Premature Ejaculation Help

[notoriouscgc (imported)]

Hey Everyone,

I'm so happy to have found this site. The topic of Premature Ejaculation is really not well understood by Modern Medicine so I've decided to take the situation into my own hands and discover more permanent solution -- or at least semi-permanent or periodically permanent.

I am an extremely sexual/horny guy at age 29; I have been my entire life. But, it seems as though my penis is so incredibly sensitive that I can't last beyond a couple of pumps during intercourse. I have run the gamet of solutions -- antidepressants, ebooks, kegels, meditation, etc. None of them have provided an effective long term solution to this issue. It's the most frustrating problem in the world to have -- when you have someone in front of you that you want to pleasure so badly yet can't.

The only thing that has worked for me has been penis desensitizing options. Promescent is the one that has worked the best. However, my last partner caught onto the fact that I was "running to the bathroom" before each sexual encounter and eventually got a little turned off. I also got turned off.

I have not had spontaneous sex ever in my life without running to the bathroom to spray my cock with lidocaine, THEN having to wipe it off, THEN finally being able to get sexual.

I have come here because I'm looking for a solution. Perhaps a weekly ritual that will allow my penis to be densitized by, let's say, 70% for up to a week at a time. I just want VERY LITTLE sensation in the penis. The act of sex, and feeling someone's body, smelling them, the whole experience turns me on so much that I don't need that much penis sensitivity.

I'm here looking for advice from YOU GUYS, professionals in this field, to help me find my best solution. I'll be the guinea pig in this area. I am willing to accept the consequences of these experiments -- because at this point, I have only to gain a steady sex life. Right now, I burn with desire to sex, but at the same time am terrified of it.

My question is: 1) What banding technique would work the best to lose MOST of my sensitivity but still allow me to get an erection? I know every person is different, but what's a good starting point? 20 Minutes on-20 minutes off for a total of 3 times once per week?

Are there topical medications that will make my penis numb for an entire evening? Let's say I go out on a date, I could apply a solution to the penis before the night begins and not have to worry about the sensations coming back that night?

Or are there doctors offering procedures for this?

I want to have spontaneous sex so badly and not have to worry about "sneaking" away to the bathroom to numb my penis. It's unsexy and a real drag to a great night of sex.

Let me know what you guys think-- Thanks for the Support!:):)

[paring (imported)]

Before you do anything permanent, you should try some antihistamine pills. Antihistamine will reduce you your sneezing as well as your orgasm, physicians are aware of that.

[C&TL2745 (imported)]

An erection can be maintained even through ejaculation by relatively light banding. You could wrap a rubber band around the base of your penis without a run to the bathroom. If it's wrapped just lightly enough to maintain the erection, it won't reduce sensitivity materially, but it will allow you to continue intercourse past the point where you penis would normally go limp and may allow you to satisfy your partner. You won't have simultaneous orgasms, but you should be able to continue intercourse as long as your partner wants. It's worth a try: rubber bands are cheap, and if it doesn't work for you, at least you haven't done any damage.

Sandi

[Losethem (imported)]

I read your explanation of why you are interested in things here and I think you already have the solution. If you have partners that are getting turned off because you're running to the bathroom to desensitize your dick with lidocaine spray, then you have to wonder if that partner is right for you. They should be happy you've recognized your issue, and that you're doing something to make an encounter last longer because you want to make them happy and feel good.

Just let them know you have this issue and that's what you're doing. I'd bet most women who are willing to be intimate with you would appreciate the effort you're putting in to ensure they also get something from the encounter, instead of your just doing a quick pump-n-dump on 'em.

--LT

[ambiguous (imported)]

Antihistamine will reduce you your sneezing as well as your orgasm,

This brings back fond memories for me.:-\

My late partner of whom I had a straight relationship with a few years back used to refer any sexually generated discharge from my dick as a "Sneeze":dong:

[notoriouscgc (imported)]

An erection can be maintained even through ejaculation by relatively light banding. You could wrap a rubber band around the base of your penis without a run to the bathroom. If it's wrapped just lightly enough to maintain the erection, it won't reduce sensitivity materially, but it will allow you to continue intercourse past the point where you penis would normally go limp and may allow you to satisfy your partner. You won't have simultaneous orgasms, but you should be able to continue intercourse as long as your partner wants. It's worth a try: rubber bands are cheap, and if it doesn't work for you, at least you haven't done any damage.

