Will castration cure your sexual hangups?

[VicistiGalilaee (imported)]

I'm speaking as a compulsive masturbator who uses it to self-medicate due to shame associated with my sexuality (ironically). I associate sexuality with really negative feelings and use masturbation to numb that pain. it's the cause of, and solution to, my problems. lol. do you guys have any experienced comparable to this? Does it have a healing effect?

[C&TL2745 (imported)]

I'm speaking as a compulsive masturbator who uses it to self-medicate due to shame associated with my sexuality (ironically). I associate sexuality with really negative feelings and use masturbation to numb that pain. it's the cause of, and solution to, my problems. lol. do you guys have any experienced comparable to this? Does it have a healing effect?

It sounds like what you need is, not castration, but some counseling to get comfortable with your sexuality. Did your parents make you feel shame about being a sexual person? I strongly suspect that the problem is in your head, not your testicles.

Sandi

[sparkey49 (imported)]

I agree with Sandy get help first and then see where it goes! I am castrated and love it but for you it would only add to your problems as it may just add guilt, frustration at the loss of outlet of your feelings if no T, with T no real change to ability to masurbate, added suicide potential and depression to start with! Find out the real root of the problem then proceed to a cure whatever that path may turn out to be!

[tugon (imported)]

Here is another vote for you to discover how your shame developed and why you are still shameful. I have been a non T eunuch now for almost two decades. Prior to castration my sexual addiction caused a lot of problems for me. I was always wanting kinkier, riskier sex. Having been sexualized at a young age I was often out riding my bicycle in search of some action. After orgasm I could not believe some of the things I did and the people with whom I did them. Things only got worse when I was old enough to drive. Now I do not have enough of a sex drive to follow up on my fantasies but the kinky multiple people fantasies still continue during masturbation and erotic dreams. A lack of testosterone will lower your drive but the lack of drive may not remove the shame.

I often say castration lowered my sex drive but it did not fix my brain. My behaviors are now easy to control but my desires, reduced as they are, are still the same.

[Arab Nights (imported)]

Most pereptive post, tugon. I don't think I've ever seen it put that way. Thank you.

[VicistiGalilaee (imported)]

Here is another vote for you to discover how your shame developed and why you are still shameful. I have been a non T eunuch now for almost two decades. Prior to castration my sexual addiction caused a lot of problems for me. I was always wanting kinkier, riskier sex. Having been sexualized at a young age I was often out riding my bicycle in search of some action. After orgasm I could not believe some of the things I did and the people with whom I did them. Things only got worse when I was old enough to drive. Now I do not have enough of a sex drive to follow up on my fantasies but the kinky multiple people fantasies still continue during masturbation and erotic dreams. A lack of testosterone will lower your drive but the lack of drive may not remove the shame.

I often say castration lowered my sex drive but it did not fix my brain. My behaviors are now easy to control but my desires, reduced as they are, are still the same.

Very interesting. But if I associate sexuality with shame, won't eliminating the sexuality also, at the very least, reduce the intensity of the shame or frequency of it occurring? I really want to at least get beyond my porn and masturbation addiction.

[VicistiGalilaee (imported)]

It sounds like what you need is, not castration, but some counseling to get comfortable with your sexuality. Did your parents make you feel shame about being a sexual person? I strongly suspect that the problem is in your head, not your testicles.

Sandi

But I have come to so fundamentally hate sexuality that I no longer want to experience erotic desire or engage in any kind of erotic activity. It's not something I want to redeem with counseling, but something that I just want to get rid of, and this is due to sexual frustration and belief that I could never make a good partner.

