Advice anyone????

[seanthomas (imported)]

We have a close group of local friends with whom I have shared my Eunuch status. It was easy with them and I "came out" as having been castrated when they were discussing a friend with prostate cancer (poor Jack, don't they cut a man's balls off for that?). I was compelled to educate my friends that it's not the end of the world.

We have another two couples that no longer live near us and we only communicate occasionally by email or phone. However, those couples are the ones we used to share annual vacations with and several times chartered a boat for a week in St. Martin. Now we plan another charter in January and if past behavior is any indication of what will transpire in a week or so, clothing will become optional once onboard. Actually, the girls start off topless sunbathing, liquor flows and soon we are all as nature intended.

So my dilemma is these friends have no idea I was castrated and it's not something I can figure out how to reveal before I'm chided to shed my bathing suit. Now it's not that I am ashamed of my body, but simply can't decide how to announce my "modification".

Or, if I should say nothing and just wait until one of them glances down as gasp: "where are your balls?"

Anyone who has been in this situation.... Please offer some advice.

[Wolf-Pup (imported)]

If I were there, I wouldn't look for them. Nor if I noticed anything would I ask. I'd figure if you wanted to tell me you would.

If a woman were missing a breast, and took her shirt off and didn't say anything about it, I wouldn't bring everyone down and start asking her about cancer.

You aren't obligated to announce anything and really it isn't anyone else's business. Although I could see someone asking out of concern for cancer.

If you are acting normally I don't see why others wouldn't treat you normally. Now if there is a group orgy thing I can see where THAT would make it more complicated

[TopManFL (imported)]

If they are your friends they won't care at all.

[Losethem (imported)]

I go to a nudist recreation place in the summer. I do not announce myself ahead of time. I simply strip, and wander around like nothing is unusual. I get a few stares, and occasional question, but outside of that nobody cares.

I'd suspect the same for you.

[ambiguous (imported)]

I go to optional beaches and have been in gym locker rooms and folks just don't tend to look down there and if they do they don't discuss what they see.

I assume most folks think I have a pair of high hangers but it may be different for guys who have had their sack removed also.

[gandalf (imported)]

I have had my sac removed and when I stand in front of the mirror shaving, if I look down just quickly, I don't notice that there are no balls hanging there. I wonder if, for those who look, are more comparing the size of their dick vs yours.

[Begoneboy (imported)]

I never gave it a second thought after having all that junk removed. But then again I was single hand sailing around the world and in the beginning just looked like any guy but without any junk. Not that anybody really saw me nude. Granted, I was most of the time when in warm waters and away from shore. Then after taking "E" for a while appearance began to change. That was in the 90s. In time folks began to think whatever they wanted about what sex I actually was. Didn't make any difference to me until customs officials began inquiring rather than assuming, The point is, just take it as it comes. If they're really your friends and want to know they'll ask so just be honest. And if they're truly your friends that'll be the end of it.

[Arab Nights (imported)]

My wife votes to surprise them.

Years ago we had a person under the name of Yoli from Texas posting. She wrote about being there with her buddy, Barry the eunuch, when a nude couple came up in their boat. The lady saw Barry and commented, "Look. that guys been castrated." Her guy got a boner. Maybe your wife could talk discreetly to the other wives to ensure there is are memorable reactions if the subject comes up .

[Arab Nights (imported)]

I meant skinny dipping at Hippy Hollow, Lake Travis. Sorry. Late night post.

[seanthomas (imported)]

If I had a sack I could probably get away without saying anything and doubt anyone would pay that close attention. However, last time my friends saw me in the buff I had some very low hanging balls. Now the absence of a scrotum combined with a shrunken penis leaves no doubt my genitals have significantly changed. I would be very uncomfortable creating discomfort among my friends by presenting as a Eunuch without having offered any explanation beforehand.

Now I hate to sound vain but given the prospect of exposing my body again has led me to not only loosing weight as fast as I can but also undergoing Gainswave therapy to try and return my shrunken penis to it's former size.

Anyway, it's not that I am ashamed to present as a Eunuch to my old friends but rather I'm just unsure how to organize "coming out" to them. I have no doubt they will react the same as other friends who know with perhaps initial discomfort and then acceptance.

We will spend a few days before flying down making plans, going over charts, deciding menus, watch schedules and shared tasks. I'm hoping then I'll get a chance to bring it up and give them a few days to digest the news.

[ambiguous (imported)]

Do you think that some of your local friends that you have outed to may have been in contact with the folks you haven't seen for a while.

Just a thought as they may have primed them with info on your new status so as not to put you or them in a tricky spot at a later stage.

