To choose carefully what you want and when.

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

Life offers many stages and opportunities to enjoy it.

If this post seems to recall a topic of way back, perhaps, but recent discussion seemed to make the area worth a note.

Should you go be a eunuch tomorrow? Maybe a nullo? What about let a clever doc make a pussy? -And not regret it, but enjoy.

I've noted the comments of folks who are delighted with their choices and some who chose unwisely, it seems. So how to make the world a little happier overall?

There are natural stages in life: first you're a kid, and then through youth to hopefully old age, you sample the pleasures of different relationships and roles in life. Many of the choices are made for you by life stages. Enjoy the stage you're at to the full because it will pass all too quickly and there is no going back. Some times one see the tragic comedy of the elderly pretending to youthfulness, or youth pretending beyond their years. Neither seem the stuff of happiness, even if it causes a certain hilarity for bystanders. Regrets for not enjoying life at your stage or past stages do nothing to make your lot better; make the best of the life you have.

Then there are some things you can choose, hopefully appropriately for your stage in life: bachelor / single vs married or partnered, children or no, buy a house or rent, save for later or blow it all now..... Many of these choices are made as one moves from one circumstance to the next, having enjoyed the the last and being ready for the next. So, there are folk who married early and regret not having a bachelor existence, etc. We don't all make wise choices, but it certainly worth a try.

So, my two cents worth: if you are free to choose and are trying to decide if you want to lose your nuts, enjoy them first if you can, and then when you feel that you have no more to gain from the nuts, choose carefully if you want to lose them. Does the idea of being a nullo interest? If it does, make sure you have done all you would like with that dick before getting the right doc to make you into a smoothie. If it is really what you want next -and your partner is on board with the plan- go for it while there is still time to enjoy it. Deliberate and courageous decisions need care.

Joy comes from opportunities wisely taken. Regrets come from opportunities passed by, such as the later need for nuts after castration, or the need for a dick when it was made to go too early.

Careful what you wish for, but also make the best of life's choices.

[erikboy (imported)]

Absolutely correct!

I try to follow the same philosophy.

Just few thoughts to add.

First, humans have incredibly little free choice. When they think they can choose, they actually could not. For example, one thinks he wants to get married, it is not his free choice. It is the result of his own desires (which are not choices) upbringing, cultural environment, etc.

But yes talking about castration, the moment of getting it done must be chosen as carefully as possible. I have passed the opportunity to become a young eunuch and thats something I regret. But then again, there are other aspects of life I have actually enjoyed being not an eunuch.

Sometimes you do not know what you are going to regret later. And you can not count with these regrets. There is always risks.

[nutless1 (imported)]

Very well stated.

While I disliked my nuts for decades, I am pleased I only seriously acted upon thoughts of castration in 2016 at age 60, and I am daily filled with joy these days to have two grown boys and one growing granddaughter from each son. I truly can attest to with age comes wisdom and the peace and pleasure that wisdom produces!

Life offers many stages and opportunities to enjoy it.

If this post seems to recall a topic of way back, perhaps, but recent discussion seemed to make the area worth a note.

Should you go be a eunuch tomorrow? Maybe a nullo? What about let a clever doc make a pussy? -And not regret it, but enjoy.

I've noted the comments of folks who are delighted with their choices and some who chose unwisely, it seems. So how to make the world a little happier overall?

There are natural stages in life: first you're a kid, and then through youth to hopefully old age, you sample the pleasures of different relationships and roles in life. Many of the choices are made for you by life stages. Enjoy the stage you're at to the full because it will pass all too quickly and there is no going back. Some times one see the tragic comedy of the elderly pretending to youthfulness, or youth pretending beyond their years. Neither seem the stuff of happiness, even if it causes a certain hilarity for bystanders. Regrets for not enjoying life at your stage or past stages do nothing to make your lot better; make the best of the life you have.

Then there are some things you can choose, hopefully appropriately for your stage in life: bachelor / single vs married or partnered, children or no, buy a house or rent, save for later or blow it all now..... Many of these choices are made as one moves from one circumstance to the next, having enjoyed the the last and being ready for the next. So, there are folk who married early and regret not having a bachelor existence, etc. We don't all make wise choices, but it certainly worth a try.

So, my two cents worth: if you are free to choose and are trying to decide if you want to lose your nuts, enjoy them first if you can, and then when you feel that you have no more to gain from the nuts, choose carefully if you want to lose them. Does the idea of being a nullo interest? If it does, make sure you have done all you would like with that dick before getting the right doc to make you into a smoothie. If it is really what you want next -and your partner is on board with the plan- go for it while there is still time to enjoy it. Deliberate and courageous decisions need care.

