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Danya (imported) wrote: Thu Aug 04, 2011 11:37 pm an interview with the hiring manager

for a contract to hire job. The interview went very well, lasting twice as long as the allotted time.

Earlier this evening I emailed the recruiter, telling him to withdraw me from consideration. Deciding to send that email was difficult, to say the least. I need a job and not having one is stressful. What bothered me about this one was that it required up to 50% out of state travel per week. I like flying, but a weekly schedule of heavy business travel plus the promise of the regular need to work weekends worried me. I have known people in their 20s and early 30s who, within a year or two, burned out with similar demands. I am willing to work extra hours as needed. At almost 60 years old, though, I need to be realistic about what I can handle, both physically and emotionally.

The recruiter sent a reply within minutes of receiving my message. He respected my decision and added that both he and the hiring manager say I have 'a lot of talent' in this field. That was good to hear.

If I did not have other 'irons in the fire,' and ongoing interest from new recruiters, I would have never

Danya (imported) wrote: Fri Aug 05, 2011 5:36 am sent the message.

I have three interviews this week.

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A few minutes ago, I was offered a contract to hire job with a terrific company that has been growing throughout the difficult economy. It's in a relatively close suburb, definitely within commuting distance. Still, if it does go permanent I will move much closer.

I am very excited! I had three other interviews scheduled for this week, which I will now cancel.

This sounds like very good news! Congrat's!

Listened to your message just now and you sounded so thrilled.

Glad this is happening for you!

Wish you'd been here. Missed you.

Thanks for the good wishes, Paolo! If I had gotten this news a week ago, I would have made it to the MoM. I missed being there and reconnecting with friends.

Danya (imported) wrote: Mon Aug 22, 2011 10:25 am A few minutes ago, I was offered a contract to hire job with a terrific company that has been growing throughout the difficult economy. It's in a relatively close suburb, definitely within commuting distance. Still, if it does go permanent I will move much closer.

I am very excited! I had three other interviews scheduled for this week, which I will now cancel.

Congratulations and good luck! You deserve it.

Wonderful new, Danya..Moocho smoochos Jackie(dragonfly)

Thanks Mac and Jackie.

Earlier today, I learned of an unexpected bonus to this job. The company I will work for does not require a background check, although I had to show proof that I am a US citizen. But I was not asked to list former names. This means that no one at the agency or the company knows anything about my 'male' past. I will be entirely in 'stealth mode' at work.

Danya (imported) wrote: Wed Aug 24, 2011 1:16 pm Thanks Mac and Jackie.

Earlier today, I learned of an unexpected bonus to this job. The company I will work for does not require a background check, although I had to show proof that I am a US citizen. But I was not asked to list former names. This means that no one at the agency or the company knows anything about my 'male' past. I will be entirely in 'stealth mode' at work.

A real plus for you.

Danya (imported) wrote: Mon Aug 22, 2011 10:25 am A few minutes ago, I was offered a contract to hire job with a terrific company that has been growing throughout the difficult economy. It's in a relatively close suburb, definitely within commuting distance. Still, if it does go permanent I will move much closer.

I am very excited! I had three other interviews scheduled for this week, which I will now cancel.

Several people have sent messages asking how I'm doing, so I am responding here. I am also hoping that writing will again help me through a difficult time in my life.

The contract to hire job did not last more than 8 weeks. Nearly ten people were hired at the same time as me. A number were told they were no longer needed during my time at this company, so I was not surprised when I got a call from the agency letting me know not to return to work. Only one or two of the contractors were left by this point.

I was mostly relieved to get the news that I no longer had a job, the most stressful I have ever held. I wondered, though, what I would do next.

Since March of this year, I had been compiling data on number of job postings in my field in different metro areas around the US. I normalized the numbers by dividing them by each metro area's population. I also kept track of unemployment trends. Over these months, Minneapolis/Saint Paul has consistently had roughly three times the number of jobs in my field than the Chicago region. The unemployment rate for Chicago during the last year has increased while the rate for the Twin Cities has declined. During September and October, the Chicago metro unemployment rate has been 9.6%. The unemployment rate in Minneapolis/Saint Paul dropped from 6.0% to 5.4% - the lowest rate of all major metropolitan regions in the US. Too bad it also is the coldest major metro area in the country.

