Use of chastity cages as castration

[wanasoso2]

We may have the possibility to exchange on this topic. I remember a user in the EA2 about last summer or fall, testifying about the fact that he was looking for castration after years of chastity. Is he here now, I don’t know.

I discovered male chastity a few years ago and while in consultation with my sex therapist the topics came into the discussion. She told me that the use of chastity cages was consistent with psychological castration. At that time, I didn’t use them very often (the adaption curve is long) but from the more consistent use in the last six months I felt what she really meant.

I have to say that my use is basically to control masturbation and is rather oriented towards an attitude of castration compared to couples who use the device more as a sexual play or domination/submission. In this context, I must say that I feel it nice not to feel my cock while it’s trapped in a small cage (about one inch or less, depending on the model I use). I associated the “non feeling” of the penis and the serious reduction of erection to some kind of castration. Which could relate to the psychological castration explained by my sex therapist.

Although it’s very different by the fact that all my T is still there and my sexual drive active but not seeing and feeling the penis for days, and recently for weeks, brings in a strange feeling of wellness without it. Much less desire to play with it, considering it absent from my live. I think I’m experiencing an entry into the psychological castration. Is it possibly an adaptation step toward the complete fixing? Maybe.
Has anyone experienced something similar?
The discussion is open

[dandelion]

I'm curious about how you keep it clean? I suppose you'll have to take it off once a day at least when you shower?

Also how do you urinate? Do you use one of those cages that have a small catheter that inserts into your meatus? Have you had any urinary tract infection from using it?

And what about morning woods? With T still in play, I suppose you would still have that physiological reaction? Does it hurt?

[WheelyFixed]

Interesting question, thanks for asking it!

Most of the posts that I recall seeing about cages seemed more focused on the frustration / denial angle, and from a sex play / BDSM standpoint.
While the inability to play with it and / or get an erection, etc. certainly were mentioned, I didn't see it discussed as 'psychological castration', rather more as denying the ability to do a desired thing... (FWIW the same applies to most of the stories in the FA to the extent one can consider them as reflecting reality)

I'm also not getting the idea of 'non-feeling' - I no longer play with mine or do anything with it other than urination (catheterization) and hygiene / adjustment, as between being fixed and my injury it's about as thrilling as pulling on one of my fingers; but I'm very conscious of it or at least that area - I seem to get more awareness of that area than anywhere else below my injury level.

Not saying you or your shrink are wrong, but I have some trouble with understanding how you are describing it.

However I am looking forward to any other replies and discussion.

WheelyFixed

[Bibiballs]

Hello

Few years ago I've read a study about the use of male chastity device. It was written in French. 130 pages...

« Sexualité masculine contrôlée » : clé du désir ?
Le concept de « chasteté » : représentations, motivations, usages et effets du contrôle de la sexualité et de la cage de chasteté sur la vie sexuelle et affective

You maybe find it on the web.

[no-balls]

« Sexualité masculine contrôlée » : clé du désir ?

That was a fun Google. Perhaps I should learn to speak French to fully understand what Google's AI just told me.

[wanasoso2]

I'm curious about how you keep it clean? I suppose you'll have to take it off once a day at least when you shower?

Also how do you urinate? Do you use one of those cages that have a small catheter that inserts into your meatus? Have you had any urinary tract infection from using it?

And what about morning woods? With T still in play, I suppose you would still have that physiological reaction? Does it hurt?

For all the type of cage that have an open structure, actually those in steel, it's easy to get clean in the shower with soap and water pressure that goes through the open spots. There is also plastic cages that are open enough to ease the cleaning process. The one I wear nowadays is plastic with an honeycomb structure and after three days of shower I didn't open it, maybe tomorrow. Of course all closes cage must be open and wash more often if not daily.
I do have cages with catheter but I'm not at the level of confidence to use them for now. It's really a concern that urinary tract infections are easy to catch with this kind of device. Uninate is easy, there is a pee hole at the tip of the cage but you must be sitting because sometimes your pee hole is not perfectly in the right position and it's messy.