Joy comes from opportunities wisely taken. Regrets come from opportunities passed by, such as the later need for nuts after castration, or the need for a dick when it was made to go too early.

Careful what you wish for, but also make the best of life's choices.

[Arab Nights (imported)]

I would enjoy bringing over a Chivas Regal one evening - even a bottle of Mexican moonshine if you are into quality. I am going to share your post with my wife because we are facing the empty nest and the idea has come up that it might be time to move somewhere else once we have helped kids thru high school and local college. We need to think thru what the goals of the next part of the journey might be and where we should live for those purposes. Thanks for the post.

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

How could I have missed the Chivas Regal from the Important Things?

My wife was present and throughly supportive at both hubby's nutting and later removal of scrotum. We also choose our times of T or no T.

It's now over 10 years since the necessity to lose the nuts, and no trouble seems apparent. So we have also discussed the possibility of getting hubby to Thailand for the best plastic surgery nullo job (incl no visible mark of where the dick once was) we can find. We have researched the options and requirements but until we both consistently agree that it is time, we're keeping the pickle. It would also be a pity to delay it too long, once it's the right thing for us.

[cutnbulls2ox (imported)]

I agree the stage of life each man is in determines what is right for him and when. The ranks of eunuchs on this site show the different ages and stages that men get willingly castrated or dickless. Its unique for each man, but most men seem to act on life long desires more after 60 years old than as men in their 20s. Of course that makes perfect sense in how much use a man has for sperm and impregnating abilities at different ages and how much sex he has enjoyed with his sex organs and his sex drive and organ s virility when he decides to willingly give them up. And his sex partners interests and use of his sex organs at different ages too.

The big thing is to avoid making irreversable mistakes that can t be outdone or compensated for.

[cutnbulls2ox (imported)]

I m sure most men s biggest worry and question is, is this going to be a big mistake doing this that I will regret in the future ? Tough to know that for sure at any age. But tougher yet as a younger man who has not used his sex organs for decades and had any kids yet. Lots of eunuchs seem to love being fathers and grandfathers.

[sparkey49 (imported)]

I would not trade my kids and grandkids for anything!

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

Somehow, I didn't lose our kid with the nuts. One lot went into the pathologist's bucket, and the other seems to be very much around. Hope we got that right!

[nutless1 (imported)]

Right on! I fully agree with your statement!

I would not trade my kids and grandkids for anything!

[madnomadtoo (imported)]

I'm impressed by the great level of wisdom expressed in this thread.

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

So, how to decide when the "stage of life" is right for your to move on?

I think there are possibly at least two questions here, the general and the one concerned with castration (chemical, surgical), and nullification.

What should be the questions we ask, before taking a next step?

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

Lots of good advice here about caution, and the need to avoid mistakes.

There's also surely the taking of opportunities, which also have a way of passing us by.

IMHO, it's a good life being nutless. I didn't get much say in when it happened, but now I think I would have been happier if I'd lost them a while before, but still after procreating. My partner also prefers no scrotum, and in hindsight, she says that too should have been done before it was.

Are there times when I wish I'd had no surgery? Yes, a few, but making the best of life is the healthier outlook.

That's the stage we're at right now, and will stay, unless we both agree that we'd sufficiently enjoy me as a nullo while there are still years to make the most of it.

[notsomanly (imported)]

I've been doing a lot of thinking along these lines. I'm in my second month on Androcur and find that my thinking on all sorts of topics is much more clear than before. In particular, having essentially no libido has removed the sexual motive for all kinds of activities (i.e, no interest in porn, body modifications generally, any sexual fantasies about anything). I can now appreciate the contribution of sex drive to wanting a larger or smaller penis, having more or less weight, even castration itself. I am as happy as can be that I can be the real me without the influence of Testosterone. Whether I eventually get castrated has no element of sexual fantasy. It's just a medical decision based on not wanting to be on Androcur any longer than necessary. I'm no longer even curious about going all the way to nullo. It's really great to know how much my thought processes were influenced by testosterone. I'm at a stage where I no longer want sexuality. My postmenopausal wife and I are now much more closely matched in that attribute. She told me the other day that it feels like she has back the guy she fell in love with. What a great revelation!

[DonnyMac (imported)]

I found there is quite a bit of clarity when the fog of testosterone is lifted. My wife had a similar reaction.

Good luck,

Don

[daifu-orchid (imported)]

Yes, it's strange that while the T is around, I don't think of it as a fog, but when it isn't there certainly is a lifting fog which feels good to self and those around. Guess that's an ad for a chemical trial.