Over a period of about 5 days, I made the difficult decision to move back to the Twin Cities. In the nearly two years I spent in Chicago, I grew to love it even more. During my last week there,

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wice for long walks and pondered my options. The garden is where I made my decision. 'X' and I have remained friends. I called him from the garden to let him know that I would move. We had spent many hours walking there together. He could tell from the sound of a waterfall which area I was walking through. Quite a feat since nearly all of the garden is filled with the sound of different forms of flowing water.

It has been difficult for me to adjust to living in Minnesota again. This is the first time I have returned to a place I have lived in before and the area now seems strangely foreign yet familiar to me. I knew my way around downtown Chicago and its surrounding suburbs far better than I ever knew the Twin Cities. It is also significantly colder here.

I miss the far greater cultural and ethnic diversity of Chicago, and its much higher energy. As I arrived at the Twin Cities, I thought "there's

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Danya (imported) wrote: Sat Jan 22, 2011 3:21 pm ng some discomfort, and pain, in the GRS area. Particularly when I was driving. At the

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Danya (imported) wrote: Fri Jan 21, 2011 12:39 pm oblem. The 7 1/2 hour drive to the Twin Cities made the pain even worse and now, at tim

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Danya (imported) wrote: Thu Jan 20, 2011 12:58 pm ll day. Tuesday, I have an appointment with a trans-friendly gynecologist to see if she

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Danya (imported) wrote: Sun Jan 16, 2011 3:53 pm o. Now, even a 30-minute drive gets to be uncomfortable. I am pleased with the surgery

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Danya (imported) wrote: Mon Jan 10, 2011 11:44 am hat I am dealing with the pain after nearly eight months. The only way I get relief is w

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Danya (imported) wrote: Sat Jan 08, 2011 10:49 am ting is becoming a bit more difficult, too. All of this is depressing, it's interfering

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Danya (imported) wrote: Tue Jan 04, 2011 2:14 pm g way. Right now, I don't know how I'd sit at a job all day. At times, standing does no

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I am getting a lot more interest from recruiters here than I ever did in Chicago. Since the summer, Windy City recruiters have been telling me hiring is slow. Here, they tell me the job market is hot for what I do and that unemployment for IT-related jobs is only 2%. I hope to have a job before long. My financial resources are low after all my transition expenses and I need to turn that around.

Hi, Danya!! First, it's very good to hear from you. I was among those people wondering how things were going. I'm terribly disappointed to hear you're still having pain, so many months after GRS. It's great you have a friendly gynecologist to help you through this difficult time. I wish you the best of luck with the Twin Cities recruiters.

Hi Caith,

I'm delighted you responded to my post. The gynecologist was very kind and thorough. She found that I have granulation tissue in the far end of my vagina and on some parts of the labia. She treated these with silver nitrate. In addition, she found that I have more significant nerve damage than I had thought. She prescribed an anti-seizure medication to help reduce the pain from that. There is also an internal area where a small amount of tissue may slough off, which we are trying to prevent with an estrogen cream. Finally, there are some dark spots near the surgery area that she wants to biopsy once everything else is under control. I am guessing she doesn't expect anything too serious or she would have done an immediate biopsy - hope so, anyway!

My pain level is not much less than what I experienced the week after surgery. This means I will apply only for permanent jobs until I start to feel better. Hiring managers for contractors often want you to start work immediately. I applied for six permanent jobs yesterday.

Hope all is well with you.

I saw my gynecologist for the second time yesterday. She took samples for a biopsy of discolored skin from the lower area of my vulva. If these prove to be precancerous lesions, laser ablation will be used to remove them. I am only a little surprised that I am not worried about this. Over the last several years, I've changed in many ways. Things that used to cause a lot of worry seldom do these days. It's not that I'm totally free of worry, by any means. My coping mechanisms are better now.

