Harrassment will NOT be tolerated

[kristoff]

I have been hearing from a few of our female members. Once again, I need to remind members to keep your fucking fantasies where they belong. That is, not in the email box or PM box of such female members. All female members who are being harassed by ANY member here, requesting that you cut them, torture them, or whatever, please feel free to do either of the following: Post a scathing message on the boards naming the offender, after which I will ban the bastard; OR, forward to me the offending email or PM, including name of the offender, and THEN I will ban the bastard.

Women members ARE welcome on this board. They are NOT, however, here for the amusement and abusement of anyone else. If you wish to engage someone in conversation, a POLITE private message requesting contact would be most appropriate.....

I think enough said on my part...

[jemagirl (imported)]

Good advice, and maybe not just for the message board.

Every time I go in the chat room I get a bunch of PM from guys asking me if I'm a dom and want to cut them... I used to alert the OPs and they would boot them off but I got tired of that and now I mostly don't bother going too chat any more.

[sheep79 (imported)]

I agree 100% with kristoff and Jema I have heard some of the same things from other memebers. I urge anyone to let an op know if they are being bothered,if we don't know we can't build a case against anyone to ban them.The funniest thing is if those idiots where polite they would probably meet some wonderfull ppl here. I know I have developed some very nice online freindships from the chat. Dave the sheep...

[mrt (imported)]

Good advice, and maybe not just for the message board.

Every time I go in the chat room I get a bunch of PM from guys asking me if I'm a dom and want to cut them... I used to alert the OPs and they would boot them off but I got tired of that and now I mostly don't bother going too chat any more.

Thanks for saying that Jemagirl. I just started doing Chat and its great meeting people from the MOMs that I spoke to and so forth. Because I log on as MisterT I also get a rash of PVTs asking me if I'm DOM etc. I know this is a big forum with people from all different walks. Some are just cancer patients that had an orchiectomy period. No interest in anything other then post op care ideas etc. On the other side? I don't know. It gets pretty fringe. And there are the rest of us in the middle.

My Policy is to be polite and direct. Nope, sorry not into that and I click off.

or when I'm pissed of "Its M I S T E R not MASTER!" Or if I really poed and they really want to be ordered around I'll get out my twister set and type things like

RIGHT HAND BLUE!

LEFT FOOT GREEN!

NO DO THE FUNKY CHICKEN! *Oh wait that was Buck Henry on SNL...

BTW Sheep!? I didn't know you posted!?!

[Losethem (imported)]

All I have to say about chats is that if the female members feed the trolls, the trolls will continue their behavior. If they are harassing, the easiest thing to do to them is IGNORE them and just close the PM window. Last I checked, everyone (trolls included) are supposed to ask premission to PM in the first place. *shrugs*

[jemagirl (imported)]

All I have to say about chats is that if the female members feed the trolls, the trolls will continue their behavior. If they are harassing, the easiest thing to do to them is IGNORE them and just close the PM window. Last I checked, everyone (trolls included) are supposed to ask premission to PM in the first place. *shrugs*

I don't understand what your getting at here about feeding the Trolls. When I come on chat I get hit with about 5 or 6 PMs. All before I even have a chance to say hi to the 3 or 4 people I know in Chat Land. Surely I haven't had time encourage this behavior other than having a female name. If you don't believe try logging on as a girl and see what happens. If you want some real action just add "Miss" to a girls name, and I'll bet 90% of the people who PM you don't ask first.

Trolls are creatures who like to get people all riled up. There in it for the drama. What is happening on the message board and in chat is a different thing. These guys are coming at us with pre-existing sexual fantasies. Saying we are responsible for the behavior of the trolls ( feeding the Trolls ) is like saying children are responsible for the behavior of pedophiles.

[EricaAnn (imported)]

Good advice, and maybe not just for the message board.

Every time I go in the chat room I get a bunch of PM from guys asking me if I'm a dom and want to cut them... I used to alert the OPs and they would boot them off but I got tired of that and now I mostly don't bother going too chat any more.

I have had the same experience almost every time I enter the chat room. Are you a girl? Are you a dom? Will you cut me? etc., etc., etc.

It gets to be a little bit much after awhile!

[Beau Geste (imported)]

I think that, if any girl or woman told me she was going to sign up as a member of this archive, I'd tell her to disable private messaging right away, and maybe do a second signup with a male identity, if she wanted to chat (although I guess that's considered against the rules). If she wanted to talk to somebody directly through messaging, she could enable the messaging long enough to exchange email addresses or some other means of communication with the person. One of the disadvantages of having an open membership policy, is that every kind of predator (psychological as well as physical) can, and probably will, sign up.

