A friend to many here has passed today

[Danya (imported)]

Although i did not know Ray, I had read a number of his posts. I was always impressed by his gentle nature and thoughtful writing. A sad time,

[emasculation (imported)]

Wow, I am in complete and total shock. I have chatted with Ray for a few years now as I explore the possibility of becoming a eunuch. He was always extremely helpful when I had questions, but more importantly he was a very good friend. He had a great sense of humor and wit about him. I will truly miss him.

[Tilt (imported)]

Services will be at Gonce Funeral home 4001 Ritchie Highway Baltimore MD 21225

viewing Monday 4-8

funeral Tuesday 11am

They are in need of someone that knows sign language during the services, pm me if you can help.

[Questioning (imported)]

I posted the following in its own thread, not having realized that there was already a thread open. Administrators, feel free to delete the thread I started.

I never met Ray in person, but based on my many, many email interactions with him and our online chats, I can say that he was a sweet, generous man who was always willing to help out strangers. As I struggled to make sense of my gender identity and strong desire to be castrated, he was perennially there with good advice, kind encouragement, and a personal anecdote to help me through the mental turmoil. And I know that I was not alone; there were many other men and eunuchs who turned to him for help and commiseration.

Ray was--there's no other way to say this--a role model to me. As someone who embraced both a masculine and a eunuch identity at the same time (he never missed his weekly shot of testosterone!) he exemplified, in my mind, the BIID eunuch, the kind that identifies with his manhood but feels like those two parts just aren't quite right. If I do become a eunuch, I am sure that I will be a eunuch in the way that Ray was.

It feels strange to eulogize the man because I never met him in person, but Ray was the kind of guy who you feel like you've known all your life.

[Ernie of Maine (imported)]

I am sorry to gof Rays passing it toke me some time for me to realize it was Raymar.He will be missed. Mt condolences to his family and friends. Ernie

[SplitDik (imported)]

Oh man, I have been busy and haven't been on the forums much and totally missed this news. How sad! He was a regular here (almost 10 years!) with whom we conversed on many threads. It is a modern thing to have such familiarity with someone that we have not met in person, but I think it is because on a forum like this we're sharing such a secret part of ourselves that one can't help to bond -- I mean what more can define friends but to share such things remotely or in person. Rest easy Ray!