[StrangeSunshine (imported)]

I've never been in a relationship before and I've never engaged in sexual intercourse. I never really had any friends before I started attending Twenty-Eight on Friday, September 12, 2014. I have more friends now than I've ever had before, most of them are Christians, and most of them are girls, and very beautiful girls. I got a girl's phone number 17 days ago through Facebook. I have a healthy and muscular body. Most of the people that've met me believe that I have a brilliant mind. The only problem is that I've had a problem with masturbation and porn since I was a 7-year-old child. I've never gone an entire year without watching any adult entertainment. I believe that the only way I'll ever be free of these infernal shackles is through castration. I've thought about that since I was a freshman in high school. I graduated high school in 2012. Four years ago. I'm in Tampa, Florida. I intend to fly to New York State by Thursday, September 15, 2016. After I arrive there I may take care of it. I couldn't care less if I lose my life in the process. I've got nothing to lose. I tend to get irritable, easily irritated or annoyed, after I masturbate. Sometimes after I stimulate I feel drunk and as if my cognitive faculties have been impaired, and sometimes I feel as if I have a hangover. After castration I'll finally have the peace I've been yearning for. That's what's been on my mind lately, anyway.

[stephaniesteve1 (imported)]

Hi, i can sympathise with the problem. I have always been a chronic and compulsive masturbator. I went through a couple of years of chemical castration to see what effect it would have. The answer was just a slight reduction in frequency but no great change.About a year ago I went down the calcium chloride route. As the testosterone levels dropped there was a slight reduction in the frequency again. Following removal of the testes 6 months ago the frequency dropped radically , almost to zero. The Doc started me on testosterone gel 2 months ago and almost straight away the old habit started up again.I am experimenting with how little T I can use for health reasons but keep the cock in check.

FYI the reason I removed the balls was not to stop the masturbation, thats an unexpected benefit, it was that I just did not like having balls, the look of a eunuch is just so much nicer.

Stephanie , eunuch since feb 2016.

[Cleancut01 (imported)]

To Strangesunshine

Hope you don't, I have been working on this decision for decades and many I write to here have a similar history. Removing your sex drive (and that is what you are trying to do correct?) will not necessarily stop you from surfing porn. YMMV is seen often around here because it is a fact. You may sufur porn less, and mastribate less but there are no written guaranties. I also have a highly active sex drive, it does give me lots of moments and long periods were I wish it would just leave me alone. That said "infernal shackles" and time lines you write of are all self imposed. So maybe, like me, spending some time with a consular will allow you to articulate reasons to do this beyond, my life is not what I want. I now can express those reasons but it took work on me. None of us here can control your future behaviour, but we all would tell you, you have a whole life ahead of yourself, and like us you need to learn how to make your life as worthwhile as you deem possible, weather or not you get castrated. BTW there is no time limit to getting castrated, you can do it anytime in the future. And you will still have a future, make yourself feel great about you.

[stephaniesteve1 (imported)]

Hi, meant to add that you could try long term use of a chastity cage. Experiment with various ones until you find one that is comfortable but tight. Then make it difficult to remove it eg rivet rather than lock and key. Whilst it does nothing for the hang ups it does prevent masturbation.Dont forget that everyone in the world is on a sliding scale from ...hardly ever masturbates right through to..... cant leave you cock alone. Forget the hangups and join the world of masterbators and enjoy what comes naturally. Even though I have been castrated I still wear a CB 5000 chastity device to prevent me from masturbating. I wear it for fun not because I want to prevent my natural passion.

Stephanie

[Cleancut01 (imported)]

VicistiGalilaee

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and belief that I could never make a good partner.

" "so fundamentally hate sexuality" Things I have learned from the eunuchs here. Beliefs in yourself and your state of hate will not change with being castrated. It is not a cure all to life problems. if you feel you are not a good partner, go learn how to be a good partner. IF in learning how to do that you discover your sex drive is a problem, maybe castration will help. But castration does not change ones belief structure or how you live in society. If you hate something I have been taught to go make a change for the better. That is partly what this place is about, making positive change for something that can be done for good or evil. Imagine that, how many issues in society have two faces, yen and yang. SO when I was in a place like yours some asked me if I could articulate any positive reason to get castrated, because just getting castrated and removing your sex drive will not create anything positive in your life. You need to do that anyway.

