non-issue that just happens to be relevant to the conversation at times. Getting there, however, is a process, and the first step is making that conscious decision to talk about it, to begin to trust the people in my life with that little piece of information. I've had a couple other experiences with this now and what I'm finding out is that, just like when I started coming out as gay, most people don't really care. It's just something they didn't know about me before that they do know now.
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EunuchAusTX (imported)
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On a slightly more amusing note, one friend I've discussed this with is very much into spiritualism/astrology/etc. and he said that my being a eunuch explained why my "aura" is so strong, and that it gives me a heightened sensitivity to "spiritual energy." He's now trying to encourage me to explore the "spiritual gifts" that my castration has imparted to me. 
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Obviously we do certainly see things in such a completely different light than everyone else. One thing to remember is that they HAVE TO date whereas we yes we would like to but the compulsion is not there. I never dated in high school or hardly thereafter. Any way one idea for a tattoo would be to use four horseshoes like as a brand: 'U', upside down U for an 'N', another 'U', and a sideways U for a 'C': 'UNUC'. And by the way I don't like the idea of us being considered to be subservient and despise it and I certainly am NOT. That's why I didn't put idea this into your other thread about tattoos.
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Milkman (imported)
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Re: Coming out as a eunuch
EunuchAusTX , Maybe he means that as someone less distracted by the flesh , you can see other people more clearly and with less of the prejudiced that sexual yearnings impose.... less influenced by appearance, able to see someone's soul better...
EunuchAusTX (imported) wrote: Wed Nov 04, 2009 1:26 am On a slightly more amusing note, one friend I've discussed this with is very much into spiritualism/astrology/etc. and he said that my being a eunuch explained why my "aura" is so strong, and that it gives me a heightened sensitivity to "spiritual energy." He's now trying to encourage me to explore the "spiritual gifts" that my castration has imparted to me.
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EunuchAusTX (imported)
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Milkman (imported) wrote: Wed Nov 04, 2009 1:43 am EunuchAusTX , Maybe he means that as someone less distracted by the flesh , you can see other people more clearly and with less of the prejudiced that sexual yearnings impose.... less influenced by appearance, able to see someone's soul better...
No, I know this guy pretty well and he meant it literally. If I recall correctly, some ancient cultures had similar beliefs about eunuchs.
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Re: Coming out as a eunuch
This is an interesting thread. Heck, I still don't tell people I'm gay. I let them wonder. Most figure it out, or suspect. It's like I didn't tell people when I had hemorroids, but they probably figured it out. (not that being gay is anything like having hemorroids).
I guess it's pretty much all to do with our own self image and comfort level. It's not about other people, for we know the world is full of those who are judgemental, and those who are non-judgmental. Where you live and your own personal social circle will determine which type of people are in the majority around you.
In some areas of the country and world, and in some social circles, you have to have pretty good self image and thick skin to be different in any way, straight or gay, eunuch or transsexual. Even hair style or color can be a social separator and put you on the "outside" of the inner circle.
There are those of us who develop to control others and we ARE the circle, neither in it or outside of it. For good or bad, they are the leaders. The rest of us are independents or followers. Being sensitive to the opinions of others develops within us and I suspect will be something that is very difficult to change. We try to change this through rebellion, but the actual hidden way we feel about how others view us remains unchanged.
If you live in a location and/or have a circle of friends that is adaptive and non-judgemental that certainly helps whether you be sensitive to the reactions of others or not.
Should I ever be so fortunate as to finally get surgically castrated this will be a communication bridge I will need to seriously ponder. Right now it is a theoretical subject. Although when I am finally able to afford chemical testosterone reduction (via siterone) next year perhaps that will be something to ponder, whether I tell people or not. Is any medical reason for chemical or surgical castration is an automatic "free sympathy card" where you can tell or leak the information with less fear of social reaction?
I guess it's pretty much all to do with our own self image and comfort level. It's not about other people, for we know the world is full of those who are judgemental, and those who are non-judgmental. Where you live and your own personal social circle will determine which type of people are in the majority around you.
In some areas of the country and world, and in some social circles, you have to have pretty good self image and thick skin to be different in any way, straight or gay, eunuch or transsexual. Even hair style or color can be a social separator and put you on the "outside" of the inner circle.
There are those of us who develop to control others and we ARE the circle, neither in it or outside of it. For good or bad, they are the leaders. The rest of us are independents or followers. Being sensitive to the opinions of others develops within us and I suspect will be something that is very difficult to change. We try to change this through rebellion, but the actual hidden way we feel about how others view us remains unchanged.
If you live in a location and/or have a circle of friends that is adaptive and non-judgemental that certainly helps whether you be sensitive to the reactions of others or not.
Should I ever be so fortunate as to finally get surgically castrated this will be a communication bridge I will need to seriously ponder. Right now it is a theoretical subject. Although when I am finally able to afford chemical testosterone reduction (via siterone) next year perhaps that will be something to ponder, whether I tell people or not. Is any medical reason for chemical or surgical castration is an automatic "free sympathy card" where you can tell or leak the information with less fear of social reaction?