Sandi

Hey Sandi,

What I'm looking for is to do a banding program in my "off-time". For example, if I'm going to be spending the weekend with a partner. I could do a banding routine or other program on Friday morning to keep me slightly numb for the entire weekend. Any suggestions here?

[MaverickVt (imported)]

I don't think you should think of banding as a solution AT ALL.

You will create a circulation problem, which you DONT want, and not solve an over sensitivity which you wan to lessen.

I've tried this myself and it worked for me. With one long term effect.

Get some Anbesol tooth painkiller cream, and try rubbing it into your cock several times a day, and wrap it in Saran Wrap,to heighten the effect. It works almost instantly, and the longer you use it, the longer it will last.

I would try it for a whole day and see how it effects you and see how long you remain numb.

But be CAUTIOUS: doing this repeatedly definitely shrunk my dick. After a day, it took me nearly a week to feel anything.

After a week wrapped in Saran Wrap with repeated applications during the day, I lost a full inch in length.

Go slow ... Don't overdo it. And at least try this before doing anything that will hurt your ability to get a hard on.

But seriously... Losethem's comments are on the mark... Being vulnerable enough to talk about this with your partners is sexy.... Wanting to please her or him, should never be received with anything but gratitude.

[HorseRenoir1 (imported)]

I read your explanation of why you are interested in things here and I think you already have the solution. If you have partners that are getting turned off because you're running to the bathroom to desensitize your dick with lidocaine spray, then you have to wonder if that partner is right for you. They should be happy you've recognized your issue, and that you're doing something to make an encounter last longer because you want to make them happy and feel good.

Just let them know you have this issue and that's what you're doing. I'd bet most women who are willing to be intimate with you would appreciate the effort you're putting in to ensure they also get something from the encounter, instead of your just doing a quick pump-n-dump on 'em.

--LT

AMEN to that advice, Losethem. You could give the same advice to guys who have E.D.: Try to find a partner who's compassionate enough to understand. And best of luck.

[CastratedTomcat (imported)]

Try Fluoxetine (SSRI) and you will need a long time to cum up to you havn't a chance to cum.

With one dose 40mg you will have the effect after any hours for around one day. If you don't feel bad sides, you can take in 10-20mg daily and the effect will be much more and permanent over the time where you ar taking it.

For me it has not so good side effects, but much people are good with it.

[notoriouscgc (imported)]

AMEN to that advice, Losethem. You could give the same advice to guys who have E.D.: Try to find a partner who's compassionate enough to understand. And best of luck.

I totally agree. And am looking for such a partner. It's not such an "overt" being turned off. It's subtle, you can feel it from the person.

Mainly, I get upset because I get turned off. I want to be able to go all night-- in my quest to get this under control and using lidocaine based techniques I have enjoyed sex SO FULLY while being numbed to a certain degree. It's amazing. Just looking for tricks, or biohacks, to be able to make this semi-permanent.

[C&TL2745 (imported)]

Hey Sandi,

What I'm looking for is to do a banding program in my "off-time". For example, if I'm going to be spending the weekend with a partner. I could do a banding routine or other program on Friday morning to keep me slightly numb for the entire weekend. Any suggestions here?

In our experience, banding doesn't do "slightly numb." What I was suggesting was banding far less tight than what would result in numbing--just enough to restrict blood flow out of the penis (veins near the surface) but not restrict flow in (deeper arteries) and not abuse the nerves. If you band tight enough to cause any numbness, you've gone way beyond what I was suggesting. Banding to the point of numbness can leave you completely numb for a couple of weeks or ten minutes, and it's hard to tell which you'll get, but it's not terribly effective for "slightly numb." Also, if you're numb, you'll probably have a problem maintaining an erection, which is probably not what you want.

Sandi

[notoriouscgc (imported)]

I don't think you should think of banding as a solution AT ALL.

You will create a circulation problem, which you DONT want, and not solve an over sensitivity which you wan to lessen.

I've tried this myself and it worked for me. With one long term effect.

Get some Anbesol tooth painkiller cream, and try rubbing it into your cock several times a day, and wrap it in Saran Wrap,to heighten the effect. It works almost instantly, and the longer you use it, the longer it will last.

I would try it for a whole day and see how it effects you and see how long you remain numb.

But be CAUTIOUS: doing this repeatedly definitely shrunk my dick. After a day, it took me nearly a week to feel anything.

After a week wrapped in Saran Wrap with repeated applications during the day, I lost a full inch in length.