I'm still dealing with pain from my GRS in April and the area that was biopsied is causing more pain. My doctor has increased the anti-seizure medication that should help reduce it. I see her again in two weeks. I asked her for an estimate on when I would be able to interview and work. She responded with "potentially in two weeks." I let her know during my first appointment that I need to be able to work ASAP. I'm still supposed to avoid sitting as much as possible. Since I cannot stand all day , I recline in bed as I apply for jobs.

It was good to get out of the house, even for an appointment with a doctor. I like this female gynecologist and I enjoyed my one hour appointment, except for the parts involving what looked like torture devices. We talked and joked about a number of things.

Chicago - I still miss it and it's well over a month since I left. I even miss the heavier traffic! And the big city energy. I will adjust. I did not miss Minnesota when I moved to Chicago in early 2010.

Job hunting is going slowly because I have to recover from my post surgery complications. I had to turn down a phone interview yesterday because I knew I could not start work when the company wanted.

GRS complications update:

My pain is lessening but is still too intense for prolonged sitting. Even with the

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that I am once again using. During my last visit, my gynecologist (Dr. 'T') injected a nerve block that eliminated most pain for a few hours. This result means that cortisone injections may be very effective for longer lasting pain relief. I long to be able to sit with little pain and discomfort, just like a 'normal' person.

Dr. 'T' told me that roughly 20% of trans women deal with nerve damage following GRS. She's never worked with anyone, though, dealing with this pain 8 months after surgery. This confirms what I already suspected: I did not receive adequate follow-up treatment in Chicago.

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For the first time, I am living in a home with not one but three female, human roommates. This is the best living arrangement I've had since leaving Minnesota in early 2010. We all get along well and my space is not only very private, but practically a studio apartment. As an added bonus, I have four female, canine roommates. Three are miniature Schnauzers and the fourth is a small, female well, something else. "Something else" is an adorable small, scruffy dog. She spends much of the daylight hours in my room, when her 'mommy' is at work. I love dogs, so having four around is a treat.

Regarding my gynecologist and test results

This is the first clinic I've been to that, through a secure web site, displays your test results before you see your doctor. This morning, I got an email notification to check my test results on the site. Turns out my estradiol level is way too high. The doctor even left instructions that I should cut my dose in half. I also learned that my three biopsies showed nothing but benign tissue.

All of this is great news. Dr. 'T' told me that a too high estradiol level could contribute to the pain I'm having. I'm hopeful that decreasing the dose will help alleviate that. I'm happy that I do not need laser surgery to remove precancerous tissue.

Great news, Danya. That's the first time I've ever heard of too high an E level causing such problems. I'll keep it in mind.

My Chicago doctor always tested for E at the end of a weekly injection cycle. My Minneapolis gynecologist tests halfway between injections, to get something approaching an average between high and low values, which makes a lot more more sense to me. I'm relieved to be seeing a new doctor.

Last Wednesday, my gynecologist injected the corticosteroid Kenalog into my vagina. This was to reduce inflammation around the pudendal nerve. Fortunately, she first injected a local anesthetic. The size of the corticosteroid syringe and needle was truly awesome. She had warned me not to look at it, but I did. I'm one of those people who doesn't mind watching drawn blood filling the vial. .

She predicted that the injection would provide substantial pain relief within a week. So far, it seems to have made a small difference but I remain hopeful that in another few days I will have better results. If not, I will call the doctor and emphasize that we need to do more to reduce this pain. For now, I'm still in fairly major pain by late in the day.

Danya (imported) wrote: Fri Dec 23, 2011 10:25 am I'm still supposed to avoid sitting as much as possible.

When I must sit, I need to use some type of invalid cushion. I had been using the inflatable invalid ring I've kept since my April surgery. It was better than sitting directly on a chair but the pain still increased while using it. [Another recommendation, which I stick with as much as possible: dont sit at all! ]

My condition is called pudendal neuropathy. Support sites have confirmed what I noticed. Sitting on a toilet seat is not at all painful. With it, every part of my anatomy involving the pudendal nerve is suspended in air, hence no irritation to the nerve.