I also wonder if the general tone of the archive might be a little friendlier to potential female members, if the raunchy avatars didn't show up right away when somebody accessed the message boards. I presume similar avatars are used in the chat room. There are less than a dozen rude avatars that show up with any regularity in the message boards, but only one is enough to make a certain type of impression on somebody who accesses the message boards for the first time. If I understand it correctly, there are already some restrictions on what avatars are acceptable--I think that avatars showing sex acts are prohibited. Possibly the coding for the avatars could be changed so that the default setting for the archive was to have the offensive avatars hidden, and then there could be a box that a user could check if he wanted all the avatars to be visible. Shouldn't take a whole lot of coding, since there is already a check box to hide all avatars.

Of course, a number of avatars might be objectionable to certain folks for other reasons. Kristoff's might be considered disrespectful to the regular clergy, and there might even be some Buddhists who would think Jesus' avatar represented a misuse of Buddhist iconography. Maybe there are fans of Marc Antony who would take offense at my avatar. But those avatars don't convey the same impression as the sexually suggestive ones.

[ramses (imported)]

maybe we need a second password protected chatroom?

[Eunuken (imported)]

maybe we need a second password protected chatroom?

No, we don't need a password, we need good ops and people to inform them that we have an issue that needs to be addressed at that time.

I will kick anyone out thats being a Pain In the Ass

[A-1 (imported)]

I think that, if any girl or woman told me she was going to sign up as a member of this archive, I'd tell her to disable private messaging right away, and maybe do a second signup with a male identity, if she wanted to chat (although I guess that's considered against the rules). If she wanted to talk to somebody directly through messaging, she could enable the messaging long enough to exchange email addresses or some other means of communication with the person. One of the disadvantages of having an open membership policy, is that every kind of predator (psychological as well as physical) can, and probably will, sign up.

I also wonder if the general tone of the archive might be a little friendlier to potential female members, if the raunchy avatars didn't show up right away when somebody accessed the message boards. I presume similar avatars are used in the chat room. There are less than a dozen rude avatars that show up with any regularity in the message boards, but only one is enough to make a certain type of impression on somebody who accesses the message boards for the first time. If I understand it correctly, there are already some restrictions on what avatars are acceptable--I think that avatars showing sex acts are prohibited. Possibly the coding for the avatars could be changed so that the default setting for the archive was to have the offensive avatars hidden, and then there could be a box that a user could check if he wanted all the avatars to be visible. Shouldn't take a whole lot of coding, since there is already a check box to hide all avatars.

Of course, a number of avatars might be objectionable to certain folks for other reasons. Kristoff's might be considered disrespectful to the regular clergy, and there might even be some Buddhists who would think Jesus' avatar represented a misuse of Buddhist iconography. Maybe there are fans of Marc Antony who would take offense at my avatar. But those avatars don't convey the same impression as the sexually suggestive ones.

NUDISTS HATE MINE. THEY FUCK HOME IN BED AND NOT IN THE SAND.

[Kathleen (imported)]

I have had a few fellows ask me to get into some penectomy or castration fantasies. I find that once I tell them that I am not interested, they don't even bother to reply to my answer. I feel that it is only natural that the straight men who are here because of a sexual castration fantasy would just love to find a female who has the same interest. I suppose they are fairly hard to find. I don't blame them for asking and I appreciate their not bothering me once I make myself clear, no offense taken.

[A-1 (imported)]

I am so confused ...

... Is Salami Kathleen or is Kathleen Salami?

...OH! BALONEY!

[Kathleen (imported)]

Nah, Salami and I are seperate entities. I live in Chicago. We just got to chatting and have become friends. He decided to gift me with half of his family jewels. I've never wanted or had a prick before, but I figure...what the hell. The only thing is that I don't know what to do with it and he's going to have Elmo removed probably before I figure out what to do with it. Ah well.

Christmas is coming, maybe you guys would like to share your male appendage avatars with some nice woman around here.

[CutEmInOz (imported)]

I have been hearing from a few of our female members. Once again, I need to remind members to keep your fucking fantasies where they belong. That is, not in the email box or PM box of such female members. All female members who are being harassed by ANY member here, requesting that you cut them, torture them, or whatever, please feel free to do either of the following: Post a scathing message on the boards naming the offender, after which I will ban the bastard; OR, forward to me the offending email or PM, including name of the offender, and THEN I will ban the bastard.