Go slow ... Don't overdo it. And at least try this before doing anything that will hurt your ability to get a hard on.

But seriously... Losethem's comments are on the mark... Being vulnerable enough to talk about this with your partners is sexy.... Wanting to please her or him, should never be received with anything but gratitude.

Maverick! This is the kind of solution I'm looking for. Do you find it's the best option when it comes to densensitizing the member without causing permanent nerve damage?

I have tried SSRI's (horrible side effects), kegel techniques (didn't work), breathing techniques, and edging. All of them could never cancel out an EXTREMELY SENSITIVE PENIS. I have a theory, based upon one doctor I saw, that my circumcision wasn't done properly making me way more sensitive. I'm looking for the best solution to bring down this sensitivity with least potential for minimal risk for permanent damage. Again, I'm avoiding sex right now, so I have ONLY TO GAIN.

Look forward to hearing back from you!:)

[Losethem (imported)]

Maverick! This is the kind of solution I'm looking for. Do you find it's the best option when it comes to densensitizing the member without causing permanent nerve damage?

I have tried SSRI's (horrible side effects), kegel techniques (didn't work), breathing techniques, and edging. All of them could never cancel out an EXTREMELY SENSITIVE PENIS. I have a theory, based upon one doctor I saw, that my circumcision wasn't done properly making me way more sensitive. I'm looking for the best solution to bring down this sensitivity with least potential for minimal risk for permanent damage. Again, I'm avoiding sex right now, so I have ONLY TO GAIN.

Look forward to hearing back from you!:)

If you were circumcised incorrectly... though I have no idea what that is. If you have enough material left, perhaps you could get your circumcision tightened.

I have to tell you, I don't have a cock anymore, and I cum just fine. So losing a bit more material from yours probably wouldn't leave you worse off.

[MaverickVt (imported)]

All I can say is....

There are lots off things for desensitization, but this worked for me.

It's also fairly mild, so GO SLOW, and see what kind of results you get gradually.

Better to go slow than go too far to fast.

Best of luck, and let me know how it goes.

Whoever ends up being your lover will be lucky to have someone so dedicated to pleasing them.

M.

[notoriouscgc (imported)]

Anyone else have any luck with techniques for this?

[nuderthannude (imported)]

Anyone else have any luck with techniques for this?

I have had a problem with too much glans sensitivity all of my life. It has prevented me from enjoying sex to the fullest so I decided to fix the problem once and for all. I removed my glans so I could enjoy the more subtle sensations from my penis shaft. I stumbled upon the fact that less can be more when I was doing my glans separation and lost a lot of the sensitivity in my glans. So why then did I remove my glans if I already had lost a lot of the sensitivity? Because my numb glans was getting in the way of my enjoying the sensations from my shaft shaft to the fullest. A bit radical I must admit but I am extremely happy with the result. It achieved the goal I wanted. There are other advantages also to being glansless.

[Neutered (imported)]

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19395368

AbstractPremature ejaculation (PE) is the most common sexual problem experienced by men, and it affects 20%-30% of them. Pulsed radiofrequency (PRF) neuromodulation has been shown to be an effective treatment for a wide range of pain conditions. We used PRF to treat PE by desensitizing dorsal penile nerves in patients resistant to conventional treatments. Fifteen patients with a lifelong history of PE, defined as an intravaginal ejaculatory latency time (IELT) of <1 minute that occurred in more than 90% of acts of intercourse and was resistant to conventional treatments, were enrolled in this study. Patients with erectile dysfunction were excluded. The mean age of the patients was 39 +/- 9 years. Before and 3 weeks after the treatment, IELT and sexual satisfaction score (SSS; for patients and their partners) were obtained. The mean IELTs before and 3 weeks after procedure were 18.5 +/- 17.9 and 139.9 +/- 55.1 seconds, respectively. Side effects did not occur. Mean SSSs of patients before and after treatment were 1.3 +/- 0.3 and 4.6 +/- 0.5, and mean SSSs of partners before and after treatment were 1.3 +/- 0.4 and 4.4 +/- 0.5, respectively. In all cases, IELT and SSS were significantly increased (P < .05). None of the patients or their wives reported any treatment failure during the follow-up period. The mean follow-up time was 8.3 +/- 1.9 months. It is early to conclude that this new treatment modality might be used widely for the treatment of PE; however, because it is an innovative modality, placebo-controlled studies (eg, sham procedure), with larger numbers of patients and including assessment of penile sensitivity (eg, biothesiometry), are needed.