I figured if I have some type of toilet seat contraption to take in the car and on interviews, I can avoid pain and further nerve damage. I've tried several options. Yesterday, I came up with the best solution. I purchased an inexpensive toilet seat at Home Depot. After removing the lid, I used masking tape to secure it to a polyurethane foam cushion I had on hand. I had already widened the hole in this to better fit my rear end. Turns out my home made cushion works extremely well. Although it could use another inch or so of foam, it is quite comfortable. The only thing left to do is cover it with an opaque cloth so it looks less like a toilet seat. Perhaps I should leave it as is. It could make a good conversation piece.

I'm meeting with a recruiter at 1 PM today. The location is only ten minutes away and the meeting won't last more than 30 minutes. I expect I won't aggravate my pain much during this time. Especially since I will use my toilet seat tush pain relief device for the drive.

Hey Danya...take it with you to the interview..hehehe...They'll certainly remember you...(sheesh, the lady was carrying a toilet seat)...smooches Jackie

My modified toilet seat didn't work too well in the car, butterflyjack. It was too hard, even when I sat on the foam side. I felt every bump in the road a lot. It might work better if I use a wedge to compensate for the backward slant typical of car seats.

I'm feeling extrtemely discouraged this evening. I called my gynecologist's office this morning and left a message. I told her office that I'm not doing that much better in the week since the corticosteroid injection. I asked what else we might do, including increasing the dose of the anti-seizure medication. A few minutes ago, the doctor's nurse called. She told me that the doctor thought the injection would have given me a large improvement by now. I was instructed to gradually increase the anti-seizure med over the next three weeks. I see her again in 19 days. She will do another injection then. Beyond that, there's nothing else she can do.

Right now, it seems to me that I may get no medical answer to my pain. That is very upsetting.

There are several steps I will take to attempt to improve my situation without medical treatments.

1. I have done a lot of research on this condition. There is a doctor who used to work at the Mayo Clinic and now has a practice nearby. He specializes in my problem. One of his online papers demonstrates that with self-treatment, a number of patients were able to significantly reduce their pain over a period of several months. I will follow his self-treatment guidelines with the hope I will see a similar improvement.

2. I also may try to see this doctor. Without insurance, this may not be an option.

3. Starting tomorrow, I will start to stand for an hour or two at a time as I use my laptop for my job hunt. Although standing is uncomfortable, too, I don't have as much pain when standing. I want to see if I can work up to standing for most of a typical work day.

4. I will continue

Danya (imported) wrote: Fri Dec 23, 2011 10:25 am to avoid sitting as much as possible.

When I do sit, I will use some type of support that keeps my perineum and vulva elevated.

Other medical literature I've come across states that the injections can take several weeks to be effective. Perhaps this will be the case for me, too. I hope so.

Danya (imported) wrote: Fri Feb 18, 2011 1:28 pm This is a very difficult time for me.

I'm taking what action I can to make it better. I desperately want to get back to a more normal situation where I can drive to a job without much pain, sit in a movie theater, and so on. Today, I still don't see how I could hold down a job. That is the major problem.

I don't know if I will continue writing about my chronic pain issue here on EA. In some aspects, it's way off topic for this thread and board. In a few other ways (particulaly in relation to GRS), perhaps it is not. My main concern is that I do not want readers to think my life is dominated by pain. For now, that seems to be the case even to me. At the same time, I realize I cannot allow my pain to rule my life. I'm working on learning effective ways to cope and live as normally as possible, while hoping I find an answer for long-term relief or a substantial reduction in pain.

I have been in severe pain most of the day, after a period of weeks in which my pain has been declining. As is typical for folks with this condition, the pain is usually much less in the morning and increases as the day wears on. For the first time, it was already bad when I woke up this morning. An hour ago, I gave in an took oxycodone.

This increased pain level may be a result of sitting on my modified 'toilet seat tush cusion' for nearly an hour last night, even though I felt fairly comfortable. One thing I have learned is that women (men can have pudendal neuropathy, too) often experiment with many sitting aids before finding the right one.

Today, I stood while working on the computer for over 3 hours. While standing, my pain lessened but was still fairly intense.

To help me get through this time

Danya (imported) wrote: Sat Jan 29, 2011 2:21 pm , there are a number of things I

can do. One of these i keeping in touch with friends. I am doing a bit of this by writing here.

