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Happy Birthday Erica!

Thank you for all your support and encouragement during our shared gender journey.

Terri

Hi all,

Time for an update:

Still going to work as a male-ish eunuch; on weekends, I'm unambiguously female. Doesn't present much of a problem emotionally -- I've been doing well. There are some drawbacks: since I don't want to manage two genders in one day, I curtail some activities on weeknights ...

Hi everyone,

Thank you for the warm birthday greetings! Thank you, Tugon, for your sweet message. Today was very enjoyable.

As far as how things are going: I'm doing fine, with no wild mood swings and only occasional angst. But I'll post in the next few days to fill in the details.

Thanks again ...

Hi everyone,

Although going to work as a nominal male this week, had this experience:

While meeting some out-of-town contractors at a customer's site, one of them said (with a warm/friendly smile), "When we heard your name months ago, we simply assumed you would be male..."

[Rather than being a ...

Hi all,

I'm a bit frustrated: the "remission" didn't last. How do I know? Among other things, unexpectedly started crying while soaping up Mr. Penis in the shower this morning.

Feels like I've been living on the ragged edge lately. Been going to work as a nominal male (more like a male-ish eunuch ...

Dear Diary,

Think I received a key insight into my gender issues yesterday. It came after a 2-3 week stretch of reduced cross-gender feelings in which I:

Cut six inches off my hair. (Was getting tired of long-hair care/trouble.)

Sent a "I'm-a-eunuch-not-a-transsexual" letter to parents and ...

Hi Jesus (EA's Jesus),

Thank you for your kindness in the outpouring of resources! I'm particularly taken by Richard Wassersug's writings, like this one (http://jco.ascopubs.org/cgi/content/full/27/4/634) and the linked article at the bottom of Wassersug's "coming out" story (http://www.psa-rising ...

Congratulations!

I have kept reading your blog looking for the day when you would find employment again. This is indeed good news!

Happy for you,

Terri

Hi everyone,

Today is somewhat special: it's the one-year anniversary of changing my name and getting a female driver's license. Hooray.🎈

Reflecting on my transition, I see that I'm not aiming for full integration into female society. Rather, I've reached a "good enough" state where I pass as ...

Hi Danya,

Regarding Illionois Secretary of State policy about changing the gender marker: The physician letter merely has to state that a transition is in process (starting RLE, for instance). My letter reiterated the S.O.C. requirement for a 12-month full-time period in the new gender role, then ...

Hi EricaAnn,

Happy birthday, sweetie!

I'm one of the lucky ones because the two of us live so near to each other. Your friendship means a lot to me.

Got you a kitty for your birthday:

(And kitty left a present for you in the bag. She made it herself.)

Terri

Hi everyone,

Making an update since today has been a relaxing holiday.

...
The public men's rooms frequently have only one stall while the women's rooms have several stalls.



Hi Mac,

Not only that, the seat of that one stall in the men's room probably has some pee on it. Speaking as a "shy ...

Thank you so much, everyone, for the warm wishes. 👥 Yes, I had a good day.

And thank you, Tugon, for remembering and getting things started. 👯

Guess it's time to chow down and enjoy some cake. The image kind of reminds me of the Midwest MOM 2-1/2 years ago when we were heading to the restaurant ...

Hi everyone,

Happy to oblige, Mac.

I've been thinking more about identity. Seems like there is a blind spot in our culture regarding gender and I want to "think outside the box" -- think outside the concepts available to our culture.

First, I have to acknowledge that my transsexualism was brought ...

Hi everyone,

Sorry it's been so long since the last update. Not only was I WAY TOO busy at times, also didn't want to give you the same short-term ups and downs as in previous posts. Thanksgiving Day provides a well-needed break and an opportunity to reflect.

Why so busy? Not only was I taking two ...

Hi everyone,

Today on Terri's Diary we are serving up a big steaming plate of DIVORCE!

When spouse got wind of my name and gender change, she called to say, "That's it. I'm filing for divorce." I wonder why she waited so long. It's not like the GID showed any signs of going away.

Received the ...

Hi Hairless,

Yes, Erica recalls correctly. When I started taking estrogen, the continuous "GID loop" in my mind -- the obsessive thoughts about gender -- eased considerably. I was able to think low-priority, non-gender-related thoughts once more. Prior to starting estrogen, my brain was consumed ...

Hi Hairless,

Nice to hear from you again! Been thinking about you. (Hate to admit it, but there was something in me which wondered, "Was Hairless able to beat this GID thing while I couldn't?" Misery loves company, and you had left us behind.)

As for the marriage thing: In my case, it's been an ...

Hi all,

Things are going very well, and I'm doing great emotionally. Just want to give a short update.

I've gone thru a legal name change and have also changed the gender marker on my driver's license to 'Female'. This is a HUGE step! It means my transition is now 'official' and in the public ...

Hi everyone,

In case you are wondering, I'm doing great these days! The "treatment" (i.e., transition) really works. Suicidal thoughts aren't a problem any longer. I'm content to go on living, and life is actually quite enjoyable.

Now -- if you recall -- my previous diary entry ended with a ...

Hi all,

I've been feeling a new sense of assurance/peace about my state as a cross-gendered person, and about undergoing transition. Why is that, you ask?

Readers of this diary know I have puzzled long and hard about how I came to be cross-gendered in 2004 -- without ever coming to a definitive ...

Hi all,

Why is my avatar gone? Now that I'm on a solid path toward establishing a new identity as female in my local area, I don't want to ruin my chances by outing myself via this diary. (Maybe those new TV commercials warning youth about telling too much about themselves on the Internet are ...

Just updated my diary. Here's a link:Terri's latest post (http://www.eunuch.org/vbulletin/showthr ... post120138)

Terri

Hi all,

It's been a long time since my last post. How am I doing? Great!

It is as though being female has finally "clicked" with me. My attitude is so good that I signed up for a class at the local community college to improve job skills. Prior to this I've had zero professional ambition; simply ...

Thank you everyone for the kind birthday wishes. Thank you, Tugon, for starting the thread in the first place. (And thanks go to EricaAnn for alerting me by phone that this thread was in existence!)

I'm still alive and kicking, and definitely having more good days than bad.

Regarding posting: I ...