Women members ARE welcome on this board. They are NOT, however, here for the amusement and abusement of anyone else. If you wish to engage someone in conversation, a POLITE private message requesting contact would be most appropriate.....

I think enough said on my part...

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Nicely said.

I must say you're really rather sexy when you're angry...

[FianceeUvBigGuy (imported)]

Yoli here, back from another satisfying football experience...and totally pooped.

I've not been harassed here in the forums. In fact, I cannot recall receiving any annoying PMs either.

The Chat Room, however, was a different matter for me, Ash(leigh), and WOBG when she was here as FUBG. Most of the problem involved being pounced on, so soon as one of us logged in, by one of three or four individuals, a couple of which were outside the USA. It took perhaps a nanosecond after we logged in for them to light us up.

The "conversations" were ALWAYS the same each time and these were contributing factors in our decision to vacate the Chat Room on a permanent basis. The other "deciders", basically, were some fairly hostile accusations of being "guys in girl suits". Being asked for telephone contact was a problem too.

We made the decision with some reluctance, to be sure. I recall FUBG/WOBG saying she was becoming much attached to her "Uncle Wolfie", for example, and she missed Riverwind and IEunuch too. I pretty much agree that the loss was felt by all three of us, though less so by Ash(leigh), that cold fish!!! Actually, she is so darned, well, practical and pragmatic.

We did, for a while, engage a couple of our faves in EMail communication until WOBG closed that particular account for fear of who-knows-what. Since she pays for everything...still...so be it.

There was a seemingly nice guy who stated he lived here in San Antonio and was also a eunuch. It was so tempting to agree to meet with him and perhaps enlist him as a "featured attraction" and honored guest at our Kinky Kastration Koven meetings. Ash(leigh), of course, put the chill on that. He was never pushy, BTW, and I hope he is doing well.

Well, that's my take on the matter and I'm sticking with it!

Love, now...ZZZZZZZZZZ

Yolanda The Stadium Chick

[Losethem (imported)]

By feeding the trolls I meant don't talk to them. Simply close the chat window that pops open and ignore them. I'm not blaming any of the women here for anything.

Just think about it, with my actually being a eunuch and participating in the chats, I get harassed too. I handle it by IGNORING them.

[philip1 (imported)]

I have been involved in this forum and the chat for a few years now and I have had my fair share of trolls and turds try to get me to do things.

Rule #1 NEVER agree to make phone contact

#2 if they make you feel uncomfortable tell a moderator or chat op

#3 PM's in the chatroom if permission is not asked just close the window

they'll get the idea eventually

I am usually quite amiable and willing to talk in the chatroom lobby since I feel the information is important but PM's from trolls and wankers not so much

[tugon (imported)]

I am surprised that so many who send me private messages or want to chat privately are more interested in "getting with me" because I am a eunuch. They have no idea what I look like or what I am about. Of course if they think I will passively serve them it would serve them right to meet me. One person from my state has PMed me several times asking the same question. I think I will post my picture in an avatar. That should end all the offers.

[Blaise (imported)]

Certainly, I hope that I have not harassed anyone. I have contacted members, but I do not recall what I wrote. I erase my messages after a few days. Anyway, if I have bothered anyone, I apologize.

[sag111 (imported)]

Thanks Krister

[Mac (imported)]

......

. When I come on chat I get hit with about 5 or 6 PMs. All before I even have a chance to say hi to the 3 or 4 people I know in Chat Land. ..... If you don't believe try logging on as a girl and see what happens. ......

I tried logging on with a girl's name - got several private messages almost immediately.

[DonFL (imported)]

lol.. I tried it once just screwing around and got hit with half a dozen rather rude emails... people have no tact.. even in my normal screen name people sometimes think im a lady.. lol...

[kristoff]

lol.. I tried it once just screwing around and got hit with half a dozen rather rude emails... people have no tact.. even in my normal screen name people sometimes think im a lady.. lol...

They ALL know I am a lady, but I never get any offers....

OTOH, it would be OK if folks passed some of these on to the Chat Ops or to me.

[MacTheWolf (imported)]

Krister,

Maybe the pervs are scared of you. After all, your habit is the same color as Hell-fire, supposedly.

However, the last time I saw Hell was 1982 when I was married to a Succubus.