Hello, Danya! I am very glad to have the opportunity to communicate with you again. I am definitely sorry to hear about the pain troubles you have been experiencing. I hope you are able to find a way to overcome this. Even though this pain is a significant burden in your life right now, I do realize that you are about much more than pain and look forward to reading more updates regarding all areas of your life!

plix (imported) wrote: Sun Jan 15, 2012 11:12 pm Hello, Danya! I am very glad to have the opportunity to communicate with you again. I am definitely sorry to hear about the pain troubles you have been experiencing. I hope you are able to find a way to overcome this. Even though this pain is a significant burden in your life right now, I do realize that you are about much more than pain and look forward to reading more updates regarding all areas of your life!

Hi plix,

It's great to hear from you! I have taken charge of my pain, to the extent possible. So I'm being very proactive in doing whatever I can to reduce it as much as possible. Some of the steps I have taken include: (I know this is not very interesting , and I first thought of putting this in the Q & A format pioneered by our very own Graylayer, then realized it might be considered plagiarism )

1. Finding better fitting (less binding in the crotch) underwear. These must be all cotton. I found some women's 'boy pants' that are better than my usual panties, but they're still not good enough. Any material touching my 'sensitive' parts sets off unpleasant nerve impulses. I may yet switch to men's boxers! I'm not ecstatic at this thought, but if they help reduce my pain so be it.

2. I constructed a new seating device made out of pool noodles and duct tape. I got the idea from a support site. It doesn't look pretty, but it works fairly well. To think that until last week, I had never heard of pool noodles.

3. Today, I stood at the computer for 5 hours with little pain. Hooray!

4. After reviewing my earlier 'pain' posts, some emails and info on support sites, I concluded I am experiencing a pain 'flare.' I think this is good news! It was very painful driving from Chicago to Minneapolis, but that pain subsided after a few days. It returned after I drove around one day for 7 hours going to interviews. Now I know better. At least I think I've learned my lesson. Flares can be brought under control, although it can take many weeks.

So what else is occupying your time besides this incessant need to write about pain?? (Oops! sorry Graylayer )

I have resumed taking photos. This isn't something I enjoy much during Minnesota winters, but it is a bit of good news.

Last week, I applied for a job at a company I probably don't want to work for and I didn't think I was well qualified for the job. Now they want a phone interview! What's a girl to do??

I'm glad you are doing well, plix.

I am very sorry to hear that you have been experiencing so much pain. I hope you can find some sort of relief very soon. Have you tried Botox injections in the pudundal nerve yet? http://www.pudendal.info/

Wishing you a speedy recovery, Jessica

JessicaH (imported) wrote: Mon Jan 16, 2012 1:21 pm I am very sorry to hear that you have been experiencing so much pain. I hope you can find some sort of relief very soon. Have you tried Botox injections in the pudundal nerve yet? http://www.pudendal.info/

Wishing you a speedy recovery, Jessica

Thanks for writing, Jessica, and for your good wishes.

Danya (imported) wrote: Sun Sep 26, 2010 1:20 pm It's always good to hear from you.

My pain is not nearly as bad as it was several weeks ago, and I am being very cautious to avoid aggravating things.

I spent some time today trying to find success stories treating pudendal neuralgia (PN). Support sites I've visited are good, although they leave me wondering if anyone finds relief. So I was glad to find a doctor that says if this is treated early, chances are very good the condition won't become chronic and, potentailly, disabling. I first saw my gynecologist within days of having this current major pain flare in early December and roughly a month after my drive from Chicago. So I remain very hopeful that, with time and continuing medical and self treatment, I will be fine. I'm keeping in mind that an expert in treating PN states that self-treatment can be very effective over a period of months.

I've read mixed reviews for the Botox injections. But then it seems like all treatments get mixed reviews. Up to and including surgical correction. This is a difficult to treat problem, something that I try not dwell on. I need to be upbeat and not get discouraged. Stress can also contribute to worsening symptoms.

Hi Danya...Your last few posts have been encouraging...Keep at it...smooches jackie