[Arab Nights (imported)]

When I was 19 life wasn't turning out so well. I got the idea, not of castration, but of moving to Australia and specifically Coober Pedy where I just knew all my issues would go away. I was saving for that and got a letter from the university, where I had gotten a letter that my request to renew my scholarship was rejected (I had dropped out for medical reasons) and out of the blue I got a letter that my scholarship had been refunded so off to U I went. Somehow out of everything I figured the problem was not where I was at, the problem was me which I had control over if I wanted to work at it. That got me back on track to the career that still in my golden years keeps me engaged. Working thru things took longer than I would have wanted, but was doable.

I vote with Cleancut. Good luck and please don't do anything that you cannot reverse until you have a few more years under your belt.

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

I have habits most lewd and unsavory:

I bugger young owls

Which I keep in an underground aviary.

-Never blamed it on T, though.....

Effects of T are not simple, and castration suits some, but should not be chosen lightly.

Even so, great contentment can come of it....

[VicistiGalilaee (imported)]

Hi, i can sympathise with the problem. I have always been a chronic and compulsive masturbator. I went through a couple of years of chemical castration to see what effect it would have. The answer was just a slight reduction in frequency but no great change.About a year ago I went down the calcium chloride route. As the testosterone levels dropped there was a slight reduction in the frequency again. Following removal of the testes 6 months ago the frequency dropped radically , almost to zero. The Doc started me on testosterone gel 2 months ago and almost straight away the old habit started up again.I am experimenting with how little T I can use for health reasons but keep the cock in check.

FYI the reason I removed the balls was not to stop the masturbation, thats an unexpected benefit, it was that I just did not like having balls, the look of a eunuch is just so much nicer.

Stephanie , eunuch since feb 2016.

Are you saying that it was only physical castration, and not chemical castration, that led to complete eradication of sex drive? And when you experienced only a slight reduction with chemical castration, are you sure that your T levels were at zero?

[stephaniesteve1 (imported)]

Hi, I am sure the T levels were not as low whilst on chemical castration. Even with out balls your body still produces some T.The biggest change after physical castration was that fairly quickly I started to get hot flushes . They stopped once I started to use the T gel.

Stephanie

[stephaniesteve1 (imported)]

Hi,

I dont know for sure but the time I was on chem was great and an improvement on previous life. I did not have hot flushes at that stage.Once I was castrated the T level was lower and I started to get hot flushes a sure sign of very low T.Apart from the flushes life was definitely better on the lowest T leve I could achieve.

Castration does not completely eradicate the sex drive, just reduces and modifies it

Stephanie

[ZeuterMe (imported)]

I'm speaking as a compulsive masturbator who uses it to self-medicate due to shame associated with my sexuality (ironically). I associate sexuality with really negative feelings and use masturbation to numb that pain. it's the cause of, and solution to, my problems. lol. do you guys have any experienced comparable to this? Does it have a healing effect?

I'm talking with a urologist about a medically necessary castration with nonfunctional testicles, and they still want me to talk to a shrink before they do anything. My experience is that proper prior preparation prevents piss-poor performance, and some hoops really are worth jumping through.

I'd recommend a WPATH-recommended, trans-friendly shrink as a first (second?) step.

[SplitDik (imported)]

I can sympathize because I've been distressed by my sex addiction since I was very young. While it is true that the ultimate solution is to embrace your sexuality and forget being ashamed I've found it isn't quite so easy -- our society is specifically designed to shame people who are doing things that pretty much everyone is probably doing.

There is also another factor that I think people should talk about more -- sexuality is based on overcoming aversion to what otherwise is technically a gross thing. I mean that sharing bodily fluids is by all definitions gross. And it should be because it frankly constitutes one of the biggest health hazards that humanity faces. But basically, our sex drive causes us to momentarily suspend our aversion and proceed with sex acts. However, after orgasmic release you regain your senses and realize the grossness of what you just engaged in. As an example, the idea of greedily gulping down cum is technically pretty gross. So is shoving anything up your ass, or sticking your dick into any sort of slimy hole in another person's body. However, us sex addicts can't help but crave those things.

