I am currently 19 and I want to get castrated as soon as possible, should I wait to see if I change my mind or not. I have wanted to be castrated for a very long time and if I could I would go back in time and get castrated when I was 14.
also does anybody have any recs for surgeons willing to perform orchiectomy, preferably female because of my past experiences but male works fine.
When should I get castrated
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Re: When should I get castrated
There is no need to rush, since everything is fine with your health!
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Re: When should I get castrated
Try to get rid of this obsession...
Take up, for example, travel, sports and other activities that interest you.
And also, of course, by studying and acquiring a profession (after all, you need to earn a living).
Take up, for example, travel, sports and other activities that interest you.
And also, of course, by studying and acquiring a profession (after all, you need to earn a living).
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Re: When should I get castrated
It's a good question, and one I'd say you should work on with a therapist. Even though I'm pretty firmly set on pursuing a trial on hrt with the ultimate goal of orchiectomy & scrotectomy, talking with my therapist about it has been incredibly rewarding and helpful. She's really helped me in thinking through what I truly feel about what I want, in a way that gives me a greater degree of certainty that I'm genuinely making the right choice for me and not just going off on a goose chase that I'll wish I could take back someday. I suspect that, given your strong feelings now, you know yourself and your needs pretty well, but if you're still questioning to some degree, talking with someone may be valuable to you.
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Re: When should I get castrated
I've said this 1000 times if not more... If the gender of the surgeon is relevant to you, you're seeking the procedure for the wrong reason.
Go see a therapist and talk this out.
Go see a therapist and talk this out.
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Re: When should I get castrated
Looking at the first post, I'd say that if you feel that you have to ask if you should wait, the answer is probably "YES"... However given that you also say it's a long standing desire, further exploring the idea is certainly justified...
A 'test drive' of chemical castration certainly wouldn't hurt if that is an option in your country.
I'd agree 100% with LT that if the surgeon's gender is a major concern it probably is best to hold off until you've figured things out with a therapist. (Unless possibly if it is because you have a general preference for female doctors for all care, since you mention bad experiences w/ male docs)
One of the 'tests' that I have seen many mention is what are your fantasies about - are they about the actual procedure, or are they about what your life will be like as a eunuch? From my personal experience the procedure is about as thrilling as a colonoscopy (without the "cleanout") or other minor outpatient surgery, so fantasies about it suggest that you aren't really ready... If you are more focused on life afterwards, maybe you are...
If you were in the US (or Europe) I'd say to go to your nearest trans-gender center, but I don't know if those exist in your country, or how to get gender affirming care w/o getting lumped in with the hegira (assuming you don't want to be...)
Good luck wherever your path takes you...
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A 'test drive' of chemical castration certainly wouldn't hurt if that is an option in your country.
I'd agree 100% with LT that if the surgeon's gender is a major concern it probably is best to hold off until you've figured things out with a therapist. (Unless possibly if it is because you have a general preference for female doctors for all care, since you mention bad experiences w/ male docs)
One of the 'tests' that I have seen many mention is what are your fantasies about - are they about the actual procedure, or are they about what your life will be like as a eunuch? From my personal experience the procedure is about as thrilling as a colonoscopy (without the "cleanout") or other minor outpatient surgery, so fantasies about it suggest that you aren't really ready... If you are more focused on life afterwards, maybe you are...
If you were in the US (or Europe) I'd say to go to your nearest trans-gender center, but I don't know if those exist in your country, or how to get gender affirming care w/o getting lumped in with the hegira (assuming you don't want to be...)
Good luck wherever your path takes you...
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Re: When should I get castrated
I am already taking spironolactone so I fantasize about what happens after the surgery. unfortunately I am not in the west.
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Re: When should I get castrated
Why don't you start with chemical castration first....just to be sure..it's a very pleasant feeling if it's the right thing for you,,,at that point you can make an informed decision..and it's also easier to obtain
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Re: When should I get castrated
I'm going to be blunt because I've dealt with this kind of thing for over 20 years now, which if I've read your profile correctly is longer than you've been alive.