The morning woods it a major concern for chastity. It can pull hard in the ring and the pressure is transferred to the balls. With harder erection it can make strong Shaffer pain and some burns on the scrotum. One needs to get accustomed too and it can take a lot of time. For myself, my skin and my body is getting more and more adapted to it and my morning woods gives me only a small "donnuts" at the base of the ring, noting that pulls hard on the ball. and they go away as fast as they come. That's maybe some privilege of older age.

[wanasoso2]

Interesting question, thanks for asking it!

Most of the posts that I recall seeing about cages seemed more focused on the frustration / denial angle, and from a sex play / BDSM standpoint.
While the inability to play with it and / or get an erection, etc. certainly were mentioned, I didn't see it discussed as 'psychological castration', rather more as denying the ability to do a desired thing... (FWIW the same applies to most of the stories in the FA to the extent one can consider them as reflecting reality)

I'm also not getting the idea of 'non-feeling' - I no longer play with mine or do anything with it other than urination (catheterization) and hygiene / adjustment, as between being fixed and my injury it's about as thrilling as pulling on one of my fingers; but I'm very conscious of it or at least that area - I seem to get more awareness of that area than anywhere else below my injury level.

Not saying you or your shrink are wrong, but I have some trouble with understanding how you are describing it.

However I am looking forward to any other replies and discussion.

WheelyFixed

Thanks Wheely for your comments.
You're right many chastity practitioners belong to BDSM or D/s behavior and other sex play, but for myself, I'm more castration oriented. Which means that by controlling my erection, by not seeing my dick and not having access to it I feel it less. About the term "psychological castration" I use it from my discussion with my sex therapist but she didn't explain it to me in details and it was for me a vague concept until recently when I had this feeling of being castrated while I was caged. As for this morning, not really feeling my dick, except for the vague sensation of the cage and belt, it putted a smile on my face. Those a great mornings.
Also when my penis in not caged it is tucked all days and this stands for the last two years. I like the feeling of a smooth bottom. Otherwise when I'm in chastity I use the smallest possible cage to get rid of most of my dick. This way I push away the temptation to play with it all the time, at breakfast in the night and so on. It's in this behavior that I feel "castrated" even though I know that the absence of T is the "real thing" to get fixed. For now the guys that have been castrated to adapt to their sexless spouses are my mentors. I admire them.
I hope that those lines make my feeling better understood.

[wanasoso2]

Hello

Few years ago I've read a study about the use of male chastity device. It was written in French. 130 pages...

« Sexualité masculine contrôlée » : clé du désir ?
Le concept de « chasteté » : représentations, motivations, usages et effets du contrôle de la sexualité et de la cage de chasteté sur la vie sexuelle et affective

You maybe find it on the web.

Thank you for the information, I'll have a look at it. I do have read the e-book of Sylvia Labiche and also on the web you may find in English "Restart intimacy A Unique approach to male chastity" by Sierra Parker. There is also a lot of information on the web on the topics.

[wanasoso2]

« Sexualité masculine contrôlée » : clé du désir ?

That was a fun Google. Perhaps I should learn to speak French to fully understand what Google's AI just told me.

Have a look at Sierra Parker on the web, see my other post for the title. Also the blog of Sara Jameson. Sierra is more on the psychological side of the couple dynamics while Sara is more on the D/s relationship. For myself I prefer Sierra parker.

[no-balls]

Have a look at Sierra Parker on the web, see my other post for the title. Also the blog of Sara Jameson. Sierra is more on the psychological side of the couple dynamics while Sara is more on the D/s relationship. For myself I prefer Sierra parker.

I'll do that. Thanks for the advice. While chastity is not something I'm capable of submitting to, understanding the dynamics of denial help me understand the path I've taken to genital nullification. Curiously, having another person responsible for the key to my cock was something that gave me peace. I wasn't supposed to be male unless he allowed me to be male brought me to the acceptance that I didn't want to be male.