Fetishes then can take this "suspended aversion" even further. There are people that apparently like to eat shit while aroused, people who like to asphyxiate themselves, and at the worst end people that crave sex using force, with children, family members and animals. I'm sure most rapists immediately regret the act after it has happened, but the next time they see a young female jogger running alone they again get a strong compulsion to act on it.

Anyway, my point is that I personally feel that this cycle of craving something that is technically gross (for me it is mostly seeking prostitutes) and then regretting it immediately afterwards creates a very real distress. And I don't think that simple talking it out with therapists can solve it -- it is a primal brain chemical thing.

I would personally recommend taking anti-depressants first. But castration should also be effective. Note that neither will entirely eliminate the urges, but they will take the edge off the desire and allow you a much, much greater chance of living a life in peace.

[stephaniesteve1 (imported)]

I had hoped that being a eunuch it would cure my compulsive masturbation.It has reduced the amount of porn I watch but has not reduced the frequency of masturbation. In some ways it has made it worse as it takes longer,much longer, to reach climax.The volume of ejeculate has reduced somewhat but is still enough to have a proper squirt. Still I would never wish to go back to having balls.

Going to get a PA piercing and a cock cage that uses it to stay in place Its a PA5000 that you can use without balls.

Stephanie

[Hash (imported)]

Will castration cure your sexual hangups? It will reduce them, but not cure them. Sexual desire in men is especially high, in women, not so much. Many castrated men maintain a sexual libido, others have a greatly reduced libido. In men, sex hormones push us to do things we often regret, castration reduces the "pulse and push" of these hormones so that they lose some of their power over us. When the brain is not infused with all the sexually charged hormones, we can, I can, control my sexual desires more then I could before castration. So again, castration varies from man to man once castrated, but it will greatly reduce your sexual urges. I think you should know that "deep dark depression" after castration is a very serious issue for many castrated men. It's nothing like you'll ever experience, it will plunge you into darkness, so much so, that without help, could kill you. So you're kind of between a rock and hard place, you want to get rid of all or most of your sexual desire, but if you get castrated, you could create another mental/emotional mess. I had to add back a little testosterone (every morning) to ward off the depression. Hope this helps.

[chastebob (imported)]

I think it may be time to mention that the brain is the largest sexual organ. T levels and physical modifications to one's body can effect the ability to express those thoughts and feelings and their physical manifestations - but what is in your head isn't, by itself, going to be changed because of surgeries or drugs. Without some addressing of what's going on in your head it may well find another outlet if a sexual one is impossible. And don't be so sure that is better.

[CuriousSteve (imported)]

My parents were sexually repressed. When I was young, I was told not to touch myself and that it was dirty. I know this because that's what I heard my mom telling the kids when she was bathing them a couple times. I promptly told her to cut it out. I don't blame them, it's how they were raised. That said, I've felt guilty my entire life for having sexual feelings. It's like every time I orgasm I would feel ashamed. I don't think that taking T away will help you get through your hang ups but I do not have any real world experience without it.

[the_blacklist (imported)]

I have two male dogs who were neutered and one female dog who was spayed. The two male dogs still have a sex drive that caused them to f@#k their pillows to shreds. And the female dog still tries to mount people's feet.

[Kangan2008 (imported)]

Similar issues as Tugon. But it got a bit more serious as my life and liberty were at risk. I am at peace with myself after castration. No sexual thoughts - no nothing... even the dreams are gone after 8 years. This is not for everyone. You are also ending any chance at procreation.... Since I already had a family, this was less of a concern, and in my old age, it is only a fleeting regret....

I tried HRT under Dr. supervision as an experiment earlier this year. Nope! Old habits came back almost at once. End of experiment after 6-weeks. Took 3 months for everything to subside back to normal (zero) interest levels.