1. You're asking strangers on the Internet if you should get castrated and when. We're not the ones who should be making this decision for you, YOU MAKE THIS DECISION FOR YOU. FULL STOP.
2. You've made a statement which indicates the gender of the surgeon doing this for you is relevant. If that is a relevant characteristic to if you'll do this or not, then you'd be doing it for the wrong reason if you did.
FULL STOP.
3. You're in India, I'd think it relatively simple to get castrated there considering it's home to the Hijra community. "I'm not in the west..." isn't a meaningful impediment to having this done there. Seems people are having it done fairly routinely there, even with legitimate medical help. If I can sort this from the chair I'm sitting in on the other side of the world, surely you can figure it out locally.
Now for what it's worth, you seem to have doubt. And if you have any doubt whatsoever, my opinion is you should wait to do it, or not do it all.
1. You're asking strangers on the Internet if you should get castrated and when. We're not the ones who should be making this decision for you, YOU MAKE THIS DECISION FOR YOU. FULL STOP.
2. You've made a statement which indicates the gender of the surgeon doing this for you is relevant. If that is a relevant characteristic to if you'll do this or not, then you'd be doing it for the wrong reason if you did.
FULL STOP.
3. You're in India, I'd think it relatively simple to get castrated there considering it's home to the Hijra community. "I'm not in the west..." isn't a meaningful impediment to having this done there. Seems people are having it done fairly routinely there, even with legitimate medical help. If I can sort this from the chair I'm sitting in on the other side of the world, surely you can figure it out locally.
Now for what it's worth, you seem to have doubt. And if you have any doubt whatsoever, my opinion is you should wait to do it, or not do it all.
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Re: When should I get castrated
What is your concern about maturing too much? Is it that you want to retain certain features of your youth and believe that castration will preserve them? Or do you believe that the removal of your testicles will have a psychological effect that acts as a "brake" on some aspect of your persona and outlook on life?
I have to weigh in with others here. This doesn't resonate as thought out. This isn't just a procedure, it is a fundamental and irreversible alteration to the remaining journey of your life - which has not yet been lived long enough in maturity to give you the benefit of hindsight to guide you. With all due respect to you, you still have absolutely no idea of what direction your life will take, what choices you may want to make, what life is going to dish out to you, and what is going to be important to you down the road.
Just as a personal example (not to bore you) my own journey has gone from being straight and married, to gay, to celibate; from successful executive to being homeless; to living in humble stability and sustaining myself through manual labour; from being a high-performing athlete to being crippled with a broken body and multiple chronic illnesses; from being a lifelong atheist to Christian faith being the most important thing in my life and seeking a vocation in the church.
Not as a lecture, but as an example - throughout your life you will have no idea of who you will be from one year to the next. You may have a trend of continuity for a few years, but then, boom, something changes.
Best of luck in your journey.
I have to weigh in with others here. This doesn't resonate as thought out. This isn't just a procedure, it is a fundamental and irreversible alteration to the remaining journey of your life - which has not yet been lived long enough in maturity to give you the benefit of hindsight to guide you. With all due respect to you, you still have absolutely no idea of what direction your life will take, what choices you may want to make, what life is going to dish out to you, and what is going to be important to you down the road.
Just as a personal example (not to bore you) my own journey has gone from being straight and married, to gay, to celibate; from successful executive to being homeless; to living in humble stability and sustaining myself through manual labour; from being a high-performing athlete to being crippled with a broken body and multiple chronic illnesses; from being a lifelong atheist to Christian faith being the most important thing in my life and seeking a vocation in the church.
Not as a lecture, but as an example - throughout your life you will have no idea of who you will be from one year to the next. You may have a trend of continuity for a few years, but then, boom, something changes.
Best of luck in your journey.