[seanthomas (imported)]

Do you think that some of your local friends that you have outed to may have been in contact with the folks you haven't seen for a while.

Just a thought as they may have primed them with info on your new status so as not to put you or them in a tricky spot at a later stage.

Naw, two separate groups of friends. I basically grew up with the group I told but the couples we are going with are more recent friends we actually met on vacation about 15 years ago. We decided we'd meet up again the following year and do a bare-boat cruise together. My wife was talking over the weekend to one and laughing about our acting like hippies back then and said we may be getting too old to be running around buck naked on boat these days. The reply was.... hell girl, we ain't over the hill just yet.

[Arab Nights (imported)]

Over the hill is a mental state.

[catoboros (imported)]

Body acceptance, self and others, is a core value of the nudist community. Given the wide range of bodies that I have seen at nudist venues, including surgical scars from open heart surgery, tattoos, and piercings (including genitals festooned with them), you might get a question or two, but, in general, nudists are pretty chill. That would be my approach.

[unencumbered (imported)]

I tend to agree with catoboros. I visited a nude beach several times and can say that nudists seem to be nonjudgmental about others bodies. I wouldn't worry. Just go without giving them a heads up and answer their questions when they see you naked. It should be an interesting topic of discussion amongst the six of you on the boat.

[catoboros (imported)]

I tend to agree with catoboros. I visited a nude beach several times and can say that nudists seem to be nonjudgmental about others bodies. I wouldn't worry. Just go without giving them a heads up and answer their questions when they see you naked. It should be an interesting topic of discussion amongst the six of you on the boat.

And endless opportunities for comedy: "What? [Looks down.] Oh shit! When did that happen?"

Generally the cringiest trans people (and I consider eunuchs to be nonbinary trans) are those who start interactions by stating their identity and seeking validation. Be chill and the world will be chill to you.

[sparkey49 (imported)]

I agree if you are cool with it and just act normal everything will be great I have never had an issue and I am totally open about the fact I am castrated! I am proud of my status and don't like talking about it if anyone asks a polite question and have never had a derogatory question!

[Arab Nights (imported)]

Sparkey. Did you mis-type and mean 'don't mind talking?'

[eunuchjeff (imported)]

My personal experience is that other folks don't notice - no need to worry. OTOH I can understand that if you're going to be close - as on a boat - and you have no scrotum, folks are more likely to notice. You and your wife should just work on your story line if and when the question is posed by one of your friends.

Most folks just don't care once they notice you're ballless. Most say nothing. It's encouraging that even those that are totally emasculated can feel comfortable being nude and 'obvious.'

[Hash (imported)]

There's no easy way to tell them and there's no way to know how they'll react. I would tell them before you go nude. You just have to take a deep breath and tell them or don't go if you're too uncomfortable. They'll probably think medical, testicular cancer, etc., but you'll have to mentally and emotionally prepare yourself. There's just no easy way to do it.

[seanthomas (imported)]

Okay, so my friends now know. Of course there was hidden cringing from the guys but the women only expressed curiosity. After a short while the subject changed. It's kind of a relief and all agreed they would rather hear it first before seeing it. Universally I was assured I was free to run amok sans clothing and nobody would give a hoot. We leave tomorrow and by Friday will be aboard a nice 44' monohull enjoying some warm Caribbean sunshine.

[GordonGG (imported)]

Glad to hear it. Have a good time!

[catoboros (imported)]

Okay, so my friends now know. Of course there was hidden cringing from the guys but the women only expressed curiosity. After a short while the subject changed. It's kind of a relief and all agreed they would rather hear it first before seeing it. Universally I was assured I was free to run amok sans clothing and nobody would give a hoot. We leave tomorrow and by Friday will be aboard a nice 44' monohull enjoying some warm Caribbean sunshine.

Good to hear. Individual body differences can be interesting but the novelty wears off quite quickly.

I am a little bit jealous because, here in New Zealand, we are enduring the most miserably grey and damp "summer" in many years, combined with smoke from the Australian bushfires that, on some days, blows right across the Tasman and turns the sky an apocalyptic orange. I hope the the Caribbean will be lovely.

[sparkey49 (imported)]

Seth Thomas Congratulations you have reached a new milestone enjoy its freedom!

[Delleunuch (imported)]

As a Chinese eunuch, I really enjoy my empty scrotum, because it always reminds me that I am an eunuch.

However, China's sexual concept is very conservative, especially men will pay great attention to their fertility. Many infertile men in China are reluctant to admit that they suffer from infertility, and they also have a lot of prejudices to treat castrated men.